February 9, 2010 1:50 PM

Eve Ensler: Advocate for Girls

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(CBS)  The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that more than 30 percent of adolescent girls have been a victim of physical, emotional or verbal abuse from a dating partner.

For more than 10 years, author and playwright Eve Ensler's worldwide organization V-Day has raised awareness about violence against women and girls. Her new book is called "I Am An Emotional Creature."

Read an excerpt of "I Am An Emotional Creature

Ensler, who appeared on "The Early Show" said there's a lot more violence in the teenage world than everyone thought.

"Many more girls are getting beat up or slapped or kicked and violated in some essential way than we knew about," she said. "It's all connected to a larger theme, which I hope the book is addressing, which is girls having rights and girls knowing their rights and girls feeling good about themselves."

Ensler said in her travels she's found that there's an international mandate for women to please.

"(The mandate) is to do what somebody else, whether it's the culture or the religion or the parents or friends or boyfriends, want girls to do," Ensler said.

Staying in a violent relationship, Ensler said, is just one example of doing what the boy wants instead of what you want.

Her book, Ensler said, looks at how that mandate is placed upon women, and how girls resist that mandate throughout the world.

In her book, Ensler writes a monologue that begins "Dear Rihanna," addressed to the singing star who was famously caught up in an abusive relationship with Chris Brown. Ensler writes, "You're so strong Rihanna. I watch you in the videos. You look right into the camera. You are so much stronger. You could help Chris."

Ensler said when the story broke about Rihanna, many girls were writing online that Rihanna should stay with Brown, and not dump him just because he hit her once.

"I started to think about girls. How we have the capacity to be, as women, to feel what somebody else isn't feeling. Sometimes we feel what boys feel or what men feel because they've been so disallowed their feelings," she said. "I think often when girls stay with boys, it isn't always because they want to be beat up, it's because they're feeling their sorrow, or they're feeling their insecurity, or they're feeling their grief, or they're feeling something boys don't feel. So they're overcompensating for that."

Ensler added that empathy is an asset for girls. However, she said, "How we negotiate that and how girls take care of themselves with that asset is a really important thing to be thinking about."

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by erb0087 February 12, 2010 11:20 AM EST
Intelligent self defense training should be a part of every girl's education.
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by GaltJohn187 February 10, 2010 9:03 PM EST
Oh, c'mon! This is just another male hating feminist using an artificial cause to spread her vicious hatred of the opposite sex. The statistics she spews cannot be verified. I challenge her to detail and enumerate her figures. What sample size, for instance, was this based upon, and where did she find the girls she claims to have interviewed for this dubious study? And where are the stats on girls who abuse other girls? I just watched a video on TV of a girl kicking the crap out of another girl while someone else videotaped it and the YouTube videos of hateful girl gangs violently attacking other girls are so numerous you'd think this had become standard entertainment fare for certain kinds of girls in this once-great nation of ours. Let's stop the Lesbian feminist bigotry (and let's call a spade a spade). That's what Eve Ensler's hatred it. Anti-male bigotry. Straight up. (That is when she's not slandering Sarah Palin viciously. Does this woman not ever run out of vile bile?)
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by GaltJohn187 February 10, 2010 9:02 PM EST
Oh, c'mon! This is just another male hating feminist using an artificial cause to spread her vicious hatred of the opposite sex. The statistics she spews cannot be verified. I challenge her to detail and enumerate her figures. What sample size, for instance, was this based upon, and where did she find the girls she claims to have interviewed for this dubious study? And where are the stats on girls who abuse other girls? I just watched a video on TV of a girl kicking the crap out of another girl while someone else videotaped it and the YouTube videos of hateful girl gangs violently attacking other girls are so numerous you'd think this had become standard entertainment fare for certain kinds of girls in this once-great nation of ours. Let's stop the Lesbian feminist bigotry (and let's call a spade a spade). That's what Eve Ensler's hatred it. Anti-male bigotry. Straight up. (That is when she's not slandering Sarah Palin viciously. Does this woman not ever run out of vile bile?)
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by vixster51 February 10, 2010 12:17 PM EST
thank you Ms. Ensler for your insight. The reality is, women are still a bit confused, I feel, about their role. Yes, many things have changed since the days of the feminist movement, however, many things have remained the same, thereby causing a great deal of confusion. First and foremost, men, while still young, need to be educated in proper behaviour when it comes to females. No amount of violence shall be tolerated. Until that time, it will be the women of the world who will need to reinforce the belief that we are not the 'slaves' (for lack of a better word) to men. Nor shall we ever be. Thank you.
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by bundye February 9, 2010 2:00 PM EST
The "mandate for girls", taught by the mother, is to be Holy as He is Holy. In that, is all the esteem girls need to have. They will wait for the right one for them, live in chastity, and do just to be doing to keep up with anyone else. Let's get back to basics, and not do what the world does. A lot of what is coming out for the girls is adding to their downfall; it's about what an author, or anyone, thinks anymore.
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by vixster51 February 10, 2010 12:14 PM EST
with all due respect, dear, you're being delusional. What you're advocating is all well and good, unfortunately, the rest of the world does not act nor feel this way. Wake up, dear. There's more out there than what you are seeing.
by fae_touched April 15, 2010 1:59 PM EDT
Who is "He"?
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