August 24, 2009 10:00 AM

Jennifer Sanford's Friends Speak Out

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(CBS)  South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford is back in the news: it turns out having an affair is not the only problem he's dealing with: an investigation by the Associated Press finds he failed to report 35 trips on private planes as required by state law.

The AP found that Sanford, who took office in 2003, had not disclosed on state ethics forms or campaign reports who had paid for the travel, as required by state law. Sanford was been trying to regroup after admitting to a year-long affair with an Argentinean woman.

As for Jenny Sanford, the governor's estranged wife, she spoke out about the affair last week. She said these affairs are almost like an addiction to alcohol or pornography.

She has moved out of the governor's residence with their four children and says it's up to her husband to decide if it he wants to stay married.

Two of Jenny Sanford's friends, Marjorie Wentworth and Virginia Lane, appeared on The Early Show for an exclusive interview Monday to discuss how their friend is coping with the marital woes and attention.

Lane, a friend of Jenny Sanford's for 20 years, said she is doing as well as can be expected. "She's always had this amazing ability to focus when all these trials are going on around her. Focus on what's right, what's wrong, and how to get to protecting her boys."

The women remember when Jenny Sanford told them about the affair. "It was heartbreaking. Mark's the last person on the planet we thought this would happen," Lane said.

"Everybody was shocked. And she, I think it was easier that she knew about it months before it went public. And I think it would have played out differently had that not happened. But, again, the last person you'd ever expect this to happen to," Wentworth added. "I mean, they seemed like the perfect couple with beautiful children, and his star was rising politically. So everybody is shocked. But she is doing great."

Jenny Sanford's friends say she found out about the affair after discovering a letter; they say the governor didn't deny its contents or the affair.

Asked what the focus of their relationship was after the revelation, Lane said, "She's got this amazing capacity for forgivness. And very quickly said I can forgive adultery but not condone it regularly in a marriage."

Still, the governor took that trip to South America even after his wife had found out about the affair. Wentworth says Jenny Sanford didn't know where her husband had gone in June.

Asked why she didn't play the "good wife" and stand by her man publicly like several other political wives have done in the past to support their disgraced husbands, Wentworth said, "Everything about her behavior is not surprising."

Does Jenny Sanford believe the marriage still has a future?

"She's giving it her best shot," Lane said.

Watch the complete interview:




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by dutchtulip August 24, 2009 5:15 PM EDT
From the beginning, Mark Sanford's lovesick behavior has looked exactly like an addiction. It is a love addiction with the same force as a drug addiction. If you have ever seen such behavior up close and personal, you can understand the lying, deception, secrecy, and hold it has on the person. The normally nice person is transformed into a person who will do almost anything to get that "fix." Hopefully, Mark can get beyond his addiction to Maria.
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by Lawyers-Guns-n-Money August 24, 2009 1:37 PM EDT
by formrusmcsgt August 24, 2009 11:59 AM EDT
I personally am not, but if it's what works for others and they both agree, who am I to condemn?

But that has nothing to do with this instance.

She obviously was not in agreement or he wouldn't have hid it from her.

He failed her as badly as a man can and she still wants to "find a way".

Like I said, no dignity whatsoever.
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Maybe you don't give her enough credit. Divorce and alimony are concrete decisions spelled out in legalese. Who knows what sort of deviant designs Ms. Edwards has concocted in order to exact revenge on this schlub. I bet an ultimatum has already been proffered. Financially, it's a win-win for everyone if they stay together. Plus she gets to spin that sword of Damocles every once in awhile.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned but some women are able to mete out that fury out over long, extended periods of time.
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by SkirtLifter August 24, 2009 11:46 AM EDT
an investigation by the Associated Press finds he failed to report 35 trips on private planes as required by state law. <Are you sure it's the AP? Not the Enquirer?>
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by Henri_Rochard August 24, 2009 11:28 AM EDT
Mark Sanford has confessed his sins at the "C Street Community" in Washington, D.C.

All is forgiven and all of you peons please note that annointed Repubs are not bound by the same rules as you.
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by johndevinejr August 24, 2009 12:36 PM EDT
You are right of course. The republicans are in the right because they say they are in the right. And because they are right they can do things they know are wrong.
Makes sense doesn't it?
by TomByTheBeach August 24, 2009 11:01 AM EDT
Shame on CBS for doing a society piece on how poor little Sanford's wife is coping!
Wow, that looked so bad on the TV this morning. How is she doing? OMG. You looked bad this morning CBS.
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by antoniof123 August 24, 2009 9:58 AM EDT
Let me get this straight he takes free trips takes money from the tax payers and then refuses money to help his state.

What a jerk and what else is it called oh yes hypocrite.
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by Lawyers-Guns-n-Money August 24, 2009 9:55 AM EDT
by formrusmcsgt August 24, 2009 9:29 AM EDT
Men or women who stay with a cheater have no dignity whatsoever.
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I see you're not into 'open' relationships.
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by formrusmcsgt August 24, 2009 11:59 AM EDT
I personally am not, but if it's what works for others and they both agree, who am I to condemn?

But that has nothing to do with this instance.

She obviously was not in agreement or he wouldn't have hid it from her.

He failed her as badly as a man can and she still wants to "find a way".

Like I said, no dignity whatsoever.
by formrusmcsgt August 24, 2009 9:29 AM EDT
Men or women who stay with a cheater have no dignity whatsoever.
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by User_00000000002945496845 August 24, 2009 9:47 AM EDT
Don't drop the soap, Mark.
by ianlou August 24, 2009 12:10 PM EDT
Politician's wives hang out with other politician's wives.
Jennifer Sanford's Friends Speak Out simply means there sharing horror stories. (horror spelled with a w)
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