That's the message that hundreds of people - from celebrities to ordinary gay and lesbian Americans and their straight supporters - are sending on YouTube to struggling gay and lesbian youth.
Moved by a recent spate of suicides by teens who were believed to be victims of anti-gay bullying, syndicated relationship and sex advice columnist Dan Savage began the project last month, hoping it would turn into exactly what it is: A destination for gay young people to receive comfort from a variety of perspectives on their Internet home turf.
The project now has a YouTube channel and a website. It is also closely linked to The Trevor Project, which provides free, anonymous counseling to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth in crisis - especially those considering suicide.
It is almost impossible not to be moved by the videos. "Project Runway" star Tim Gunn talks about attempting suicide as a confused teen. Members of New York's Youth Pride Chorus talk about being bullied and ostracized before singing the soul classing "Ooh Child," which promises "Things are gonna get easier." Singer Ke$ha tells bullying victims, "however you are choosing to live is beautiful."
The video messages are unique, but carry common threads. Many speakers talk about growing up in conservative communities and strongly religious households. Many talk about knowing of no other gay people and believing that they were alone in the world. And most talk about finding loving communities, rewarding careers, and life partners - things that they say they could never have imagined during the darkest moments of adolescence.
In one of the most widely-distributed videos not from a national celebrity, Forth Worth, Tex. City Councilman Joel Burns delivers a 13-minute speech to a city council session - in the heart of red Texas - discussing his homosexuality, highlighting the recent teen suicides, and excoriating the schools and officials that have done little to stop the bullying.
The website Gawker declared it "the most touching 'It Gets Better" video you will ever see.".
There are gay people who confess that they were the bullies and people with guitars singing. Cities and campuses (San Francisco, Smith College) are represented. There also is a lot of anger and frustration that the middle and high school years for so many gay youth have not changed all that much since Greenwood was a kid.
"I really, really believed that kids killing themselves over being gay was a relic of another time," Greenwood, a writer and English instructor at Tufts University near Boston, said in an interview. "I mean, it was nearly 30 years ago when I climbed my bridge. I thought that even kids who were bullied now had online communities or other ways of feeling hope about their identities."
Savage, a gay rights activist who also writes books, travels the country speaking, but he knows many towns and schools will never invite him. That is one reason he set up the "It Gets Better" channel on YouTube and asked for video stories, starting with himself and his partner, Terry.
In the first two weeks, the channel has racked up more than a million views, the number of videos has exploded from a handful to 1,000 submitted, comment threads are growing and e-mails are pouring in from bullied and closeted teens.
"We're totally overwhelmed by the response," Savage said. "The most gratifying are parents sitting down at the computer and watching with their kids. So many kids, they're bullied at school by their peers, they go home to homophobic parents who bully them, and then they're dragged to church on Sunday for more bullying from the pulpit."
Sitting in an airport reading about the deaths of Minnesota 15-year-old Justin Aaberg and 15-year-old Billy Lucas, who killed himself in his family's barn in Greenburg, Indiana, Savage knew the power of his own story, his years in Catholic boys schools as the son of a church deacon and a lay minister.
"High school was bad," Savage said. "I was picked on because I liked musicals. I was obviously gay."
His parents came around, however. So did his partner's family in Spokane, Washington, where Terry was stuffed into bathroom stalls and school officials dismissed his parents' complaints about bullying as a natural consequence of being gay. They have been together 16 years and adopted their 12-year-old son, D.J., at birth.
"I didn't think when I came out to my parents in the very early 1980s when AIDS was slamming into the gay community that I would ever be a dad," Savage said in their video.
It has been 40 years since Stephen Sprinkle was in high school. At 58, he rocks gently in an office chair, his trim gray beard and gentle smile offering a touch of Santa Claus in his video. He describes his Christian upbringing in rural North Carolina and his decision to deny himself an "affectional life" as a gay man when he received his call to the ministry in his 20s.
"It made me lonely for a lot of years," he tells his viewers, as he constantly looked over his shoulder and lived in fear he would slip up and reveal his secret.
It was not until he was hired as an assistant professor at Brite Divinity School in Fort Worth, Texas, that he decided to come out "utterly, fully and completely," surviving attempts to have him fired and earning tenure, Sprinkle said in an interview.
Since posting the video, he has heard from several young people, including one so upset that Sprinkle tracked down professional help.
"He's 18. He's a closeted religious person and he told me he was afraid he was going to explode," Sprinkle said. "He kept asking over and over, `Does God hate me?' I said `Heavens, no. God created you beautiful and complete. God makes no mistakes like that."'
Nicholas Wheeler, a graphic designer who grew up Mormon in Idaho, said he no longer thinks much about God. He made his video because he knows that other kids from conservative, religious backgrounds "don't make it out alive. It breaks my heart."
Wheeler, 26, said being gay did not fit into the picture in his head of how his life would turn out. In deep denial for years, he did not come out until 2008, after going on a two-year church mission trip at 20. He had to dismiss his thoughts "of gay people as evil and unhappy."
His turning point came after he moved to Salt Lake City, where he met lots of gay ex-Mormons, and stopped thinking of himself as a sinner. Things are not perfect, but "I'm leaps and bounds happier than I was," he said in an interview.
So is 28-year-old Bruce Ortiz, who works in marketing in Chicago. He tried to kill himself with a bottle of pills as a freshman in college. Healing was slow but steady after he opened up to his parents about being gay. He and his partner just bought a house together and are thinking about starting a family.
Ortiz's video message to young people: "It's not worth the attempt. Just go out there, find your support system, find that support system within yourself, because life does get better."
Dan Savage on the "It Gets Better" Project: