April 23, 2009 8:22 PM

Father Murdered Family In Maryland Hotel

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(CBS)  Police said Wednesday a New York man killed his wife, two daughters and himself in a Maryland hotel room, the latest in a string of domestic murder-suicides across the country and the second in Maryland since last week.

Investigators had previously called the deaths a murder-suicide but had not specified who killed whom.

Detectives have since determined that William Parente, 58, of Garden City, N.Y., killed his wife, Betty, 58, and their daughters, 19-year-old Stephanie and 11-year-old Catherine, then himself at the Sheraton Baltimore North, Baltimore County police said in a statement.

Police say the mother and Catherine were killed first, according to CBS station WJZ-TV. When Stephanie returned to the hotel room from Loyola, she was killed. Police say all died from blunt force trauma and asphyxiation. The mother and daughters were found on a bed in the hotel room.

Police say William then cut himself in the bathroom and died.

Police planned to officially release the cause and manner of each of the four deaths at a news conference Wednesday but said they did not have a motive.

In New York, the state attorney general's office said it had just received a complaint from a man who says he invested hundreds of thousands of dollars with William M. Parente and had trouble getting his money back. Spokesman Alex Detrick said the complaint was received Tuesday afternoon, and investigators had yet to determine whether to start an investigation.

Bruce Montague, 47, a Queens lawyer, told Newsday that he recently received six checks worth about $450,000 from Parente.

Montague said that Parente told him that he could deposit two of the checks, but asked him to wait with the others. Montague said a bank official told him the four others would not clear.

The Parente family was last seen Sunday afternoon and after the family failed to check out on time, workers at the hotel in Towson, a suburb just north of Baltimore, found the bodies in a 10th floor guest room on Monday afternoon.

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Friends and neighbors of the Parentes said they never suspected anything was amiss and were dumbfounded to learn the family was dead.

William Parente was a lawyer, his wife Betty a stay-at-home mom active in the community. Their daughters were well-liked by teachers and classmates.

They lived in a neighborhood of million-dollar homes in Garden City, N.Y., next to a golf course. William was a tax and estate planning attorney who commuted to Manhattan. Betty volunteered.

They were in Maryland to visit Stephanie, a sophomore at Loyola College in Baltimore, with her sister, Catherine, a sixth-grader at Garden City Middle School.

"I can't tell you how heartsick I am," next-door neighbor Mary Opulente Krener said. "This is the most wonderful family, the most kind and loving family. I'm astounded."

Maryland was already dealing with a similar tragedy when word of the Parentes' deaths began to spread. Sometime late Thursday night or Friday morning, a father in the northwestern Maryland city of Frederick fatally shot his wife and their three young children, police said.

The father, Christopher A. Wood, 34, then shot himself. Police revealed Tuesday that the family was having extreme financial problems.

An analysis by the Violence Policy Center in Washington, D.C., found an average of nine or 10 murder-suicides a week. But familicides - in which both parents and all their children are killed - generally happen only happen two or three times every six months, said Kristen Rand, legislative director for the center, a nonprofit gun-control advocacy group.

"They were so rare that we didn't really bother to count them as a separate category," Rand said. But in the last few months, she said, "there's a clear rash" of such killings.

They can be tied to the nation's economic woes, said Richard Gelles, dean of the School of Social Policy and Practice at the University of Pennsylvania.

Familicides have also occurred this year in Los Angeles and Santa Clara, Calif., and in Belle Valley, Ohio. The slayings are usually committed by men, usually because of shame over financial problems, and people close to the families never see it coming, Gelles said.

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by ChronicPainHero May 1, 2009 3:36 PM EDT
It?s May 1 2009 Time For Murder-Suicides To StopI?m doing my part to help BLOG OUT murder-suicides. I want people to know that there are other choices even when stuff looks and seems so dam bad that you see no other way out, there is a way. What? I?m sure people in distress enough to be considering murder-suicide as an option are beyond rational and think that any other choice is crazy and futile. That?s just the despair controlling their minds. It becomes like a mental illness and overwhelms them. They can?t see any other way, can?t even imagine how life was before it became bleak and therefore can?t imagine life ever being decent and meaningful for them again. I can understand despair. As a chronic pain sufferer you get tired of waking up everyday in pain. It seems as though there is no end to your pain. I?m sure many chronic pain sufferers can relate when I say, it makes you wonder what is the use? The use is your family, friends, associates, co-workers and folks you haven?t met yet whose lives you will touch and enhance. The use is that you have yet to accomplish what you can. The use is that your choosing murder-suicide is unfair to those you kill and those who will be left behind to try to piece together what you were going thru and mostly, WHY YOU DIDN?T COME AND ASK SOMEBODY FOR HELP AND UNDERSTANDING.

People say, ?things are never as bad as they seem?. I can say for a fact that most of the people committing murder-suicides are living in a time and land where they have more opportunities as well as more comforts than most of the folks on this planet. We get so caught up in a lifestyle that we can?t seem to get a handle on. What? succesful? What?s good? What?s enjoyable? How do you know when you made it? How can I live without a new car? How can I make it without a big house? How can I make it without new clothes? I can?t live without???? We get so caught up in what we can?t, what we gotta have, what we gotta do that we forget to live life and enjoy the basic necessities. We overrate and over value keeping up with all of the things that are advertised as ?the good life? and begin to measure our lives by that made up standard.

