Kate: Jon's The One Who Wanted Out

(CBS/ AP)  Now that Jon and Kate Gosselin's split is official, new details are emerging about their 10-year marriage, and the lives they led off-camera.

In her first interview since filing for divorce, Kate told People magazine Jon wanted out for a long time.

"He does not want to be married to me anymore," Kate told People. "No questions asked, he went and hired a lawyer and said you better get one. So I did. I never would have made that step; I never would have done it."

Monday night's show, in which the couple announced their separation and divorce, drew a record audience of 10.6 million viewers.

When they told their eight kids, Kate told People, she and Jon never used the words "separation" or "divorce."

"I'm not naïve," she said. "I know that my kids will come out of this, to a degree, with some sort of dysfunction. I'm not stupid."

Michelle Tan, a senior writer for People magazine, said on The Early Show Wednesday that Kate is "going through a myriad of emotions."

"There are days where she feels relief," Tan said. "Right now, this is the end of a lot of tension that's been building for the last six months. To actually have a resolution, albeit not a happy one, she's sensing some relief but, at the same time, she's feeling like she's failed. This is a woman who has never quit at all at anything she's ever done."

Tan added one of the 8-year-old girl twins actually said the announcement wasn't a surprise to her, and she could have guessed it would happen.

As for the smaller children, Tan said it's going to take time for the news to sink in.

She said Jon and Kate have told the children their lives will continue much like where they are now. But, Tan said, Jon and Kate will take turns being in the house.

The couple plans to spend equal time with their children at the $1.1 million house they moved into last year, with Kate staying elsewhere when Jon has custody and Jon making other living arrangements when it's her turn, according to a statement Jon released to the media.

"And the little kids just said, 'You know what, it's great, when is my next snack?"' Tan said. "They're very young. It will take time for them to register."

Kate insists the show isn't to blame for the dissolution of their marriage.

She told People, "This is a situation that absolutely would have happened whether the cameras were here or not. I don't want people thinking we traded marriage for fame. Ever."

Attorneys for both Jon and Kate Gosselin said Tuesday that the couple lived together on their Berks County, Pa., compound until recently.

But, the divorce filing, according to People, claimed Jon and Kate had been living separate lives for two years. Kate's lawyers explained that away, People said, as a misunderstanding of "legalese."

"They have been living 'separate and apart' just within the last week or two," said Jon's attorney, Charles Meyer, using a term from the divorce petition.

But, as CBS News correspondent Susan Roberts reports, the official word of the moves for divorce has raised the question: How much of the Gosselins' reality show was real -- and how much was staged for the cameras?

Kate's lawyer, Cheryl Young, said Tuesday the couple has already started negotiating the terms of the divorce.

TLC has halted production of the show, People says. The next new episode, the magazine said, won't air until August.

[IRENEDV]

Notice that Kate doesn't deny telling Jon "Its over" first, as he's claiming. She's just saying he was the first to talk divorce. I don't blame him. She tells him that its over, but want to keep up a charade for the paycheck with TLC. Meanwhile their marriage is loveless and a sham? Who wouldn't want out. SHE is the one to initiate all of this, not Jon.

[PreciousNH]

I am sorry but this comment :
"I?m not naïve," she said. "I know that my kids will come out of this, to a degree, with some sort of dysfunction. I?m not stupid."

makes me a little annoyed I enjoy John & Kate and I am a child of divorce and I don't think there is anything wrong with me. So I don't think that you should jump to conclusions about your own children and assume just because you are divorced your children will have a dysfunction. It isn't fair to the children. You are being stupid if you continue to think this way.

[hollywoodmini]

Kate, I can't imagine the stress you must have been under with all those kids so close in age. John however has always been my favorite because I liked his sence of humor. I have now totally lost all respect for him. How does he think his kids are going to feel when they see him all over the news with this new young party girl? I hope Kate has enough guts not to let him stay in the house nor bring that flusie around her children. I've heard John say over and over how young he is to be dealing with all those children. Can't he wait to be out partying and what ever else for a few months so his kids can get used to all the changes. I hope Kate will get her two oldest into some counceling, it could make all the difference in their long term mental health. Please don't think the little ones won't be affected too. I feel very bad for the children. John, I hope you're having fun because what you're doing is very damaging to the little lives that you brought into this world.

