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Can Your Daughter Take A Compliment?

Blogger Michelle Cove wrote about this question on Huffington Post on Monday after, she says, her third grade daughter and her daughter's friends "lost all ability to accept a compliment. If you told one, "Hey, congratulations on your science project," she'd respond, "Thanks, but did you see Christine's? It is amazing!"

She wrote about other things she'd say to the girls only to have them respond in a way that deflected or negated the compliment. Cove says this is a reaction as old as time, stemming from our innate desire to fit in and not stand out -- in a good way or a bad way.

Renee Engeln, a professor of psychology at Northwestern University, explained the rules of fitting in in this article she wrote for Today.com Health. She writes: "Believe in yourself, but never admit it out loud, lest you make another woman who doesn't feel good about herself feel bad. If you're raised to think it's arrogant to ever say something positive about yourself, it makes it hard to accept a compliment."

This morning on Good Day we're asking people to compliment themselves. What do you think is your greatest quality? Leave your comment in the comment area below.

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