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CBS/ October 5, 2010, 3:04 PM

Distressed Tyler Clementi Had Sought Room Change

Evidence is emerging that Tyler Clementi tried to get Rutgers University officials to change his dorm room before he took his own life.

Clementi, 18, a promising violinist from Ridgewood, N.J., is the freshman who leaped to his death from the George Washington Bridge after, police say, he learned that his roommate had secretly streamed video of him in a sexual encounter with another man.

There will be a moment of silence Saturday before Rutgers University's homecoming football game to remember Clementi.

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He was supposed to play with the Rutgers Symphony Orchestra Saturday for the first time.

Instead, the performance will be dedicated in his memory, and his chair left empty.

On Friday, students wore black as they signed condolence cards on campus.

Clementi's roommate, Dharun Ravi, of Plainsboro, N.J., and another student, and Molly Wei, of Princeton, N.J., both 18, are charged with invasion of privacy, carrying a penalty of up to five years in prison if they're convicted.

Police say Ravi streamed the video twice - apparently enough, reports CBS News Correspondent Jeff Glor, to make Clementi request the room transfer.

In a Web posting on Sept. 22, Clementi said, "I ran to the nearest RA (dorm residents' assistant) and set this thing in motion. … We'll see what happens. … He seemed to take it seriously. … He asked me to e-mail him a written paragraph about what exactly happened. … I e-mailed it to him, and to two people above him."

Rutgers hasn't said how far that request got but, Glor says, Clementi jumped from the bridge.

On Friday, in the wake of Clementi's death, N.J. State Sen. Shirley Turner introduced a bill that would raise the maximum fine for privacy invasion from $15,000 to $150,000 and would hike the possible prison sentence to five to 10 years from the current three to five. Turner says "severe consequences" are needed in cases like this.

Even if the new legislation passes, officials say, Ravi and Wei would face penalties under the current law.

But Middlesex County, N.J. Prosecutor Bruce J. Kaplan said Thursday that more charges were possible under the state's hate-crimes law.
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soshljustic says:
As far as suicide goes-anyone whom has life, forever has the ability to take his/her own life as they seem fit to do. Life is precious yes. More precious and fragile is the slander and defamation of character that others will do to someone else that will push someone to destroy themselves as in this case, rather than face public humiliation. Recall if you will, we do not live and reside in a Nation of equals just yet, and many people do not allow for the civil liberties of the queer community, therefore it is a hate crime to put it out there for public ridicule and scorn as these two have done to Mr. Clementi and his partner!
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Lucky4ever2 says:
I am only writing because there have been a lot of questions based on Tyler?s suicide. Someone said, give them 3 reasons to why Tyler made the decision to take his life.

1) Tyler was an 18 year old young man; he had only been at Rutgers for a month or a little over.

2) Tyler was adapting to a life at college, a roommate who apparently was homophobic, and having to start over in a new area and new life.

