Arnold Schwarzenegger: Success and secrets

Arnold Schwarzenegger rose to the top in bodybuilding, movies, and politics, and then lost his marriage to infidelity

Stahl: Even after you realized it?

Schwarzenegger: Uh-huh (affirm).

Stahl: Was that-- was that strange?

Schwarzenegger: Very difficult, strange, I mean, bizarre, I mean, everything else. Whatever you want to call it. But it's the best way I could handle it. And it was one of those things we talked about, you know, denial. I kind of put it away and just said to myself, "Okay, I'm gonna put this away. I'm gonna fulfill my responsibilities."

Stahl: How can you put it away? You have a child.

Schwarzenegger: I know, but that's just the way I operate.

Stahl: When you ran for governor, there were charges, all kinds of charges of groping and grabbing women. And Maria went up and down the state and vouched for you. Do you think back on that time and say, "Wow--

Schwarzenegger: Well, I think that--

Stahl: --I got her to do that for me and then I did this to her?"

Schwarzenegger: No, I -- well, two different things. The charges of the groping and, you know, that whole vicious attack had nothing to do with Mildred and had nothing to do with anything else.

Stahl: But she kept saying you were a good man. She vouched for your character.

Schwarzenegger: No, she vouched-- she says, "Look. I know Arnold. He doesn't do those things that you have read. And I am his wife, I know him better than that." You know, end of story.

Stahl: You write that Maria did ask you before the confrontation with the marriage counselor. "Is that your child?" Before then. So you lied to her.

Schwarzenegger: You can say that.

Stahl: She gave up her television career for you. I mean, wow. Was this just the most unbelievable act of betrayal to Maria?

Schwarzenegger: I think it was the stupidest thing I've done in the whole relationship. It was terrible. I inflicted tremendous pain on Maria and unbelievable pain on the kids.

Stahl: Your children.

Schwarzenegger: And-- yeah, exactly. Because I had to tell them each about the-- what has happened and how I have screwed up and--

Stahl: How did that go?

Schwarzenegger: --asked them for forgiveness. Well, it-- they cried. I mean, it - it's like - it takes, you know, it tears your heart out, I mean when you just, you know, have to tell them that.

Stahl: Are you now Joseph's father? In other words, do you see him? Do you do father things with him?

Schwarzenegger: I don't want to go and get into that. But the important thing you should know is, that everyone should know is, that I take care of him and I take care of her. And I fulfill my responsibility and I'm glad to do that.

Maria moved out of the house three months after that counseling session, and has filed for divorce.

Stahl: We've talked a lot about how you put your failures behind you by not looking back too much, by not being that introspective. Are you just moving forward again now? Just plow ahead?

Schwarzenegger: If you would have asked me 10 years ago, five years ago, two years ago, what is the most important thing in my life, I would tell you over and over, it's my marriage, it's my family. So the thing that really meant the most to me kinda fell apart because of my doing. That is something that I will always look back and say, "How could you have done that?"