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CBS/ September 23, 2009, 1:47 PM

Author: Barack and Michelle Almost Split

Michelle and Barack Obama's marriage was so shaky at one point that they almost separated, according to a new book that gives what it says is a behind-the-scenes look at the Obamas' life together.

In "Barack and Michelle: Portrait of An American Marriage," author Christopher Andersen also says the Obamas had lots of trouble conceiving when they wanted to start a family, Michelle gave a thumbs-down on Hillary Clinton as a possible running mate for Barack, and persuaded him to go with the campaign slogan "Yes we can!" which he considered corny.

Andersen writes that Barack's overriding political ambition caused a wedge between the two so serious that they almost split up. "I think she could have walked at one point. She felt abandoned."

"The strains in their marriage, they've been very open about," Andersen told "Early Show" co-anchor Harry Smith. "During the period when he was in the senate, the State Senate, in Illinois, he said it was a dark time in their marriage. It was angry all the time."

But a terrible scare brought them back together when Sasha was diagnosed with spinal meningitis in 2001.

Andersen also writes that the Obamas had a rough road having children. "For five years," he summed up for Smith, "they tried to have children, and they were very concerned about their ability to have them before Malia came along. And, in fact, one of their best friends has gone on record as saying when she became pregnant, she was afraid to tell Michelle, because Michelle had been trying so hard and she didn't want to break her heart. They discussed adoption with some of their closest friends and then, fortunately for them, Malia came along in 1998."

Michelle "had very strong input" into Barack's decision to bypass Hillary Clinton as a running mate, Andersen told Smith. "Barack Obama has said repeatedly that, 'She is my chief counsel, my chief adviser, I would never make a decision without going to her and asking her opinion,' " Andersen remarked. "She, in fact, gave her opinion, and that was -- she asked him if he really wanted to have Bill and Hillary down the hall in the White House. 'Can you live with that?" "

And, Andersen says, Michelle pushed for "Yes we can!" "The campaign has verified that," he pointed out to Smith. "The fact of the matter is that, when David Axelrod, his campaign manager, floated this by, he didn't like it at all. He thought it was childish and corny and she said, 'No, trust me, I know it will work.' So she was the deciding factor there."

Andersen defended the research he did for the book, noting he'd interviewed roughly 200 people who've been closest to Michelle and Barack over the years.

To read an excerpt of "Barack and Michelle: Portrait of An American Marriage," click here.
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loveoflife says:
Every couple has thier ups and downs. Just as Prince charles with Dianna , he wanted Camille & diana wanted a divorce...

However this is the President, I think the book writers publish this and the president and first Lady do nto know about what is written in some of these books...

Was this book approved by the Obamas? Did they re-read it before it went to publishing?

I think we should keep our Busy little noses out of others family matters...

thanks
loveoflife
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soxcutter says:
Obama listen up i think you better be nice to Michelle i think she can and will kick your azz.
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run2jazz2 says:
First, it is sad that there are those who leave such ugly responses towards the First Lady and the President. That's right, the President of the United States! Love or hate him he was elected by a majority of voters and all of the childish name calling really should be put aside. This man has done nothing but fix the mess that the last 8 years has brought this nation and yet he is criticized. For all of you "Tea Party Clowns" I would like know where was all this anger in the last 8 years when your President was sending men and women to war over "Faulty" intelligence? When the nation was losing jobs and ole "W" was taking care of his boys from Enron where was your outcry? Yet, in less than 8 months this guy was elected President and now there are people holding up Hitler signs with the President's face on it. I don't remember Barrack Obama ever exterminating million of Jewish people in Germany and yet this is the treatment that he gets by those on the Extreme Right. That's okay, Hell has a place for you!
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DennisinSF says:
Obama's command of the language is breathtaking to the ear and heart. And Michelle is right up there with him. I too am impatient to get our country moving again! But just remember, it's a tall order to undo 8 years worth of shame and destruction in 9 months. I for one am glad they have each other - they love each other very much and it shows. Whatever problems they may have or have had in their marriage, I'm sure they have strengthed their marriage by working THROUGH them together. The only way out of something is through it. Anyone agree? It's fine if you don't, but can't we lay off the insults and meanness?
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Bingo!
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fireatthelied says:
ha! now i know why the consensus i unanimous that michelle obama is exceptionally beautiful. because anyone who disagrees is censured apparently. i guess beauty isn't in the eye of the beholder, its in the eyes of wide-eyed crazy kool-aid drinkers.
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mariannpepit says:
Michelle is jealous of Hillary Clinton. Secondly, Obama should make his own choices just like Bill Cliton did as president. Michelle is no Hillary and Obama is no Bill. I can't imagine what that white house looks like now.
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isis3111 says:
im trying to figure out how can you write a book about someone marriage and its not your own....in every marriage there are ups and downs...duh...even to a point that you want to just give up and throw in the towel..so what makes barack and michelle marriage so special...duh...oh i forgot hes the president and this man wants to make some money and that you will...so typical
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peggy97478 says:
Too much information. Brack!!
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joetheplumer says:
Where is a family or a couple that never, at one moment, had trouble?Zero.
Find something else to do
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cinead says:
Almost is NOT over yet>
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