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Translating What Your Teen Says

Are you constantly wondering why there are so many misunderstandings between you and your teenager?

The Early Show has the answers Monday morning. Lara Fox and Hilary Frankel, both 18, are the experts. They are the authors of "Breaking the Code," a book that seeks to bridge the gap between parents and their teens.

When they were 16, they got the idea to give parents advice on how to communicate with their teens.

Their intention, they tell parents in their introduction, is to provide a "guide to what teens really hear when you speak, and how you can make them hear what you are actually trying to say."

"Basically," Hilary Frankel tells co-anchor Rene Syler, "Most parenting books are written by psychologists or other adults. They take educated guesses on what a teenager is thinking to help parents. Lara and I started talking about well, who is really the expert? Wouldn't it be better just to ask a teenager what a teenager is thinking?"

The book, Fox says, is a reflection of the good relationship they have with their parents.

"We are able to talk openly about what went wrong and how to fix it," she says. "Of course, they recognize that they're in there as well and they have faults and we have faults. We've been able to work through it."

There are four things that parents need to avoid saying to their teens: