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CBS/AP/ October 29, 2010, 11:11 AM

Tyler Clementi Suicide Sparks Outrage, Remorse

The death of a Rutgers University freshman stirred outrage and remorse on campus from classmates who wished they could have stopped the teen from jumping off a bridge last week after a recording of him having a sexual encounter with a man was broadcast online.

Tyler Clementi, 18, jumped off the George Washington Bridge into the Hudson River last week. His body was identified Thursday after being found in the river a day before.

"Had he been in bed with a woman, this would not have happened," said Lauren Felton, 21, of Warren. "He wouldn't have been outed via an online broadcast and his privacy would have been respected and he might still have his life."

Clementi was a violinist whose life revolved around music, said Ed Schmiedecke, the recently retired music director at Ridgewood High School, from which Clementi graduated this year.

"He was a terrific musician, and a very promising, hardworking young man," Schmiedecke said.

"Musically, Tyler was destined for greatness," childhood friend Mary Alcaro, who played in a summer music academy with him, said Thursday in an e-mail to The Associated Press. "I've never heard anyone make a violin sing the way he did."

Gay rights groups say Clementi's suicide makes him a national example of a problem they are increasingly working to combat: young people who kill themselves after being tormented over their sexuality.

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Clementi's roommate, Dhraun Ravi, and fellow Rutgers freshman Molly Wei, both 18, have been charged with invading Clementi's privacy. Middlesex County prosecutors say the pair used a webcam to surreptitiously transmit a live image of Clementi having sex on Sept. 19 and that Ravi tried to webcast a second encounter on Sept. 21, the day before Clementi's suicide.

A lawyer for Ravi, of Plainsboro, did not immediately return a message seeking comment. It was unclear whether Wei, of Princeton, had retained a lawyer.

Collecting or viewing sexual images without consent is a fourth-degree crime. Transmitting them is a third-degree crime with a maximum prison term of five years.

A lawyer for Clementi's family has not responded to requests for comment on whether Clementi was open about his sexual orientation.

Gov. Chris Christie, a former federal prosecutor, said he would let Attorney General Paula Dow decide whether to prosecute two classmates on civil rights charges. But he sent a warning to students who taunt or pull pranks on others.

"You don't know the feelings of the people on the receiving end of that," he said. "You can't possibly know. There might be some people who could take that type of treatment and deal with it, and there might be others, as this young man obviously was, who are much more greatly affected by it."

ABC News and The Star-Ledger of Newark reported that Clementi left on his Facebook page on Sept. 22 a note that read: "Jumping off the gw bridge sorry." On Wednesday, his Facebook page was accessible only to friends.

Even if the young violinist from Ridgewood was not well known at his new school, his death stirred outrage.

"The notion that video of Tyler doing what he was doing can be considered a spectacle is just heinous," said Jordan Gochman, 19, of Jackson, who didn't know Clementi. "It's intolerant, it's upsetting, it makes it seem that being gay is something that is wrong and can be considered laughable."

Other students who did know Clement were upset that they didn't do more to help him. "I wish I could have been more of an ally," said Georges Richa, a freshman from New Brunswick.

About 100 people gathered Wednesday night for a vigil on campus. They lay on the ground and chanted slogans like, "We're here, we're queer, we're not going home."

Several gay rights groups linked Clementi's death to the troubling phenomenon of young people committing suicide after being harassed over their sexuality.

Nine out of 10 gay, lesbian and bisexual students are bullied in school, according to a 2007 survey by the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, CBS News National Correspondent Jeff Glor reported on "The Early Show" Thursday. And they are four times more likely to attempt suicide, according to a 2007 Massachusetts youth risk survey.

Tyler Clementi Suicide Result of Hate Crime?

Steven Goldstein, chairman of Garden State Equality, said in a statement that his group considers Clementi's death a hate crime.

"We are heartbroken over the tragic loss of a young man who, by all accounts, was brilliant, talented and kind," Goldstein said. "And we are sickened that anyone in our society, such as the students allegedly responsible for making the surreptitious video, might consider destroying others' lives as a sport."

Last week, Dan Savage, a columnist at the Seattle weekly newspaper The Stranger, launched the latest of several efforts to try to stem the problem: the It Gets Better Project, a YouTube channel where gay, lesbian and bisexual adults share the turmoil they experienced when they were younger - and that their lives are better now.

In response to Clementi's death and other incidents, the group Parents, Families & Friends of Lesbians and Gays said it would issue a "call to action" on the subject on Thursday.

Rutgers University President Richard McCormick wrote in a letter to the campus, "If the charges are true, these actions gravely violate the university's standards of decency and humanity." Coincidentally, the university on Wednesday was launching a new two-year Project Civility, designed to get students thinking about how they treat others.

Meanwhile, for some of Clementi's new classmates, the first time they learned much about him was when they got word of his death.

