April 2, 2009 2:01 PM

Suspect's Wife: I Wish It Had Been Me

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(AP)  The estranged wife of a man charged with gunning down seven residents and a nurse at a North Carolina nursing home said Wednesday she wishes she had been the victim instead.

Wanda Gay Neal told CBS affiliate WRAL-TV she has apologized to some families of those killed.

"The ones that would speak to me, I told them I was sorry," said the 43-year-old nurse's assistant. "I wish it had been me, instead of them."

Authorities say Neal's husband, Robert Stewart, 45, shot and killed eight people at Pinelake Health and Rehab on Sunday before a Carthage police officer shot him and ended the rampage. Stewart was wounded but survived and has been charged with eight counts of first-degree murder.

Neal said she was working in the facility's Alzheimer's unit when she heard on a loudspeaker that a man was inside with a gun. She said she and her co-workers began moving residents into a TV room.

"We barricaded the door. We put down the blinds, and we sat and cried and hugged each other," Neal told WRAL. "We tried to keep them comforted as much as we could."

Neal said that while trying to go back for more patients she ducked into a bathroom after hearing the gunman was heading down the hallway toward her. Neal's mother, Margaret Neal, said in an interview Tuesday that Stewart was unable to reach the Alzheimer's unit because it was locked with a passcode, which Stewart did not know.

Wanda Neal said she believed that her husband was trying to hurt her by killing patients because he couldn't reach her.

"What kind of man goes after somebody in a wheelchair? That's a coward," she said.

Court documents show the couple married twice, but Neal's mother said Tuesday Neal had recently left him moved back to a home on the family property in Robbins, about half an hour from the site of the shootings.

Authorities have declined to speculate on a motive but say they are looking into whether the shooting was "domestic-related."

Defense lawyer Frank Wells said he met Stewart on Tuesday for the first time at North Carolina's maximum security Central Prison in the visitation area, a series of booths with reinforced windows between prisoners and visitors.

"He is being treated for his wound at the prison hospital," Wells said. "He was able to come down to the visitation booth and meet with me wearing a hospital gown."

Wells wouldn't discuss Stewart's frame of mind or what they talked about.

"It's the beginning of understanding the case against Mr. Stewart," he said. "There is an awful lot of work to do."

AP
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by ranger1948 April 2, 2009 10:59 PM EDT
BIGMO47
THIS LADY HAD NO IDEA IT WAS HER HUSBAND DOING THE SHOOTING UNTIL AFTER IT WAS ALL OVER. THEN SHE MADE THE STATEMENT MEANING SHE WAS FEELING COMPASSION FOR THE VICTIMS AND THE FAMILIES. YOU NEED TO READ AN ARTICLE THRU OR LEARN HOW TO COMPREHEND WHAT IS BEING SAID.
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by fiteit1 April 2, 2009 6:26 PM EDT
bigmo47, the article or Neal said nothing about her knowing it was her estranged husband, just a man with a gun over the intercom and she heard him in the hallway and ducked into the bathroom.

It probably wasn't until afterwards that she found out who it was and felt the guilt and said what she did.

Maybe in the future all these places can go to keypad doors and a receptionist.
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by SusanStoHelit April 2, 2009 5:59 PM EDT
I feel for her - hopefully she can get over this and realize it is his evil, nothing to do with her.

He's a coward. Like all abusers.
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by saturn05 April 2, 2009 4:15 PM EDT
I feel sorry for the ex-wife. She is at no way responsible for this and I hope she doesn't lose her job and I hope people don't treat her any differently. She is a victim too.
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by bigmo47 April 2, 2009 4:11 PM EDT
This is a definitely a tragedy. I feel sorry fopr the families of all of the victims and for the suspects wife as she was terrorized and a target as well. However, I don't think that she should have made the statement ?I wish it had been me, instead of them.? This simply cannot be a true statement seeing as how she ran and locked herself in a secure part of the home as her husband randomly killed people. I'm not saying she should have stayed and gotten shot, but don't tell that to the victims' families because they know that she was hiding and that's probably why some of them won't speak to her. People for some reason get a good felling from making statements like this when they know in their hearts they are not true. Just my 2 cents...
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by msm_sucks September 4, 2011 1:02 AM EDT
I see this site is just like so many others with the ill-informed and under-educated commentors. They offer their opinions without even reading the article, or so it would seem, or at least, not comprehending the article. Wouldn't you agree bigmo?
by cheetah-man7 April 2, 2009 3:58 PM EDT
This guy is really sick! To harm those elderly and sick people is a real disgrace ! I hope he rots in Hell for all eternity for what he did.
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by hambonehd April 2, 2009 2:04 PM EDT
Hopefully somebody in the jail will kill him....!
And the man and woman in PA who drugged the woman's daughter.
Evil needs killing.
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by msm_sucks September 4, 2011 1:03 AM EDT
What are you talking about and what does it have to do with the subject at hand?
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