January 8, 2010 7:40 AM

Poll: 63% Know Spouse Who Cheated

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(CBS)  Nearly two-thirds of all Americans know someone who has been unfaithful to their spouse, according to a new CBS News poll.

Overall, 63 percent say they know someone who has, while 31 percent say they do not. Demographically, Americans with higher incomes and education levels are more likely to know someone who has cheated on their spouse than Americans with lower incomes and less education. In addition, those who live in the West and South are more likely to know someone who has cheated than those from the Northeast and Midwest.

Americans who are divorced or separated are also more likely to know someone who has cheated on their spouse than Americans overall.

In addition, the poll found that most married Americans are satisfied with their marriage, at least when they compare it to their parents' marriage. Specifically, 55 percent think their marriage is better than that of their parents, while another 41 percent thinks it is the same. Just 3 percent think their marriage is worse than their parents.

Overall, Americans favor divorce over staying together if a marriage isn't working out, though by a lesser margin than they did 15 years ago. Forty-six percent favor divorce in such circumstances while 38 percent oppose - in 1995 a majority of 51 percent favored divorce.

Catholics and evangelical Christians tend to oppose divorce even if the marriage isn't working out. Americans who are currently married are divided on the subject, while a majority of those who are separated or divorced favor divorce under such circumstances.

And when it comes to what's better for kids growing up, Americans stand behind divorce as a better option than parents staying together and fighting all the time. Seven in 10 say it is better for kids to grow up with divorced parents in this case, as do six in 10 married parents.

Nevertheless, a majority of Americans (53 percent) thinks getting a divorce is too easy and should be made more difficult to obtain than it is now, while one in four Americans thinks getting a divorce should be made easier. These numbers are similar to those found in polls conducted by the University of Chicago over the past 20 years.

The poll was taken as part of CBS News' "Where America Stands" series, an in-depth look at where the country stands today on key topics and an outlook for the future decade.


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More Results from the Poll:

• Most working parents feel torn at least some of the time between the demands of their jobs and wanting to spend more time with their families, and a third say they feel torn frequently. Just one in five parents who work say they feel torn between work and family life only rarely.

• When it comes to eating dinner together as a family, most parents say they do. Three in four parents say that in a typical week, their family eats dinner together most of the time, though more moms than dads say so.

• When those families do eat dinner together, they are usually able to keep modern communication devices from disrupting the meal. Most parents say their family members never text, e-mail or talk on the cell phone during dinner. They are less successful about keeping television out of the dinner hour, however. More than half of parents say the television is turned on during dinner at least some of the time, including one in three parents who say it's always on during dinner.


Family therapist Dr. Jenn Berman offered some perspective on the poll's findings, on "The Early Show":


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This poll was conducted among a random sample of 1048 adults nationwide, interviewed by telephone December 17-22, 2009. Phone numbers were dialed from random digit dial samples of both standard land-line and cell phones. The error due to sampling for results based on the entire sample could be plus or minus three percentage points. The error for subgroups is higher.

This poll release conforms to the Standards of Disclosure of the National Council on Public Polls.

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by PuterSpy January 25, 2010 4:29 PM EST
Evidence of cheating is almost always available on a computer. You can search for phrases such as "last night", "missed you", "the hag is out", "divorce", etc in temporary internet files on the computer. (Do make sure you are legally permitted to serach the computer before using this approach.) I have posted an article on how to catch a cheater using a computer used by the cheater. That article is at

http://www.experienceproject.com/question-answer/You-Ca%20n-Find-Out-If-Someone-Is-Cheating-Using-Temporary-Inter%20net-Files-On-Your-Computer/63663

Do check it out.
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by beeker252 January 7, 2010 10:10 AM EST
Relationship is like the environment, it will change over time. People have to realize that the spouse's outlook will change and the simple way to adapt to it is communication.

I remember reading one post about a person before he got married and his (future)wife, knowing the people cheat, gave him several tips but made one thing clear she is not to know about it because she will kill him if she found out about it. I don't know if it is true but the funny thing is she gave him tips.
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by eus109937 January 7, 2010 2:11 AM EST
No doubt about it in America, anyone who thinks marriage is between one man and one woman is a fool.
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by libbcbs January 6, 2010 8:30 PM EST
This is such BULL! Only CBS would run a story like this! What are they trying to do, promote sleaze?! Shame on them. This is all crap.........
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by rykatspop January 6, 2010 4:27 PM EST
The operative word is cheats,not cheated. Once a cheat, always a cheat. These are people that have no soul. If you are unhappy, unfulfilled in your marriage, don't blame your spouse. Get counseling, be honest before you step out, before you become a thief in someone else's marriage. Don't lead the double life--it only steals time from the unsuspecting spouse. Don't be so childish and selfish. If you want out, then get out. Your spouse is not a piece of furniture; something you enjoy when you want to relax, but completely forget about when you go out the door. Get a life you if you a cheating piece of crap!
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by mike18881 January 6, 2010 8:46 PM EST
I could't have said it better. Well said, we've been married 35 years very happy.
by earthling76 January 6, 2010 9:18 PM EST
Agreed. Been married 12 years. It wasn't always easy early on but working through the tough times only makes the bond stronger. My wife is my best friend and there are no secrets between us. I would never disrespect her or risk losing our relationship by cheating on her. She is too important to me and I can say without a single doubt in my heart that she feels the same way. This is happiness.
by nowhiningallowed January 6, 2010 2:44 PM EST
As long as this type of abhorrent and immoral behavior is condoned and accepted by not dumping the offending party by the person who is aware of the philandering and sleazy sleeping-around, it will continue, unchecked as if it's the right and entitlement of these abhorrent and immoral individuals.
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by lileoj January 6, 2010 10:39 AM EST
Ya I had a girl cheat on me but it turned out funny. After a month of dating me she told me she was pregnant. I told her "Thats funny, I had a vasectomy in 95" BOY it got quiet on her side then she said "well maybe it reversed it self" I busted out laughing saying I had a better chance of being struck by lighting.......twice. Then I said "Enjoy spending time with your new baby daddy. BUH BYE!" Never talked to her again. I was soooo pissed then. Now I just laugh about it.
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by displeased January 6, 2010 11:14 AM EST
Although the chance is very low, there is still a chance. I think I previously read the chance of failure is 1 in 1000?
by lileoj January 6, 2010 3:09 PM EST
Ya about a week later I confirmed with my doctor who also laughed he said its closer to 1 and 1 million. Simply because the tubes do not like to connect together well as they are pulled apart by a very decent amount of space. And also the odds that they would connect together butt to butt not very likely at all =P
by babooph January 6, 2010 10:19 AM EST
31% are VERY unobservant....
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by jclark7613 January 6, 2010 9:34 AM EST
You marry with good intention to stay faithful but it's not easy for everyone. Things happen in life. Spouse change or you change. It's a personal choice.
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by displeased January 6, 2010 9:33 AM EST
"Americans with higher incomes and education levels are more likely to know someone who has cheated on their spouse than Americans with lower incomes and less education."

The less educated know it. They just don't know that they know it.
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