What's In A Name?

If you're struggling to find the perfect name for your baby, listen up; Suelain Moy, author of "Names to Grown On", has some tips for finding baby's perfect moniker.

Before you and your partner even begin to think about a name, have a serious conversation about the type of name you'd like. Some people prefer traditional names and others want something more unique. Be sure you are both on the same page. "Make a pact and an agreement that you're going to pick a name that both of you love," says Moy. "I often tell couples, start with a list of names that you actually hate and despise and loathe and work your way up from there."

Also, be flexible. Your husband or wife may have had their heart set on a name since they were in middle school, but that same name my bring up harsh memories for you. For example, if your wife loves the name Patricia Susan but your cheating ex-girlfriend was named Patricia, speak up. "There are many ways to pay tribute to a person or to a name," say Moy. You don't have to use the exact same thing. Try alternate spellings or look for similar names.

For instance, consider using other names that start with the letter P, like Paula or Paige, or shorten the name to something like Tricia or Pat. You can also try names with similar endings like Maria or Olivia. You may stumble upon a name that both of you love.

If a friend or relative chooses the same name for their child, though, don't give up. It isn't the end of the world. "Your Timmy or Ted or Julia - they're going to be yours and different from anyone else's," says Moy. "Don't think of it as a proprietary thing so much as this is an expression of love for our child and this is the name we want to give them."

Once you've found the perfect name, though, it's up to you when you want to share it with the world. "I think it's actually a good policy to keep quiet on this one," says Moy. Sometimes parents change their minds about a name once they see their son or daughter in person. Strangers can also be very critical of names, especially if their taste differs from yours. The important thing is to find a name that you love and can hear yourself yelling out from the bottom of the stairs at dinner time every night.

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By Erin Petrun