I couldn't believe my eyes. Just minutes after explaining how it's all the complainers that "keep dysfunctional workplaces flourishing and multiplying like amoebas in a Petri dish," I come across an entire article dedicated to blaming everyone else for our own issues and problems.
It's not some frivolous post, either. It quotes studies and experts and all kinds of stuff that, get this, blames everyone else for stressing us out, causing us to gain weight, making more money than we do, giving us a nasty attitude, and even wrecking our marriage.
Granted, there are a couple of points that make some sense, but for the most part, the article amounts to a license to blame everybody and his brother for all our shortcomings and play the victim instead of taking responsibility for our own success, happiness, and well-being.
Here are the "10 Things" from the article, in italics, and my take on each one:
- "You're the most stressful part of my day." For anyone who thinks everyone else causes their stress, I've got news for you. First, it cuts both ways. Second, you create most of your own stress.
- "It's your fault I can't squeeze into my skinny jeans anymore." Now we're blaming office birthday cakes and cookies for our obesity epidemic. You're kidding, right?
- "Stop being such a bully." While I agree that bullying is bad, I've found that lots of people who complain about bullies are themselves, bullies. Why? Dysfunctional people don't see themselves the way others do.
- "I'm sleeping with the boss." Not advertising this is pretty much a no-brainer, I would think.
- "I hate you because you make more than me." This is nothing more than jealously and sense of entitlement run amuck. In all likelihood, there are very good reasons why people make more than you do.
- "We trash you behind your back." That's right. Instead of doing your job and accomplishing your goals and objectives, you should worry about what people say about you behind your back. Now that's a new take on workplace productivity.
- "You're wrecking my marriage." Working around people of the opposite sex wrecks your marriage. Please tell me this isn't on a Wall Street Journal site.
- "That nasty attitude is rubbing off on me ..." Sounds like an excuse to act out, if you ask me.
- "... And your good attitude makes me hate you." Either way, you can't win.
- "You're disgusting." This suggests people should worry about getting a "nasty staph infection" at work. Wow, better hope you never end up in a hospital.
Also check out:
- Keep Your Emotional Baggage Out of the Workplace
- Want to Be Successful? Don't Play by the Rules
- How to Deal With a Bad Boss - Don't!
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