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CBS/ AP/ November 22, 2010, 1:38 PM

Poll: Baby Boomers Confident About Sex

President Barack Obama speaks in New York, June 4, 2012.

President Barack Obama speaks in New York, June 4, 2012. / AP Photo/Carolyn Kaster

Think you know it all when it comes to sex?

Well, a majority of the baby boomers think they've learned just about all there is to know on the subject -- and more women than men are confident of their knowledge -- according to a new Associated Press-LifeGoesStrong.com poll.

Among people aged 45 to 65, 59 percent of women think they know all about sex, while just 48 percent of men share that confidence level.

"I don't think a single person in the whole world knows all there is about sex," commented Debby Herbenick of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University.

"Women historically have more resources," to learn about sex, noted Jennifer Bass, director of communications at the Kinsey Institute for Sex, Gender and Reproduction.

Herbenick agreed that women use their friends to talk about sex more than men do and are more likely to see a counselor or therapist.

Finding sexual pleasure can be more of a learning process for women, she said, "Women are just more likely to discuss sex in a real way with friends and other women."

But, Herbenick added, the response also raises questions about why people think they know all they need to.

"Does it mean sex is not as interesting as it used to be, is it a lack of interest," she asked, "have they lost optimism about the future of their sex lives?"

The new poll also found that among those aged 45 to 55, nearly half the men --- 48 percent -- complained that their partners don't want to have sex as often as they do, while just 13 percent of women in that age group say the same.

"Men certainly do tend to have higher sex drives, as a whole," Herbenick said, though she noted that some women also have quite high sex drives.

At that age, she pointed out, women tend to be going into menopause, which can have marked impacts on their sex lives, having hot flashes and feeling tired.

There's less disagreement between the sexes between 55 and 65, with majorities of both men and women saying couples can have a strong relationship without sexual activity. Some 59 percent of men at that age, and 69 percent of women, agreed with that.

The AP-LifeGoesStrong poll also found that overall, 28 percent of men and 21 percent of women in the baby boom generation are dissatisfied with their sex lives. That is similar to the findings of other surveys, Herbenick said.

Other findings of the poll include:

- Among age groups, baby boomers are the unhappiest with their sex lives. Some 24 percent say they're dissatisfied, compared with 12 percent of 18-29 year olds, 20 percent of 30-44 year olds and 17 percent of those over 65.

- A majority of female boomers -- 56 percent -- say their sex drive has decreased as they have gotten older, compared with 46 percent of men.

- Seventy-two percent of men aged 45-65 have fantasized about having sex with someone other than their sexual partner at the time, compared with 48 percent of women.

- Among married boomers, 62 percent said they had had sex for the first time with a partner other than their first spouse, while 35 percent said their first spouse was also their first sexual partner. Fourteen percent said they had sex for the first time with their first spouse, but not until after they were married.

- More baby boomer men, 73 percent, than women, 54 percent, said their first sexual partner was someone other than their first spouse. Just 15 percent of women over age 65 said they had sex for the first time with someone other than their first spouse, while 54 percent of men over 65 said their first partner wasn't their first spouse.

The AP-LifeGoesStrong.com Poll of the boomer generation about sex and relationships was conducted Oct. 1-10, by Knowledge Networks of Menlo Park, Calif. It involved online interviews with 945 adults between the ages of 45 and 65, as well as companion interviews with an additional 587 adults of other age groups, ages 18-44 and over 65 years of age. The survey has a margin of sampling error of plus or minus 3.5 percentage points for all adults, 3.9 percentage points for adults ages 45-65.

The survey was conducted using KnowledgePanel, which uses a probability-based design. Respondents to the survey were first selected randomly for KnowledgePanel using phone or mail survey methods and were later interviewed for this survey online. People selected for KnowledgePanel who didn't otherwise have access to the Internet were provided with the ability to access the Internet at no cost to them.

Also, on "The Early Show" Dr. Ruth Westheimer weighed in on the poll's results and shared her thoughts on baby boomer sex:

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chaoscraig says:
Just google
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read that first PDF. It clearly demonstrated that the 5 component of the foreskin are more sensitive then the most sensitive part of the circumcised ***** which is the ventral amputation scar. This should help explain the high incidence of ED and Viagra in the US. Please i encourage every one to do additional research! Circumcision is virtually unheard of in the entire world except for the middle east. Listen to ME! I have about 10 years of research and nothing to show for it but a life time of contempt for my surgical complications!
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tacitus7 says:
Saying that more women THINK they know all there is to know about this subject is not the same thing as their actually having such vast knowledge. They are complacent because they are unaware of the extent of their ignorance, and it doesn't bother them.

I.e., in reality they don't remotely know all there is to know, but they know all they care to know. If they cared more about their husbands than their own convenience, they would be more interested in the topic than they are.
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prargon8473 says:
Sex?? What is that? 62 yr old male, 60 year old wife, married 35+ years, and nothing in over 2 years. And I have no reason to look elsewhere?
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tacitus7 replies:
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Obviously not acceptable. Do you weigh 400 pounds or something? Have you tried seduction? Counseling? The situation you describe is a dysfunctional relationship heading toward divorce, one way or another. I would inquire whether she's interested in celebrating a 37th wedding anniversary, or not. Because I would simply not allow the shutout to persist.
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endrepubs says:
In my conversations with male friends and the women I have known, there is no doubt that men want sex way more than women. Men think about sex frequently and seem to need to orgasm regularly ( as in 3-4 times a week or more with some needing it daily) Most of the women I have known do not crave the orgasm (sex) like that. It is a control game with women (even married women). They know they can 'control' the husband or mate with the amount of sex they provide. How else do women 'rule the roost' so to speak? Women are more interested in the closeness sex brings rather than the actual orgasm. A 'nimphomaniac' is simply a woman with a man's sex drive.
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UForgotPoland says:
Well good to see they are still confident after ruining this country!
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John_Merritt says:
Simple equation. Women are more confident because they can play their sexuality just about anytime. Besides they know what men like. Women vary from girl to girl, and sometimes partner to partner which can make it more difficult for the simple minded male. Women have played the sex card since the beginning of time, if you are lucky you'll get some (even if you are married) and if she says no, listen carefully and considerately. Don't get me wrong, I consider adventure without exploration is waste of time, but I hate games especially when I might being toyed with.
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mecury69 says:
Zzzzzz. Who cares.
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