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September 21, 2005 9:11 AM

Why Waste An Ivy League Education On Mothers? (Or: We're So Glad CBS Didn't Do This Story)

Ivy League educations are being wasted on young women who fully intend to give up their careers someday to become mothers or part-time workers.

That strongly appears to be the unarticulated premise of The New York Times' most e-mailed story yesterday (and still this morning). I am quite certain most of those send buttons were hit in anger, if not fury.

The piece was actually headlined, "Many Women at Elite Colleges Set Career Path to Motherhood." It appeared to be a simple exploration of a trend: that more women now think during their college years that they will eventually be mothers who either don't work, stop working for awhile or work part-time. Increasingly, this article indicates, smart young women don't buy the myth of the SuperMom who does it all or, quite possibly, the careerist who puts professional achievement above all else. That's fine.

Except. And it's a big except: the story strongly implies that there is a raging debate about whether "elite" colleges are wasting their precious resources on mothers. I guess author, Louise Story, is less interested in whether non-elite colleges waste their riches on baby-bearers. Bugger off, Big Ten.

There are so many holes and oddities in this story it's hard to know where to start, so I'll start close to home. At home, in fact.

My wife is both an Ivy League grad and a part-time worker (though you wouldn't know it from the hours she works). Was that Brown degree wasted because she gives her corporate masters three or four days a week, not five? Any objective observer would say that she contributes more to society than I do, though I work full-time. I coach soccer and drive car pool. She is deeply involved in a non-profit, is a room parent at school, volunteers for a gillion other things, cooks for ailing friends and runs a household. Most every husband I know would fare as I do in such a comparison.

And frankly, the same is true of educated mothers who don't work. The idea that their educations are being wasted is really too ludicrous to argue with. Isn't parenting somewhat important? Isn't education a good in itself, with all kinds of intangible social utility? The classic idea of liberal arts is not education for liberals, but education that is necessary for a free people.

I'm writing about this in a journalism blog, however, because the story actually never shows there is any real debate about this alleged controversy -- no real person in the story argues that the Ivies should serve only worker bees. One Harvard dean waxes vaguely philosophic about it. Yet the author ponders possible solutions, like admissions screening.

Perhaps the author was simply trying to dress up a trend story by inventing a non-existent controversy. Or maybe there was some other agenda. I wish I could use more of my education to figure the answer out, but I have to go to work now.

