As gender roles change, are men out of step?

Are men in crisis? 07:02

"Overall I think that for women to contribute economically is a good thing for men," Mundy said. "It gives men within marriage more choices. They don't necessarily have to go into a career they're not interested in just to be the breadwinner, just to be the wage earner. They're not going to be judged simply on their ability to generate a salary."

Case-in-point: New Yorker Matt Schneider, who dropped his career some years ago to stay home and care for his two sons - while his wife is at the office.

"To me this is a great time to be a man, because we've opened up the definition of what a man can be," he said.

The number of stay-at-home fathers on the rise - more than double since 1994.

Schneider even founded a support group for them.

"There's an expectation that we're going to fit into a certain mold," Schneider said: the mold of breadwinner. "But to kind of go to the other direction and say I'm not going to be a career person, I'm going to stay at home with my kids full-time seems to be some kind of monumental decision for a lot of people."

But Schneider, a former teacher, doesn't think that dropping the old stereotypes somehow will magically end the struggles of boys, especially in school.

When asked why he thinks the gender discrepancy exists in education, Schneider said, "Our schools have been geared towards kids who can sit still for long periods of time, who can focus on a subject for long periods of time, and those are all good things. But especially for young boys - kindergarten age, first grade boys - to sit still for more than 10 minutes isn't a reasonable expectation."

Dean Delahunty said, "Right now, what do we reward in the K-12 system? We reward self-control, communication, verbal and written communication, expressiveness. These are all qualities that girls are really good at . . . are generally better at than boys."

It's a big reason Delahunty wrote her op-ed, hoping to focus national attention on the plight of boys, as we all try to sort our way through society's rapidly-changing roles.

When asked what her thoughts were in the context of Father's Day, Delahunty replied, "Well, if I were going to speak to the fathers of high school boys, I would say, 'Teach them honor, self-management, responsibility, model it for them.'

"Let's throw 'boys will be boys' out the door. It doesn't serve us anymore."

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