December 22, 2009 3:33 PM

Chris Henry's Fiancee Speaks at Funeral

(CBS/AP)  Chris Henry's fiancee wept as she spoke about the Cincinnati Bengals receiver at his funeral Tuesday, and she said while she may have helped steer him out of trouble, he changed her life.

Henry, 26, was killed after he fell out of a pickup truck bed being driven by his fiancee Loleini Tonga during what police described as a domestic dispute. Police are investigating, but no charges have been filed.

"Can't nobody feel what I'm feeling right now. ... We loved each other very much. People say I helped change his life. No. He changed mine," said Tonga, wearing sunglasses and pausing between sentences. "We were supposed to get married in three months, but I'm going to wait until I see him again."

NFL commissioner Roger Goodell and Henry's teammates were among the hundreds who packed the New Orleans Hornets practice facility for the funeral. The Bengals wore round lapels with Henry's No. 15. Many others wore red ribbons with a small photo of Henry that read: "In loving memory" and "Chris 'Slim' Henry."

Goodell said everyone makes mistakes.

"His future as a husband and a father were important to him," Goodell said. "He was a young man that struggled, made some decisions that he regretted, but he put himself on the right path. And I'm proud of that. I'm proud of him."

Cincinnati quarterback Carson Palmer and head coach Marvin Lewis were expected to deliver eulogies. Lewis said before the service that Henry touched a lot of people in his very short life.

"It's a bright story and one that didn't get to get all the way to the end of it which is the most unfortunate part," the coach said. "We'll miss Chris' sparkling smile."

Henry grew up in the small, suburban community of Belle Chasse. Shane Shelley, 26, was Henry's high school QB when they made it to the state title game in 2001, their senior year.

"It's a sad day for Belle Chasse. We really lost a good friend, a brother, one of my best friends," said a watery-eyed Shelley. "It's hard. We lost one of us. We're going to miss him. We love him."

Henry died Thursday, a day after he fell out of the truck in North Carolina, where he had been recovering from a broken forearm that ended his season. Police said Henry and his fiancee got into an argument at the Tonga family home and she drove away on a curvy residential street near downtown Charlotte. Henry jumped into the truck's bed.

A witness has said he heard Henry say, "If you take off, I'm going to jump off the truck and kill myself." A 911 caller told a dispatcher she saw a shirtless man wearing a cast "beating on the back of this truck window."

Police said Tonga stopped to assist Henry when he fell about a half-mile from the home.

Tonga was flanked by family at the visitation and received hugs by those filing by Henry's open casket. Tonga and Henry had been raising three kids.

Henry's football career had been marred by off-the-field problems, beginning when played college ball at West Virginia. His troubles continued during a five-year NFL career. He was suspended five times for arrests ranging from weapons charges to drugs.

The Bengals said Henry had turned his life around this season and showed a renewed focus on his football career. A thigh injury slowed him early in the season, but he had 12 catches for 236 yards. His 19.7-yard average per catch led the team before he broke his left forearm during a win last month over Baltimore.

Henry dreamed of playing in the NFL, but after he was ejected from a game and suspended for another at West Virginia, the Bengals were the only team to bring him in for a pre-draft visit in 2005.

Selected in the third round, Henry played a vital role as a speedy, deep threat as Cincinnati reached the playoffs in his rookie season. But in the final month of the season he was arrested for marijuana possession.

"The Chris Henry I knew was a good quiet young man, wasn't a troublemaker," said Shelley, his high school friend. "That's what everybody needs to know. He was a good man, a good father."

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by dblbar1 December 23, 2009 5:35 AM EST
"The Bengals said Henry had turned his life around"....

so...apparently not.
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by stryker54 December 23, 2009 2:37 AM EST
He said he was going to jump and kill himself. Sounds more like some guy that couldn't get his way, thought he would just hurt himself and instead he did kill himself. People commit suicide everyday. He said he was going to kill himself, he did, where's the question?
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by lilbear925 December 22, 2009 11:13 PM EST
They loved each other, but she didn't love him enough to stop the truck she was driving, so he wouldn't fall out and get killed!
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by formrusmcsgt December 22, 2009 10:06 PM EST
"He was a young man that struggled..." Goodell said.
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How the hell do you make commossioner with atrocious grammar such as that?
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by formrusmcsgt December 22, 2009 10:48 PM EST
...make that "commissioner"...lol
by DSR_57 December 22, 2009 11:49 PM EST
Because there are more important things in life besides good grammar.******
by jclark7613 December 22, 2009 7:10 PM EST
Why would cbsnews show Henry in a open coffin. It's offensive.
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by erasmus111 December 22, 2009 8:02 PM EST
Yeah, no kidding.
by baileyccc December 22, 2009 7:08 PM EST
Girlfriend will most likely live a life of poverty if she escapes jail.
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by breezybby December 22, 2009 6:04 PM EST
that's not leini tonga... who the heck is that?
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by keithle1 December 22, 2009 5:39 PM EST
Why do these guys get in trouble with the law so often AFTER they sign a nice fat contract with a pro team? I don't get it. "Weapons charges"? Why do you want to screw up your sweet life? Where are you going to make this kind of money? Nowhere. If you couldn't play football, you'd be driving a bus or spreading hot tarmac on the roads in summertime. They don't know how good they got it. The Bengals were the team that had 9 players arrested in one year if I remember correctly. I think they were all black too.
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by Sodamary December 22, 2009 9:39 PM EST
What difference does it make what color they are? This story is sad enough without imposing the race card on it.
by aguyfromduckhill December 22, 2009 5:32 PM EST
Dumb as a sack of rocks this lady is. When the money is out what are you going to do.
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by mari1963 December 22, 2009 10:09 PM EST
Amen! She sure is. And aren't you supposed to get married before you have the babies? These two deserved each other. Fiance' my foot. He was never going to marry this loser woman. She was milking him for his money and now she's killed him. I hope she goes to jail. Unbelievable.
by baileyccc December 22, 2009 11:21 AM EST
This is a very sad story of a young man with so many problems. Posted by Baileyccc
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by DSR_57 December 22, 2009 11:47 PM EST
Yeah I know what you mean. Poor guy has been trouble with the law since he could walk. Then attacked his girlfriend and died for it. Poor guy :(
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