The Art Of Flirting

Do you think it's possible to find the man of your dreams in just six weeks?

Elle magazine's advice columnist, E. Jean Carroll, says you can, and she explains how in her book "Mr. Right, Right Now."

To test her theory, The Early Show found two women willing to follow her plan. They just completed week one of her plan.

Lirone and Tracy attended a party packed with men at a New York hot spot,
the Cellar Bar at the Bryant Park Hotel, so Carroll could judge their guy-chasing styles. And she found plenty to talk about.

Carroll says the girls man-catching styles need some work. "Obviously offensive Missy Elliott-style players. I would love to have them temper that with a little mystery, to pull back a little bit and not be so crazy about pleasing the men. Back up and just not care what the male beast thinks," Carroll tells The Early Show co-anchor Julie Chen.

Tracy agrees her style at the party was actually aggressive. She says, "It was very easy to be a little saucy and extroverted."

Lirone, for her part, says, "I find that I'm generally pretty open and not shy at all. But I felt a little bit nervous at the beginning. Like I felt like I wanted, not please them, but make everyone comfortable. It was a little awkward for two men."

Wanting to please men is what Carroll calls "the kiss of death." She explains, "The minute you want to have men think a certain way, they will varnish the floor with you. You just simply cannot care what men think."

That does not mean to keep them guessing, or to be mean or to be indifferent. She says women just need to be themselves, but not care what men think.

Carroll also notes, at the party, Tracy and Lirone did not circulate around the room enough. They also talked too much to guys that they were not interested in.

"The male beast is hard-wired for the chase," Carroll points out. "The more obstacles you put in front of them, the more he burns to overcome them. Because they stood in one place like they were duct-taped to the floor, they couldn't. They had to talk to everybody much longer than they needed to, to keep everybody happy. No, a real man-catcher...would have walked in, looked around, choose a couple of guys you like and then just take them away."

The advice columnist says when you are interested in a man, pull him aside and talk to him. Lirone and Tracy never pulled any man to the side.

Carroll notes, "They didn't have to stay and entertain all 257 guys. If they had walked away with two or three of the guys, the other guys would have been, 'Ah.' You would have been five times more fascinating."

But she does think that both women are very good at using body language to express themselves.

She says, "They do almost everything right. These two girls are really, really good. What they really do good is they say just enough to make the man say more."

For the women's next homework assignment, the two will need to get into shape by working out around men. Both ladies are in shape, so Carroll says they just need to tighten up a little to raise men's heartbeats and stop chaps in their tracks by whittling the girls' waists at the batting cages, de-flabbing their upper arms at the driving range and shaping their calves at the hockey rink.