- The "real peopleâ€ are made up. Anecdotes are great for illustrating a point. So we learn that "Bobâ€ and "Janeâ€ learned to communicate well and now their marriage is all better! Um, yeah. Real life is messy, and using composite characters, or those with the details changed, are just other words for fiction. Which has its place, but is always suspect in a genre that claims to be true.
- They promise that change is easy. "We want three easy steps to overhaul our financial life, or washboard abs in 60 seconds a day,â€ Whelan says. "But here's the unpleasant truth: Behavioral change is among the hardest things we can set out to do, and any book that promises you instant changes is selling you snake oil.â€ Put it this way. If changing our lives was painless, you'd see a lot more svelte, rich and happy people walking around.
- There's probably no evidence. Most self-help writers aren't in the business of documenting whether their ideas work for the majority of people who try them. "There's no efficacy data on the vast majority of diet self-help books,â€ Whelan says. "Who knows if positive thinking actually cures people. But self-help books use rhetoric and repetition to prove their points.â€
For her new book called Generation WTF: From "What the #%$&â€ to a Wise, Tenacious, and Fearless You, Whelan had her students test drive advice from the books that didn't suck, and had some interesting, actual real-people results. One student re-established contact with her grandmother a few days before the grandmother passed away. Another analyzed his TV time logs and decided to get more sleep instead. One reduced her text messages from a record 267 per day to 10.
So change is possible. It just isn't easy.
What's your favorite self-help book?
- 4 Words You Should Never Say
- Fighting the Email Addiction
- Want to Use Your Time Better? Act Like a Dieter