[mommyo2]

It takes two people to make or break a marriage. Being married for 21 years I understand neither of us is easy to live with all of the time. The cameras of course are going to show the most interesting parts. If Kate were always the perfect wife and Jon the perfect husband, we would not watch. It is easy to say Kate was domineering and Jon was much to passive. It is easy to say Jon gave up to easily or Kate pushed him away. Oh Posh! If you truly love someone, you will work harder in the tough times to make it work. It is sad that this family has fallen into the cracks of divorce. I pray that they will remain civil for the children and work to ensure their happiness. Right now Jon does need to reconsider his priorities. It makes me a little sad that he feels he missed out on so much fun. The grass is not always greener on the other side and the greatest accomplishments in life are not parties and travel, they are those little ones that grow into wonderful adults and fill our lives with rich memories along the way.

[lohandicap1]

I watched about 10 minutes of one show and decided that I can't stand that b***h! I don't blame that dude one bit, except that I would have left that skank the first (and last) time she slapped me. She's getting what she deserves!

[reinafarmer]

People do look at themselves which is why some of us are repulsed by TV programs like this. All of us have made mature decisions and choices. Jon and Kate are the exception to the rule. I am judging them not from TV but what we saw before they hit national television. They lived in our community. What nurse or medical professional deliberately gets pregnant with 7 fetuses knowing they have no way to provide for these children? Sure they received criticism from us their neighbors - what is to keep someone else from doing the same thing? Do you want us to encourage irresponsible behavior in our society? It was irreponsible behavior which brought these children into the world. I am not impressed. Sounds harsh - but not any harsher than the world is going to treat these children who now seem to be abandoned by both parents. Now there are 8 children being raised by babysitters and nannies. Growing up there used to be a show called "Eight is Enough." Jon and Kate could have been the updated version of this program instead they decided to travel the low road and wallow with drink, drugs, questionable friends and relationships. Great heritage for their children. Sure people are critical - who in world wants their child to crawl into the hole with people like this?

[Kurdistani]

I will add some things:

it is interesting to read how people draw the different cut-throat conclusions about this family and the couple based oon their interpretation of what they have seen on TV. Face it, it is difficult enough to understand a person while living with him/her in the same house - yet to do the same thing on a weekly based one occasion tv-show. Many seem to think they have grown into the dynamics of this family and forget that they ar evaluating this family through edited footage subjected to financial priorities of producers and directors through a camera lense. What I think is the real deal is that most of these people project their own lives onto this couple. They think their own wives are B´s or their own husbands are A´s - and by reading off minor patterns within Jon and Kate they think they have everything figured out. My tip is - take a looooong studying look at yourself in the mirrir and think - wasnt it yourself you were describing?

[Kurdistani]

Well, we can be sure of one thing. Kate wont be subjecting these kids to parental alienation...

[reinafarmer]

Let's see they both go through IVF to produce a brood. Then seek to find a way for the public to pay for their irresponsible behavior. Personally I think that the court should deny a divorce and sentence them to life with each other. Put the kids up for adoption and hopefully the children will forget that they were conceived by two self-centered, conniving, money seeking morons that all of us want to forget. You know I really don't care if Kate is a witch or Jon feels put upon. They are the adults and these children did not ask for these parents. Furthermore, they should revoke the medical license of doctors who perform IVF and leave kids like this with mentally deficient parents. The doctors wanted money to produce the kids. The parents decided to capitalize on the "mistake" caused by IVF by going after public funding and publicity. Jon's girlfriends are all looking for fame and fortune. Everything about this situation is sick.

[NEONSWANG]

I THINK JON IS PATHETIC. BRAGGING ABOUT HOW HE IS OUT HAVING FUN. THE REASON KATE CONTROLLED SO MUCH IS BECAUSE HE DIDN'T DO THINGS OR HELP OUT LIKE SHE NEEDED OR LIKE THE KIDS NEEDED. SHE NEEDED TO CONTROL THINGS BECAUSE HE NEEDED TO GROW UP!!! WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED WITH HER OR THE KIDS IF THEY WAITED FOR HIM?!! HE SEEMS VERY SELFISH BEYOUND WORDS WHEN HE CAN WALK OUT ON HER AND ALL THOSE KIDS AND THAN TO BRAG ABOUT BEING OUT HAVING FUN. I COULD BE HERE ALL DAY TRYING TO THINK OF THE RIGHT WORDS TO DESCRIBE HIM.