The pressure to choose the easy way out when we think we haven?t and can?t live the good life is tremendous if you allow it to be and too many people allow it. The stress levels drive people to do things that seem other wise incredulous. Stop believing that your life is worth taking if you don?t have or can?t achieve the ?advertised good life?. You are worth way more than that. Murder-Suicide isn?t a choice you need to make. It shouldn?t even be a choice. Murder-Suicide needs to go the way of the square stone wheel. It?s time we, as a people, as human beings, stood up and said to those who might even be thinking about murder-suicide right this minute: STOP, THERE IS A BETTER CHOICE and YOU ARE WORTH IT!! Let?s get thru this one day at a time. Slow down. Ask for help. Allow somebody to talk to you and allow them to help you. Your family deserves that chance. Your spouse deserves that chance. You deserve that chance. The moment of darkness doesn?t last forever if you allow people who care to shed light on you.

Let?s put and end to murder-suicides. They affect all of us. The ripple effect is causing a tidal wave of massive proportions we can only yet begin to imagine. The POWER OF ONE can change a country. Let?s become a POWER OF ONE and stop, no eliminate murder-suicides as being a choice anybody could ever make.

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by numberourdays May 1, 2009 5:15 AM EDT
To Lost America
My father committed suicide with a shotgun. It was the stupidest waste of a life that I have ever been personally affected by. There was absolutely nothing productive about it. To say you understand why this man killed himself and his family is unbelieveable. All is lost you say. Why not just end it all. STOP thinking that way. Don't let your mind go down that road of despair. I have been in the pit of depair myself because of lost jobs, finance problems, and business failures. You can't let yourself "understand" the thinking of people who do what this man may have done. Maybe this is your time to open a business, or find a new career in sales or computer work. Whatever. It is not your time for giving up. You have life. It is a gift. You might not be Winston Churchill or George Washington, but you are alive. In Ecclesiastes it says, "A live dog is better than a dead lion." You might be just a live dog, but you are better than a dead lion. You still have opportunity to do something in this life. Don't waste it by thinking wrong thoughts. Step back and remember that our life is not all these material things. If you have to find an apartment to live in, so be it. Your life is what you need to be grateful for, anything after that is a bonus.
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by numberourdays May 1, 2009 4:50 AM EDT
I don't believe this was a murder suicide. I believe someone the father ripped off had them murdered. What is the evidence that it was murder suicide? That the entire family was locked inside? What was locked? Was it that metal safety latch that folds over the door? If that was the evidence they are absolutely wrong. All you need to do to make that latch lock from the outside is wrap a rubber band around it, hold it outside the door, and then close the door from the outside. Pull the rubber band, the latch swings closed, and then you pull a little harder and break the rubber band. PRESTO!! It looks like a suicide because the family is locked inside by a lock that can "only be locked from the inside". I really hope they don't just shut this case without really investigating it. Someone definitely did this to them.
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by winchester70 April 26, 2009 6:36 PM EDT
spamlord, like the Energizer bunny, never gives up. TUQ
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by rrozsa April 24, 2009 10:32 AM EDT
Bad enough when these spoiled psycho schmucks shoot their families, but blunt force trauma and asphyxiation kinda takes it to a whole 'nother level.
Posted by rsmik at 3:55 PM : Apr 22, 2009

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The gun control folks would rather all murders be done that way.
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by lost_america April 23, 2009 5:18 PM EDT
The thing that breaks me up in our struggle is knowing I can't take care of my wife. I can't provide for her any more.

I can't provide, and, I can't leave her alone, so, what can I do?

So, I understand
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by lost_america April 23, 2009 5:15 PM EDT
So why not just kill himself??? Why take the wife and daughters. Didn't he love them?
Posted by ElectricBlue44 at 1:49 PM : Apr 23, 2009

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Because he loves them, he can't bare the thought of not taking care of them, of leaving them alone. I know its not true but I understand the thought process.
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by ElectricBlue44 April 23, 2009 4:49 PM EDT
So why not just kill himself??? Why take the wife and daughters. Didn't he love them?
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by lost_america April 23, 2009 3:30 PM EDT
Everyone thinks it's tragic,

We are about to loose everything, be on the street, two hard working Americans who need nothing more than a job.

We worked for 30 years, paid into the system, made our companies profitable. Now, more profit can be made in Bangalore.

My CEO said thanks, but, we just have to understand that this is a good move for the company.

So, in 60 days I'm kicked to the curb. Everyone thinks it's tragic. But, no one will stop it, no one will change it, and why would a new employer want to hire a 50 year man?

So, If we stick a pistol in our mouth maybe this will give you some insight as to why.
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by schoollord April 23, 2009 3:21 PM EDT
Oh man...I have NEW information!~ Look:

"SAN ANTONIO - A woman was shot in the hip Friday morning while cooking a meal after the heat of the oven discharged a .357 revolver that she didn't know was hidden inside.

Roxanne Perez, 29, was in good condition at Wilford Hall Medical Center.
An acquaintance stored the gun for safekeeping in the bottom drawer of Perez's oven about two weeks ago, then "completely forgot about it" according to a police report.

Perez, who said had no idea a gun was in the oven, said she heard several shots then felt a sharp pain in her left hip.

Police have ruled the shooting an accident, and said they do not expect to file criminal charges.

Gun falls into toilet, shoots woman

"A Lake City woman was airlifted to Shands Jacksonville on Sunday afternoon, after her gun fell into the commode and shot her in the buttocks, according to the Columbia County Sheriff's Office.

"A deputy was called to the Moore Road address shortly after 3 p.m., about a shooting and saw a woman bleeding severely from her left buttock. Emergency medical technicians were on the scene and had the woman airlifted to Jacksonville, reports say.

IRONY ALERT: "Reports say the woman had just taken classes on firearm safety and she had a fear of being robbed due to past incidents."

So No Hands No Dogs No Ovens No Toilets...although we could keep all those things we really need if we agree to No GUNS!~
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