Next month, comedian Kumail Nanjiani and his wife, Emily Gordon, may be in the Oscar spotlight, provided one of the winning envelopes holds the name of their movie, "The Big Sick." Lesley Stahl of "60 Minutes" has a story of art imitating life:
"Welcome to our home," said Emily Gordon. "We should warn you: We're getting a little bit of work done. It's a little messy." Hence, the cardboard.
Gordon and her husband, comedian and actor Kumail Nanjiani, have had their lives turned upside-down.
"All new furniture, new kitchen stuff," said Gordon.
"Are you learning something?" asked Stahl.
"Yes. We're getting all new furniture, new kitchen stuff," laughed Nanjiani.
"He's just repeating what I'm saying," Gordon added.
The upheaval forced them into an Airbnb in Los Angeles, where, watching television, they first learned that they had won an Oscar nomination for writing "The Big Sick" about their love affair.
"And then he said our names and we screamed and cried," Nanjiani said. "We were like, 'Oh, my gosh. You're nominated for an Oscar!'"
"So are you!" Gordon said.
They'd never written a movie before, but decided to try and tell the basically true story together.
"It's sort of your typical boy-meets-girl, boy-keeps-girl-secret-from-family-because-he's-supposed-to-get-arranged-married, and then she-gets-really-sick-and-has-to-be-put-into-a-coma story! You know, that one."
The movie begins as their real romance began: Kumail was doing stand-up in a Chicago comedy club, and Emily (played in the film by Zoe Kazan) heckled him.
"Your meeting -- as they say, you met cute -- is in the movie," said Stahl.
"Yes; Kumail made a joke on stage and asked, 'Is Pakistan in the house?' I just woo-hooed as if I was from Pakistan. [And he said,] 'Really? You're not from Pakistan. I would have noticed you.' Which is a good line."
At the time Gordon was working as a therapist; Nanjiani, a Pakistani immigrant stand-up comedian.
Gordon said, "One thing that happened in the movie that we changed, the Kumail in the movie writes Emily's name in Urdu and kind of presents it to her, and Emily in the movie is like, 'Uh, this move. I bet you use this on all the girls.'"
"Whereas Emily in reality fell for that so hard! And I did not realize until months later that he had done that with several other girls!" she laughed.
"I wasn't, like, a player or anything, but I had done that before," Nanjiani said.
Kumail was accepted to Grinnell College in Iowa, so in 1997 he moved -- cold turkey -- from loud, over-crowded, teeming Karachi to, well, the Middle of Nowhere.
It was total culture shock. Raised in a devout Muslim family, he had yet to shake a girl's hand.
Stahl said, "So, this girl sticks her hand out to say, 'Hi' … what do you do?"
"Oh, my God. I'm gonna do this," he replied.
"The girl's like, 'And we're in love now,'" Gordon said.
"Yeah. Okay. So let's set a date!"
He said he was terrified the first time he got up in front of an audience, during his senior year of college.
What was his subject? "I remember one of the jokes I did. It was about how I always wanted to have a unit of measurement named after myself, 'cause it was what all the cool scientists had -- Joule, Kelvin. 'Turn the torpedoes up to five Nanjianis!' 'Five Nanjianis? That's way too much power. Most people can't handle one Nanijiani!' And then I would go, 'Hey.'"
"You would go, Hey?" laughed Gordon. "Oh, my God!"
"Now I know why you like her," said Stahl.
"She laughs at all my stuff!"
In 2009 Kumail went from Iowa to Letterman ["My name is Kumail, but Microsoft spellcheck thinks it should be 'camel'"], and on to a starring role in HBO's "Silicon Valley."
Last fall he hosted "Saturday Night Live":
"My fantasy is when someone's racist to me, I want danger to befall them immediately -- and then I want to rescue them, just to see the confused look on their face."
Kumail rarely told political jokes, until President Trump and the Muslim ban.
He told Stahl, "The point is Muslims are complicated people like everybody else. Not all Muslims are good; not all Muslims are bad, just like all people."
"That was part of what was important in the movie that we want to show, like, just a Muslim family," said Gordon.
"Muslims having fun!"
At the heart of the movie is the issue of Kumail's family not wanting him to marry outside the faith.
As his mother commands, "There is only one thing we ever asked for you, Kumail: That you be a good Muslim and you marry a Pakistani girl. That is it, one thing!"
Stahl asked, "How did you ever tell them about Emily?"
"Well, it happens the way it kind of had happened in the movie," Nanjiani said.
In the movie, as in real life, Emily almost died. While her doctors tried to figure out what was wrong with her, they put her in a medically-induced coma for eight days.
Nanjiani rarely left her side: "[My parents] called and I just answered and I think I was just too tired and I think I just cried on the phone and I said, 'I'm really sorry to tell you this, but I've been dating this girl and she's in a coma right now. She's very, very sick.' And my mom's initial reaction immediately was like, 'Is she gonna be okay? What's going on?'"
"And she knew that she was not a Pakistani Muslim?" asked Stahl.
"Yeah. I said that her name was Emily."
"And that was the first giveaway?"
"Pretty good tell, yeah," said Emily.
"Yeah. And then it wasn't until, you know, I called them and I said, 'She's awake. She's gonna be okay!' And that's when my mom got upset at me. She was like, 'How could you do this to me? This is not OK. Either you guys break it off or you just have to get married to her.'"
"She said that?" Stahl asked.
"'Marry her, and then we can accept her."
Stahl spoke via Facetime to Kumail's dad, Dr. Aijaz Nanjiani, a psychiatrist in New Jersey:
"When we saw Emily, the warmth that she emitted, and the lovable personality that she had, she absolutely captivated us," he said.
Stahl asked, "So tell us what happened when you saw the movie, and there was your life, in a way."
"We loved the movie. In fact, on two, three occasions, I was in tears and my wife was just nudging me and making fun of me," he laughed.
Nanjiani recalled, "When they put Emily in the coma, as literally the moment that she went under, I remember looking at her and saying, 'If she comes out of this, we're gonna get married.' And I know it sounds made up and it sounds dramatic…"
"Well, it's a little, a little creepy," Gordon laughed.
"It's a little creepy," he agreed. "I would've asked you. I wasn't gonna do it while you were under!"
They got married, at City Hall, three months after Emily left the hospital
"It's a good thing, right?" asked Stahl. "The two of you?"
"Yeah," she replied.
"It is," Nanjiani added.
"We're good. I'm glad we found each other."
"It's such a strange experience to go through something like this. Where you make a movie about yourself and have it do well, your life changes," Nanjiani said. "So it's good that we have each other to go through that."
"Yeah. We take turns kind of freaking out," Gordon laughed. "We try not to freak out at the same time!"
"It can be very overwhelming, so we try to coordinate: 'Yeah, you can take Tuesday, But right now, I'm gonna spin out!'"
For more info:
- "The Big Sick" is available on Blu-ray and DVD, and via streaming on Amazon