3) Now look at the fact he was a homosexual, did his parents know? Was he the type of young man to be out of the closet? Was he scared about his own sexuality and terrified of the rejection he may have received from family, friends, or acquaintances? Was he struggling with the fact he was different?
For anyone to judge what this young man did is wrong, unless you have been severely depressed in your life, terrified, and traumatized by society, than you may have a right to judge Tyler.
Depression, fear, and being ostracized from one?s circle is very traumatizing for anyone. Young gay men have a difficult time being gay. Anyone who knows a gay person or is gay, are always concerned with how they will be treated in our society. It is not fun for anyone to be left out or judged by society.
NJ has allowed civil unions, but that is not marriage. Laws are not supposed to be based on religious values; the idea of the constitution does state church and state are to remain separate. Federal law is above state law.
Gays and Lesbians need a Federal Law for marriage. NJ is a liberal state and every person needs to have the right to marry whoever they feel fit to marry. We need better laws that will protect gays and lesbians from hate crimes, discrimination, and from being an example like Tyler Clementi. Tyler is the victim here, he impulsively took his own life, but what part of that did his roommate have in it all?
The two 18 year olds who are charged with crime have ruined their lives. What college will accept them? What company will hire them? This is a horrific situation for all parties involved.
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harryhay replies:
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Nicely said. The Tyler Clementi situation is a tragedy for all the young people involved. Let there be no mistake, Tyler was the victim, like you said, and those so ignorant to spew their homophobic vemon here need to be de-fanged.
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harryhay says:
I've read a good number of the postings here and am responding to those with a "religious" bent.To babble on with your biblical nonsense working as your shield offers you no protection. For people like you, your hands are stained with the blood of those who have committed suicide. Your rigid biblical interpretations and limited view of the world cripples your thinking.
The Bible was written by human beings with human foibles. It is not the word of God, but men's interpretations of what they believe to be God's word.
Your condemnation of gay/lesbian Americans is nothing less than ignorant and homophobic.You cause great harm to those who are different than you by your rantings. Change your ways.
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rmvaughn says:
Clearly, you've never shared a room with anyone or just not rational. I graduated Rutgers and lived on campus all four years, Tyler's behavior was not inappropriate, in fact it was and is the norm for a young adult. Besides going to class, studying and partying, sex - having a boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, spouse sleep over and ask your roommate for the room for the night or the weekend, so you can "Get Busy" - is commonplace. Tyler asked Ravi and Ravi agreed to exit the room for a while. Ravi is in the wrong here and will suffer the consequences...I must say if anyone ever taped me doing anything without me knowing - government included - and made the information public there would be utter h#$l to pay. Further, if Ravi had security concerns why did he not alert RU's Campus Police?
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bsharp10 says:
What possessed students Ravi/Wei to broadcast the intimate moments of fellow student Clementi via the internet?!! As this fateful ERROR will haunt them the rest of their lives!
In any event, given the understanding/acceptance of same sex partners in today's western society and beyond. I wish that young Clementi did NOT have to take such drastic measures ... it is very sorrowful. Deepest sympathy to his parents "May his Soul Rest in Peace."
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goirish1974 replies:
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Amen.
papayaaaa replies:
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.....poor kid......
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goirish1974 says:
Does anyone know if Ravi and Wei are still enrolled at Rutgers?
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KennethKrieger says:
The Gay student who killed himself. He had already been taped once and was still having sex again? Was he exerting his rights and flaunting his sexuality on two other very young students. His parents probably did not know, so out of shame for not being like 99% of Americans took his own life. If these other students are just very young people who made a mistake. How many thousand years in jail should they serve. What if having their picture every day over and over for your liberal agenda,causes them to commit sucide before their day in court, is CBS news guilty of a hate crime? We have free speach on this country. The other young person oviously was exercising his free speach by flaunting his sexuality. The other kids exercised their free speach by getting back. Remember socialist CBS, poor Amanda Knox can get another six years in jail for exercising her free speach in Italy. Hate words are different from a hate crime with violence. I think the looney left socialist at CBS news are creating their hate crime. Ken Krieger Cape Coral, Florida
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bobnjersey replies:
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[The other young person oviously was exercising his free speach by flaunting his sexuality. The other kids exercised their free speach by getting back. ]
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that there is some convoluted logic kenny.
stock12 replies:
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How in the world could he be flaunting his sexuality in front of the other students? He was in HIS room and was taped by another student. I would not call that flanting anything. What is wrong with you people that have a problem with people expressing their sexuality? You see heterosexuals expressing it all the time everywhere. I guess with society that is "normal." You know everyone needs to take a good look at the skeletons in the closets.
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terrjudy says:
YES...do NOT speak for me CAB!!
I cannot understand or accept the reason why someone else's sexual behavior in or out of their bedroom has anything to do with me or you or anyone else!! Jesus stood for love and light, if one wants to think Christian, not hate and judgment and disrespect and ridicule. What kind of background/family/religion do you come from? Surely isn't the same as mine. Might be wise to rethink your biased view of the world!!!!
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thetruth65 says:
this is absolutely correct
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thetruth65 says:
Planting a webcam to secretly view other people having sex, without their consent is just plain wrong..( not to mention kind of creepy and voyeuristic) no matter what sexual orientation someone is. There should be stricter penalties for this invasion of privacy. If DR did not want to room with TC, he could have taken appropriate measures through the college to change that. He could have talked to the RA, Res. life...something. Most colleges survey incoming students as to the kind of room mate they would want. To talk about DR being "forced" to room with anyone is just nonsense. TO pull a "prank" like this on someone that they know for only a month is heinous. You can't pass this off as trivial, because you never really know what's in the hearts and minds of other people....especially after only a month of knowing a person.
"Everything gets on the internet" as far as you know, has any of your sexual encounters been posted anywhere???
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