When you think about it, the word "pampering" isn't a very nice one. It implies indulging oneself as one would an infant. That isn't what French women have in mind when they make time for themselves. For many urban French women, luxuriating in the bathtub with exquisite soap is mandatory self-maintenance.
Even if you're having a terrible period or hot flashes in 98 degree heat, or even if you find yourself seated between a supermodel look-alike and a witty Harvard professor with a new bestseller, act confidently.
Believe that you are gorgeous and fascinating. Quiet self-confidence never goes style.
It's better to have 10 items in your closet that fit you perfectly than to have a closet full of fashionable flops. Get to know your tailor. More important, get to know your body and which clothing styles best show off your features. Trends are for teens - and unless you are the parent of one, it may be best to pay scant attention to both.
Never Drive in Reverse
It's not that French women are against cosmetic surgery, it's just that they see the beauty in a woman's face that shows a bit of history and experience.
Think of your face as a rose. As a bud, it is beautiful - that's a young girl. When it blooms, it is beautiful in a different way - that's a woman in her prime. As it ages, it is still beautiful - think of a little bouquet of dried tea roses if you're having trouble here.
In a nutshell, our American obsession with Botox, lip plumpers, fillers and surgeries can be viewed as an attempt to deny our real beauty in the quest to regain something that has pased. And that's not cute at all.
Start Caring for Yourself at a Young Age
Many teens seem to work to destroy their natural beauty by soaking in alcohol-based zit-drying astringents, frying under tanning bed lights, and living on diet soda and junk food in between starvation diets. French girls are taught to protect what they have.
Going to the gym is sort of odd to many French women. Why spend money to walk on a treadmill when you can simply walk nearly everywhere you go? (Especially in urban areas.)
Watch Your Weight
In Paris the pastries are exquisite. Meals are rich. Bread with sweet butter is mandatory. But never, never, never in excess. Small portions are key.
Fall in Love
Love makes you glow from the inside out. Love comes from tight family units, warm, close relationships with women friends, and fulfilling sex lives. Now that's cross cultural.