In order to get through a weekend or extended visit, both sides should follow some very basic rules to make things run smoothly. After all, the visit of a good friend or relative should be an enjoyable experience for everybody.
Mary Mitchell, author of The Complete Idiot's Guide to Etiquette, spoke about some of the issues during a visit to The Early Show Tuesday.
|BEING A GREAT HOUSEGUEST|
- Communicate openly with your host and observe the "house rules."
- Don't assume that pets, children and lovers are invited.
- If you are traveling with a lover, ask about the rules of the house when it comes to sleeping arrangments.
- If it's a no-smoking house, smoke outside.
- Never come empty handed.
- Be financially responsible for yourself and whoever you bring with you.
- Always clean up after yourself and assist the host with daily activities.
- Leave your electronic gadgets (laptop and beeper) at home.
- Do not overstay your welcome. Mitchell advises hosts: "If a guest is staying too long, you just have to kick them out."
- Always send a thank-you note and a gift.
|BEING A GREAT HOST|
- Invite your guest properly, with a written invitation and enough advance notice.
- Communicate clearly with your guests.
- Tell them when they should arrive and how long they should stay.
- Ask them if they have any specific needs for the visit.
- Tell guests about planned events or activities so they can come prepared.
- Provide comfortable accommodations.
- A guest should have an alarm clock, reading lamp, extra pillows and blankets, closet space, hangers and drawer space.
- The guest bathroom should have clean towels, wash cloths, toothpaste and toothbrush, shampoo and conditioner, and an unused bar of soap.
- Be ready to assume most of the financial responsibility of the visit.
- Plan for some down time.
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