5 Things To Remember When Giving Your Kids A Summer Sports Pep Talk
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Last weekend, more than 200 Michigan kids had what some might call the experience of a lifetime – to join fitness experts on the field at Comerica Park for the Detroit Tigers Kids Opening Day, sponsored by Blue Cross Blue Shield of Michigan.
As summer youth baseball leagues get into full swing, the Healthier Michigan team is here to share some reminders for parents who will be cheering their little leaguers on this summer.
The term "pep talk" alone begs good vibes. Sometimes parents may feel frustrated when their child messes up or makes a mistake. But as an adult, it's important to remember that you are the experienced person in that situation. It is also important to recognize what is working and help your child learn from their losses.
Here are some tips to keep in mind for the next time you need to give your son or daughter a pep talk:
Use positive phrasing: Rather than saying "Don't strike out," try "Remember all the things we practiced." Avoid words like, "stop", "don't" and "no." Phrasing things positively better guides children to do their best.
Speak calmly, but be present: The most effective pep talks aren't given by yelling, but rather calm yet strong words. Be present and speak to them in words and phrases that they understand, which helps keep their attention.
Show validation for various emotions: Let your child know that it is ok to feel upset after a loss. Try saying, "I know that it is hard to lose sometimes, but you did your best." Kids need to remember that sometimes teams win and sometimes teams lose. Help them understand how both their teammates and opponents feel after a victory or defeat. The shared sentiments sometimes provide some insight.
Be selective and specific: Target things that your child is doing well and give them pinpointed encouragement. For example, instead of saying "You did well today," try mentioning a highlight of the game. For example, "Did you see coach's face after your hit? He was very proud of you."
Listen: Don't just talk to your kids and expect it all to sink in. Listen to their feelings, problems and goals. If they are happy, let them express it. If they are sad, see how you can help their emotions rather than simply projecting your own. We all need a little encouragement from time to time.
Still stumped on how to give your kid a good pep talk? Check out Kid President. He adds humor and a fresh perspective on the subject.
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This blog post is part of #MIKidsCan, an initiative created by Blue Cross Blue Shield Michigan to promote positive change in the health and well-being of Michigan youth. For more information as well as kid-friendly tips on nutrition, exercise and wellness visit www.ahealthiermichigan.org/mikidscan.
