Jennifer Garner opens up to Vanity Fair about Ben Affleck split

Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck arrive at the Oscars on February 24, 2013 in Hollywood, California.

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Jennifer Garner is finally breaking her silence nine months after separating from husband Ben Affleck. And yes, she has some opinions about that whole nanny thing.

Last summer, Affleck seemed to be getting cozy with the family's nanny, Christine Ouzounian, following the couple's split. "We had been separated for months before I ever heard about the nanny," Garner told Vanity Fair. "She had nothing to do with our decision to divorce. She was not a part of the equation. Bad judgment? Yes."

Affleck's love life isn't the only area Garner is happy to be a bit catty about in the lengthy interview. She also has some thoughts about his new tattoo covering his entire back. "You know what we would say in my hometown about that? 'Bless his heart,'" she said. "A phoenix rising from the ashes. Am I the ashes in this scenario? I take umbrage. I refuse to be the ashes."

Criticisms aside, Garner is quick to sing the praises of the father of her children. "I didn't marry the big fat movie star; I married him," she said. "He's the love of my life. What am I going to do about that? He's the most brilliant person in any room, the most charismatic, the most generous. He's just a complicated guy. We still have to help each other get through this. He's still the only person who really knows the truth about things. And I'm still the only person that knows some of his truths."

But for all the nice things she has to say about her ex, Garner doesn't want anyone holding their breath for a reconciliation -- even if she understands the impulse. "When Jen Aniston and Brad Pitt broke up I was dying to see something that said they were getting back together," she admitted. But while she's definitely going through with the divorce, she won't be dating until that's done. And when she does date, she'll be keeping it old-school. "I want flowers; I don't want to text," she said. "What does that make me? What kind of dinosaur am I?"