What children and teens post online – and how parents should monitor their– have been of major concern since the early days of the World Wide Web. And while issues like and are still important to address, teens aren’t the only ones who sometimes make questionable decisions online.
Researchers are now turning their attention toward parents, and ways that some moms’ and dads’ online posts about their children may inadvertently cause harm. Even something as innocent as sharing school photos on social media could have consequences you might not have considered.
In a study being presented today at a national conference of the American Academy of Pediatrics, pediatrician Dr. Bahareh Keith and law professor Stacey Steinberg look at the potential ramifications of what parents are posting about their kids online. And they offer some guidance for how parents can share safely, and with their kids’ well-being in mind.
“Online sharing offers many positive benefits to both parents and children and to communities as a whole, but this message is all about finding a balance,” Steinberg told CBS News. “A parent’s right to share and the benefits of sharing is very important and by exploring this we can find a way to allow families to connect online but also to respect children’s privacy.”
After a thorough review of the medical and legal research, they found two main areas of concern when it comes to parents posting about their kids on social media.
The first issue is safety.
“Our guidelines include things to be cognizant of, such as using caution before sharing your child’s location or personal details to protect against identity theft and child predators, and also things that you can do in terms of protection and prevention,” Keith said.
Nicole Gibson, a mother of two young boys, aged 2 and 6 years old, takes this issue very seriously. “This year I decided not to post a first-day-of-school photo with a sign of my child’s name, school, grade, teacher, etc.,” she told CBS News. “I also made sure when I posted a picture of him at the bus stop that I didn’t show the street sign. I take these photos for me to have personally, but I always try to think before I post if it’s related to my kids.”
It could be tempting information for a neighborhood bully, a predator, or a scammer seeking easy.
The researchers suggest parents should also familiarize themselves with the privacy policies of the sites where they share information, and set up a notification to alert them if their child’s name appears in a Google search result.
Another area of concern is the potential for photos that may initially seem innocent getting into the wrong hands. “[In our review] we unfortunately saw some reports out there of children’s photos being shared on pornographic websites,” Keith said.
The researchers recommend never posting pictures that show children in any state of undress – those adorable splashing-in-the-bathtub photos are precious parental memories, but they shouldn’t go online.
Aside from safety, another area of concern is the child’s right to privacy. And it’s not just about photos.
For example, while sharing information about a child’smight be helpful to parents, it’s something the child will likely not want to be public when they get older.
“Of course this is a very great thing for parents to do when they’re looking for a support system,” Keith said. “We found one psychology study that looked at social media being a sort of third community for parents with very positive effects, but unfortunately, this is definitely something that’s a very sensitive subject.”
She and Steinberg suggest parents share anonymously if they choose to post about their children’s behavioral issues.
Finally, as most children’s first digital footprints are now created by their parents, the researchers caution that parents should stop and consider their children’s privacy and how their posts might affect them in the long run.
This is something Kate Carlson, mother of a 16-month-old daughter, considers quite a bit.
“My daughter is only a year and a half, but I’m still pretty thoughtful about the pictures I post of her and the things I write,” she said. “I see a lot of people who share everything, which is OK I guess, but personally I prefer to share family photos from vacations or her out playing on our farm. I’ve given some thought to the idea of ‘would she even like me posting any pictures of her at all?’ I’m not sure.”
The researchers recommend refraining from posting anything on social media that might have long-term psychological or emotional effects on children.
A few extreme examples have made headlines in recent years. For example, in 2012 a video of a man shooting holes in his teenage daughter’s laptop after she posted disrespectful comments about her parents on Facebook went viral.
And in 2014, in an attempt to teach her 12-year-old that she was too young for social media accounts, a Colorado mom made her daughter pose with a sign that read: “Mom is trying to show me how many people can see a picture once it’s on the internet.”
While these examples are extreme, Keith notes that such public shaming can be “extremely detrimental to the child.”
Other personal posts can be down right embarrassing for children as they get older.
Just last month, an Australian newspaper reported that a teen isof her early childhood – including potty training photos.
“Some of the consequences [of embarrassing posts] are very real and can lead toand kids being made fun of, and as they grow older can come back to haunt them in different ways,” Keith said.
She offers a basic rule of thumb to filter potential online posts about kids: “If you’re about to share something about your baby or your toddler, envision them being a 13- or 14-year-old adolescent and think ‘would they want me to share this? Is this going to affect how they feel about themselves?’”
Finally, once children are old enough, she recommends giving them “veto power” before images or posts are shared about them.