Last Updated Jun 10, 2011 3:43 PM EDT
Dattner argues a culture of blame does the following:
- It derails careers. According to the Center for Creative Leadership, an inability to give proper credit and handle the powerful toxic issue of blaming others is a driving factor in careers going off track or off the cliff;
- It wreaks havoc on your emotional state. Two psychiatrists at the University of Connecticut consolidated 22 studies on the impact of blaming others and found that when individuals blame others, in 77 percent of cases they suffer emotionally and physically;
- It makes you inflexible. Noted psychiatrist George Vaillant showed that people who projected or blamed others for their misfortunes were less able to adjust and adapt to changing events;
- It clouds your judgment. Numerous studies show Westerners consistently over credit themselves for everything from how much they have contributed to group efforts to their skill at public speaking. Business leaders and entrepreneurs often make poor decisions because they tend to blame outside forces when things go wrong, and assign too much credit to their own gifts when business is going well.
Dattner argues that the tendency to "track credit and blame is hardwired by evolutionary psychology," as fear triggers people's unconscious to protect their status by shifting unwarranted attention from themselves to external threats. When these primal fears are stirred up, the parts of our brain that think and plan long-term tend to not work so well.
Dattner cites an executive client who was paralyzed with resentment about her boss not giving her more recognition and a better title. Dattner's client thought her boss was keeping too much credit for the work they did together and rarely offered public praise. Dattner helped her see that the boss' stingy feedback had more to do with his personality than his views of her performance, and that a raise in pay would do more to advance her longer-term career goals. Her boss agreed to the raise, and Dattner's client no longer worried so much about credit.
How to Break the Vicious Cycle
People who enjoy their job or who lead high performing teams and organizations have learned to how to foster collaboration and problem solving, without the finger-pointing.
To make this shift, the author suggests the following:
- Never start or spread rumors about blame;
- Deliberately share credit with difficult colleagues or direct reports--this reduces paranoia and fear. If necessary "overshare" credit to break a cycle of finger-pointing;
- Fight "attribution error" in evaluating whether a superior or peer is targeting you for blame or criticism--that is, separate the person from the job they are performing;
- Find out how others see you. Ask colleagues if they think you're assigning credit--or blame. Are you holding yourself to the same high standards you expect others to follow?
- Adapt BNET blogger Marshall Goldsmith's tactic of offering more "feed forward" than feedback when evaluating performance and direct reports--focus less on past behavior and more on suggestions direct reports should take for future action.
- Fight groupthink: when your team is going to make a decision, have team members reach independent decisions before convening to discuss or present those judgments to you. Assign devil's advocates for key decisions to make sure your team thoroughly considers alternative explanations.
- Get and keep people who don't throw others under the bus--pay attention to how job candidates discuss blame and credit in interviews and the hiring process;
- Reward direct reports who step up to take blame when merited, and show how they have learned for the future.
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