Dr. Phil On Spoiling Your Child

Dr. Phil McGraw has won legions of fans with the doses of tell-it-like-it-is advice he dispenses daily on his talk show.

Now he's taking his message to a whole new audience with "A Dr. Phil Primetime Special: Family First," which airs this Wednesday on CBS.

Dr. Phil will be featured on The Early Show on Tuesday, and Wednesday, answering questions and giving a sneak peak at his special.

On Tuesday, he discusses a woman he helps on his special who just can't say "no" to her daughter.

The special is based on advice in his new book, "Family First."

to read an excerpt from Chapter One.

In writing "Family First," Dr. Phil conducted a survey of 17,000 parents. Here are some of the results:

  • One third of parents responding to the survey said if they had to do it all over again, they would not start a family.

    "What they're telling us is they don't feel adequate to do it," Dr. Phil explains. "They don't feel equal to the challenges."

  • Fifty-three percent of parents indicated significant resentment in making sacrifices as a parent.

    "People answered this survey anonymously," Dr. Phil notes. "That's where we get this kind of candor where they say, I do resent that I didn't get to go to college because I wound up pregnant. I do resent that I don't have the freedom because these children absorb time, money, effort and energy. People don't like to talk about that because it's not socially correct to do so."

  • Twenty-nine percent of parents allow their kids to sleep with them, but don't know how to stop it.
  • Forty-eight percent of parents said their own parents had too high expectations and feel this caused high anxiety for them as adults.
  • Parents said their two greatest mistakes were being too lenient and taking out their stress on the kids.

In the book "Family First," Dr. Phil defines the following five factors for creating a phenomenal family. He also talks about them on the show:

  • Factor No.1: Create a Nurturing and Accepting Family System
  • Factor No.2: Promote Rhythm in Your Family Life
  • Factor No.3: Establish Meaningful Rituals and Traditions
  • Factor No.4: Be Active in Your Communication
  • Factor No.5: Learn How to Manage Crisis

He also includes a list of "fun" things you can do to signify that things are going to be different in the house. These "outward" symbols are:
  • Have kids switch rooms
  • Serve dinner in dining room instead of kitchen or bar
  • Paint living room or den a new color
  • Get a different haircut
  • Play music in house instead of constantly watching TV
  • Rearrange the furniture