Update:In Slate, Jack Shafer further dissects Ms. Story's story, and it isn't pretty.
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by sacralvoice September 22, 2005 10:21 AM EDT
Dick&Meyer states below: \"really good comments there -- frankly I\'m jealous. This blog is brand new, but what a fabulous conversation you have going on there.\" You need to see that what is being discussed on that blog is near and dear to the people participating. Here, you are asking a lot of questions about how should the media handle this or that. Many of these things are not really important to us. So you aren\'t going to get the enthusiasm you desire. If you really start asking questions about things that truly pertain to our lives, you may end up with a blog like the one you visited. The other thing is if you want to have a news media blog where others of your profession can discuss the issues that face you these days, then it might be good to have two sections. One for those in the same field and one for public blogging about things that really matter to the American citizen. Just an idea.
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by nicu316 September 22, 2005 4:56 AM EDT
I\'m not quite sure where the outrage about the NYT article is coming from. I\'ve read it twice, and it seems pretty inoffensive...some girls at top-notch schools are talking about staying home with their kids, thrown in with a few questions about \"what kind of return do[es society] expect\" from its well-educated women. My question...who cares what others think we should do?? A good education is always worthwhile, no matter what you wind up doing with it. And yes, there are actually some people out there who think you\'re copping out if you drop out to stay home with your kids. Frankly, what they think is their problem. Bravo to these girls for having goals and dreams.
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by oneofmanyusa September 22, 2005 4:09 AM EDT
I think Ivy league schools should screen out rich daddy\'s boys who end up padding the already overstuffed pockets of other wealthy daddy\'s boys. Especially when they do it with the blood of disadvantaged men and women.
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by hellohello8 September 22, 2005 1:20 AM EDT
Of course ivy league educations are not wasted on these child rearing, board serving, vitamin pushing, sun screen applying, helmut wearing supermoms. But honestly, their virtue makes my teeth hurt. It would be better if these balance craving rambo moms offered their services beyond their communities. They are the most over educated and under employed among us. Let them man the TSA. Soccer moms as airport screeners. Does anyone think anything would get by them? Or better yet, have them run FEMA. I can\'t think of a more prepared group to plan for a Category 5 hurricane.
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by dick_meyer September 21, 2005 11:37 PM EDT
jmoos: Thanks for steering to to your blog. Really good comments there -- frankly I\'m jealous. This blog is brand new, but what a fabulous conversation you have going on there. The perspective is very different, focused on the more persoanl balance of work/family than the philosophic/political issue of how education ought to be distributed. You said: \"This is my bottom line: we are still looking for private solutions to public problems and that train left the station decades ago.\" I think I agree, not am not sure. If \"we\" are looking for a public solution to work/life/parenting dilemmas, it ain\'t going to happen in my view. The only solutions are private, though public insitutions can be more or less flexible or accomodating. But if you\'re saying it\'s futile to look for private solutions until the political is changed, we obviously disagree.
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by jmoos-2009 September 21, 2005 9:18 PM EDT
You can read another perspective on this story at DotMoms, a group weblog by and for mothers. The URL is: http://roughdraft.typepad.com/dotmoms/2005/09/choice_or_backl.html
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by molls06 September 21, 2005 9:15 PM EDT
I see this trend as part of a natural pendulum swing. Many of the women in college now are reacting against the way they were raised: being latchkey kids while both parents worked, dealing with their parents\' failed marriages and the moral consequences of the sexual revolution, being inundated with \"gender equality\" lectures/diatribes given by mothers, aunts, professors, the media -- who either believed or gave the impression that women needed to be superwoman (wife, mother, career woman, etc.) or a super corporate-America feminist in order to have any self-respect or matter to society. Nature be damned (and God help the man, poor Larry Summers, or woman who dares to venture otherwise).
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by guitarman639 September 21, 2005 6:50 PM EDT
I don\'t look at this discussion as one whether women should be eduacated or no. Of course they should be! This is a discussion about a private school retaining the right to admit, or bar, prospective students. Unless Yale has comprimised itself in some fashion, which is entirely possible, Yale should retain sole discretion as to whom they choose to educate. I don\'t believe it to be anyone else\'s business.
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by hoarj September 21, 2005 5:36 PM EDT
This piece comes as no surprise as the NYT Magazine had a cover story in 2003 illuminating the phenomenon of women with MBAs, JDs and six-figure jobs \"opting out\" of the workplace. A salient point of that piece was that women had reached a point at which, due to various factors, they could CHOOSE the path they wanted professionally and/or domestically. They had worked, they had achieved and they had had enough. What\'s more, they preferred to devote themselves exclusively to their families than work 100-hour weeks and have nannies raise their children. These college women who plan to eventually leave their jobs are the \"updated\" versions of the women who were detailed in the Magazine piece (who are now in their 30s). That is to say: these girls are riding off the coattails of the women who came before and shattered the \"glass ceiling\" (I actually hate that term) for women in the workplace. That they can even DARE to think about, as early as age 18, \"opting out\" of a career is, in a way, a testament to the progress women have made in not doing things because they feel that they ought to but because they want to (isn\'t \"choice\" the point here?). However, if these girls are going to grow up to be women who don\'t work, someone is going to have to keep them afloat financially. I doubt many feminist mothers will be pleased that they raised daughters (smart and educated ones, at that) who grew up to depend on rich husbands.
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by jennyde September 21, 2005 12:27 PM EDT
Did you see the Slate article about this? Jack Shafer notes that the article uses several dozen weasel words (many, some, seems) because it\'s not a real story. I hate stories about \"women\" because people think we\'re some sort of blob of people who act like lemmings. Why do news people see us this way? They see minorities that way too. I don\'t see men treated with the same blob stereotype. The other thing I hate about stories like these is that they are about a handful of elite women. Women who go to Ivy League schools are richer than everyone else. The proof is in the stats, go look. Why should we all really care about the anxieties and choices of the most elite, when the world has real problems with real people? The Times revealed itself here, catering to its readership. I\'m out here in Big Ten land, and no one gives a hoot about issues like this.
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