"I guess the only person I haven't talked to is Tyler 'cause he's like really quiet and shy," said Justin Lee, a freshman from Princeton who lives on Clementi's hall.
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DJnJon says:
I love that people quote Leviticus and yet in the same section they are quoting, it covers all the sanitary laws about what to eat and not eat, men's cutting of their hair, women attire and actions in public, what types of clothing to wear. Still almost all Christians and many Jews forgo many of these things and hold onto only one part of the entire passage. Since youare not without sin you have no right to " cast the first stone" and you are acting pius and judgemental when as a Christian you should accept what God has made, including these people that you all seem to fear so much.
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kjudyg says:
who me?? I don't support what they did at all that is what I was saying. I know that god is about Love
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sandy454 says:
@jgisme2 ,people like you give Christians a bad name. Its no wonder the youth are turning away from the Church. God is about LOVE not hate.
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san850 replies:
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To jgisme2....wow, are you out of touch with reality; you should be ashamed for being part of the problem instead of being part of a solution. This kid could have possibly been saved if we as a society did not treat people who are different as if they are less than human. What would you say if this were your child? This has nothing to do with religion; however, many religions spew hate and condemnation vs. "thou shalt not judge". For those of you who say "but it's part of my church's teaching" remember - our churches taught for years that women were property, that slavery was acceptable, that women and blacks should not be allowed the same civil rights as white males. As we have (hopefully) evolved into a more intelligent and civilized society, we have learned that those previously held beliefs were wrong. It took people like us standing up and saying "hey, this is not okay" to change things. Children are dying - all because they have been openly gay. It's time we stop making our kids feel like they are somehow wrong or damaged if they are attracted to same sex; I personally feel that homosexuality is genetic and they don't "choose" to be gay any more than I "choose" to be "straight". It's time we stand up and say what we feel - so nobody's child has to die because of homophobic bullying and discrimination.
Many teens struggle with all types of disappointments, expectations and pain. Homosexuality is only one of many struggles for a lot of them. Five gay teens have committed suicide as a result of bullying in the last TWO WEEKS. RIP Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Billy Lucas, Tyler Clementi, and Raymond Chase. We failed you. We failed you by allowing messages of hate and intolerance towards gay people to flourish in our society. Please think about this folks: You don't have to understand or approve of homosexuality. That is your right. What is not your right is to treat gay people as something less than human. Straight or gay, God made us all. And straight or gay, everyone deserves kindness and respect. We are all someone's child, grandchild, brother, sister, or friend...what if one of these gay young people had been one of yours? We all need to be more outspoken against intolerance such as this. We all need to teach tolerance to our children...tolerance of differences in religion, sexual orientation, handicaps, politics, etc. This is where it begins. This is what will stop the "stigma" of being different. Our churches and politicians need to stop the condemnations and begin living by the rule of "Thou shalt not judge".
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kjudyg says:
Totally well put it's those self rigious idiots who tyhink God hates anyone who is different while those of know that is not the case. God loves everyone even child absuers! I persoanlly have no problem with Gay people or lesbians. I work with some and am friends with some they are people no different than anyone else on the planet....it's ignorant ***** who force the Gays to marry and have children... they feel they have no choice but to lie to everyone is this what our Lorna would want for people to Lie?? i think not

I hope these people who did this get more than five years in jail after all they murdered Tyler if not by thier hand but my actions
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kjudyg says:
I meant to say most people not my people sorry about the misprint
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kjudyg says:
I think it's disgusting what they did to that poor guy. it's bad enough that gays feel they can't be themselves and have the highest suiside rate of anyone. I would think in 2010 that people would be more accaepting of Gay people. to video tape something so private between to people and posting it on the web is a violation of privacy.
My people feel homosexuality is wrong is beyond me. God made them the same as he made all human beings on this earth. Gay's have been around since time began and I don't understand why the entire world is obessed with who is gay and who is not...why question is who cares? there are far more important things to worry about in todays world. that kind of ignorance in my opinion is unacceptable in todays world...we should have evolved more than this since in the 50's when homosexuals could not be who god made them to be. can't people just "Get Over It? already?"
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vista8635 says:
I'm prepared to scour the Earth for Dhraun Ravi. If that creep goes to Indochina, I want a paparazzi waiting in a bowl of rice ready to clock his ass.
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san850 says:
Five gay teens have committed suicide as a result of bullying in the last TWO WEEKS. RIP Asher Brown, Seth Walsh, Billy Lucas, Tyler Clementi, and Raymond Chase. We failed you. We failed you by allowing messages of hate and intolerance towards gay people to flourish in our society. Please think about this folks: You don't have to understand or approve of homosexuality. That is your right. What is not your right is to treat gay people as something less than human. Straight or gay, God made us all. And straight or gay, everyone deserves kindness and respect. We are all someone's child, grandchild, brother, sister, or friend...what if one of these gay young people had been one of yours? We all need to be more outspoken against intolerance such as this.
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ianplatero says:
I'm actually a Rutgers University Student and i did a social experiment researching this topic. I'd appreciate it if everyone watched my video and provided their input. It's at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlDBR7TxvM4 Thanks in advance.
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ianplatero says:
I'm actually a Rutgers University Student and i did a social experiment researching this topic. I'd appreciate it if everyone watched my video and provided their input. It's at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlDBR7TxvM4 Thanks in advance.
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