MINNEAPOLIS (WCCO) -- Everyone wants the picture perfect life, but the souls behind the smiles usually contain flaws and that's OK, according to a local love architect.
Kailen Rosenberg says you are the foundation of your own love house. Her outlook on relationships and how she grew to be one of Oprahs' go-to experts is what makes Rosenberg this week's Minnesotan to Meet.
"People hear my stuff and if I can walk through it and get to a good place, they can, too," Rosenberg said.
As a love architect, Rosenberg's focus is on your first. She's considered an expert because her own journey wasn't so simple.
"I went to 23 different schools growing up and didn't graduate from high school until later online," Rosenberg said.
Minnesota was home, but the roof over Rosenberg's head wasn't always a constant.
"My mom was a very free-spirited hippie, trying to find herself. My grandparents raised me on Lake Minnetonka but were older and when they were ready to move to Florida, I, actually went into St. Joe's (foster care)," Rosenberg said.
By her early-20s, Rosenberg was married, divorced and starting an entirely new journey.
"I started a business as a single mom," Rosenberg said.
It was self-imaging, or what Rosenberg calls "life design before it's time." And then it morphed.
"It was this amazing snowball from people who wanted to hear about love and relationships and how to do it better on a different level than they had ever experienced before," Rosenberg said.
Rosenberg received her master's certificate from the University of St. Thomas in love, life and relationship coaching, which allowed her to work with married couples as well as singles.
"Teaching them to love themselves independently, then love each other and then let hopefully get that energy out to the rest of this world so we can just be kinder to each other," Rosenberg said.
That idea opened up new doors, including writing a book, giving relationship advice in magazines and being tapped by Oprah for a show focusing on only love in one American town in Georgia.
The result: it turns out love is contagious!
"No matter who we are or where we come from on this planet, we just want the same thing. We want to feel safe. We want to feel love. We want love and connection with each other," says Rosenberg.
Rosenberg practices what she preaches. After working through her relationship issues, one night out on the town turned into forever.
"I met my husband at First Avenue. Yes, so you can meet people at a bar and it's OK," Rosenberg said.
They are celebrating their 13th wedding anniversary and are raising three boys, who might be embarassed to bring someone home to Rosenberg.
"It's the worst," Rosenberg said. "I read everybody, I'm the buzzkill mom and I'm trying to work on that."
It proves that even the love architect can see cracks in her foundation from time to time. But don't let that discourage you. As Rosenberg says, we all deserve a blue print to get to the house.
For a count on marriages versus divorces: 300 marriages, only one divorce that her office is aware of.
Rosenberg's book, "Real Love, Right Now", is available on Amazon and Barnes and Noble. She calls it a 30-day blueprint for finding a soulmate – and much more.
Her services are often in such high demand with successful people, so sessions can cost in the tens of thousands of dollars.
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