Sheryl Sandberg pushes women to "lean in"

Why aren't more women in leadership positions? Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg tells Norah O'Donnell women need to learn to "lean in"

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Dave Goldberg knows a thing or two about closing a deal. He's already sold one Internet company to Yahoo and is now running what looks like another big success. He embodies one more piece of advice his wife has for women who want to succeed, but it has less to do with the boardroom than the bedroom.

Sheryl Sandberg: Everyone knows marriage is the biggest personal decision you make. But it's the biggest career decision you make, if you're going to have a life partner, who that partner's going to be.

Norah O'Donnell: Well, that just puts more pressure on women.

Sheryl Sandberg: It's more pressure on women to-- if they marry or partner with someone, to partner with the right person. Because you cannot have a full career and a full life at home with your children if you are also doing all of the housework and child care.

Norah O'Donnell: Doesn't that kind of take the romance out of everything?

Sheryl Sandberg: You know what? It turns out that a husband who does the laundry, it's very romantic when you're older. And it's hard to believe when you're younger. But it's absolutely true. Actually, the studies show this. Husbands who do more housework have more sex with their wives.

Norah O'Donnell: There are studies that show this?

Sheryl Sandberg: Studies that show this.

David Goldberg: I can hear the men running off to the laundry machine right now.

It's hard to imagine that these two are spending a lot of time doing laundry. They are among the richest couples in Silicon Valley. But they insist they split their parenting responsibilities equally, trying to make sure at least one of them is home in time for dinner with their two young children.

Norah O'Donnell: Do you ever feel guilty about not being around for your children enough?

Sheryl Sandberg: Yeah. I mean, I feel guilty a lot. I compare myself to the women who are, you know, at-home mothers with their kids. I think I'm a little intimidated, to be totally honest. And then, I think-- because we all feel a little bit insecure about our own choices -- we get pitted against each other.

Norah O'Donnell: You think most women feel guilty about the choices that they've made?

Sheryl Sandberg: Every woman I know feels guilty about the choices they are making, including myself. In fact, I feel so guilty I wrote a whole book about it.

"Lean In" is more than a book for Sheryl Sandberg -- she's hoping to spark a movement online and in living rooms around the country, where women talk about ways to implement her advice. Sandberg also hosts parties in her own home to counteract what's been called a boys club in Silicon Valley.

But some of the very women she hopes will sign on to her movement have been turned off by her message, saying it's aimed at elite women and places unrealistic expectations on working moms who can't possibly afford all the household help Sheryl Sandberg can.

Sheryl Sandberg: I am not saying that everyone has the resources or opportunities I have. I'm not saying that everyone's husband is going to wake up tomorrow, read a book and start doing his share. Like, that's not what I'm saying. But I am saying that we need to help women own the power they have, learn how to negotiate for raises, get the pay they deserve.

Norah O'Donnell: You know, Sheryl, people are going to say, "Oh she's got a charmed life, She went to Harvard. She's a billionaire."

Sheryl Sandberg: Yep.

Norah O'Donnell: "And she's telling me what I should do?" Do they have a point?