Now, I'm sure most of you are pretty opinionated. But before you answer yes, no, or it depends, consider this. You probably play by more rules than you think -- or should. Some of them are even rules you impose on yourself, and for reasons you may not be aware of. Those are the ones that tend to be the most career and success-limiting.
You see, rules fall into three general categories: legal, societal, and self-imposed.
Legal rules are pretty black and white. America's a nation of laws, and the rule is don't break them. Just to be clear, we're talking criminal and civil laws. That trips up a lot of people who mistakenly think fraud, discrimination, domestic violence, harassment, even downloading copyrighted material or rolling through a stop sign, are ethical or moral issues. They're not.
Societal rules involve complex issues like ethics and morality, so they're far more subjective than legal rules. Even if you feel strongly about one thing or another, there are likely circumstances that would change your opinion.
For example, I generally don't fault people who cheat on their spouses, but I might feel very differently when the person being cheated on is someone close to me. Similarly, while I think people should treat others with respect, I know I fall short of that ideal all too often.
So, you can see how societal rules are subject to perspective and circumstance. These are rules that from time to time we may break, feel badly about, realize that we're human, and ultimately forgive ourselves -- even while those we harmed may not.
Now, let's talk about self-imposed rules. They're the kind of rules you hear again and again in every workplace. I hear them in many of your comments and emails, as well:
- "I won't compromise my principles to climb the corporate ladder."
- "I don't play politics at work."
- "That's outside my comfort zone."
- "Life is too short to work with a**holes."
- "I won't work for a boss who, at a job where, or at a company that ___________ (fill in the blank)."
- Nobody has to compromise principles to climb the corporate ladder. You may, however, have to sacrifice a great deal, including some of your own personal needs and wants, in favor of those of the company's customers, shareholders, and employees. So, maybe you're not principled so much as selfish, afraid to give up that much control, or afraid you might fail.
- As for playing politics, show me a workplace where everyone sings Kumbaya and gets along like peas in a pod and I'll show you, well, Utopian BS. It doesn't exist. And those who say they don't play politics are usually the most political of all.
- Whenever you hear, "that's outside my comfort zone," it's actually code for "that's something I'm scared of." While it's human to be afraid, it's not a good thing to be unaware of it.
- As for not wanting to work with a**holes, I've got news for you, those who are fond of saying that are usually the biggest a**holes of all. Some casually toss that term around as if it's some kind of absolute. The truth is that we're all a**holes some of the time. Half the time you're the a**hole and the other person is just reacting to it. And one person's a**hole is another person's spouse or best friend.
So, back to the original question, should you play by the rules? Legal rules, absolutely. Societal rules, it depends. Self-imposed rules, never. Not if you want to have a successful management career.
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