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Comedian Beth Stelling posts about abusive ex

Comedian Beth Stelling wrote that she was abused by an ex-boyfriend on Instagram.

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Comedian Beth Stelling, who has performed stand-up routines on Comedy Central and late night shows, told fans that even with an "amazing" 2015, she had some extreme low points with an ex-boyfriend of hers.

Stelling posted a photo on Instagram of her legs and arms with bruises all over them, and alleged that her unnamed ex "verbally, physically abused and raped" her.

The comedian wrote that at first, she kept the abuse under wraps because it didn't seem "appropriate" and didn't want to ruin her ex's reputation.

"There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear," she wrote in the caption that accompanied the photo collage. "Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this."

Stelling said that even after the abuse, she dated him for two more months, and initially decided to honor his request to keep quiet.

"I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family," she said in the post. "I wanted to move on and forget because I didn't understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life."

Stelling added that she has already received words of support and solidarity -- specifically, from an ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend, but also from strangers.

She wrote in a later post, "I am experiencing a massive amount of love and support for which I am grateful to you all."

Same girl in all of these photos (me). I've had an amazing year and you've seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue. You may be weirded out but do read on. I have a point. There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn't have, but there are no "best practices" with this. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it's not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn't seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It's embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It's not simple. After I broke up with him he said, "You're very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you're talking about." And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn't understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny. So now I'm allowing this to be part of my story. It's not my only story, so please don't let it be. If you live in L.A., you've already started to hear my jokes about this and I ask you to have the courage to listen and accept it because I'm trying. Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity. An ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend came to me and shared that she experienced the same fate. Then there was another and another (men and women) who shared other injustices at his hand that..

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