Teen Fights To Find His Own Foster Family

(CBS)  There are a lot of good families in Rochester Hills, Mich., but all Alex Chivescu needed was just one.

"I'm sure you've never received a letter of this nature before," Alex wrote. "And I'm also quite sure that you'll be surprised, albeit unpleasantly, at the circumstances under which I am writing this letter."

Alex is a student - perhaps the smartest student at Stoney Creek High School, reports CBS News correspondent Steve Hartman. His SAT scores were near-perfect.

"He's a very bright young man," said Colette Judge, his counselor. "When things were crazy at home, he could focus on school and that made it better for him."

"I suppose this is where I should delve into a brief summary of my life," Alex wrote in his letter. "My parents divorced when I was 2 years old and I have not heard from my father since. My mother was a nurturing and loving person, to which I credit my early start on a path of academics."

In fact, his mom was getting her Ph.D. in computer science when, one day, she got in a car crash and suffered a head injury. Alex said it changed her - not just physically but mentally.

"She would become abusive and neglectful," Alex said.

Through most of grade school and into high school, Alex bounced back and forth between foster care and living with his mother, who every time promised to do better, but never did.

"Which goes into why the last time I was removed from her custody, I pushed for her rights to be terminated - not because I didn't love her - but because, had I not, I would have been placed back with her and the circus would have gone on," Alex said.

That's how Alex ended up at the Children's Home of Detroit, an orphanage. But more importantly, it's in a whole different school district than Stoney Creek. And Alex says he didn't leave his mother just to lose the only real home he ever knew.

"My school means everything to me," Alex wrote. "When chaos reigned at home, I immersed myself in my studies and my friends."

Unfortunately, it's nearly impossible to find any foster home for a 17-year-old boy. Plus, his social worker at the time wasn't even trying anyway.

"Nobody was advocating for him," said Judge. "So he had to advocate for himself."

"I searched," Alex said. "Pulled up court records and I started looking up foster care listings."

He compiled a list of a couple dozen prospective parents and wrote the most important letter of his life.

"Now I ask you to consider fostering me," he wrote. "Thank you, Alex Chivescu."

It was a shot in the dark, but it worked. Last fall, empty nesters Jim and Suzanne Bante took Alex into their home - and hearts.

"We've grown to love him. He's a member of the family. We hope he chooses to stay there," said Jim.

"It was a really nice surprise," Alex said.

Alex now has something to go with his school family - a family. He'll find out Monday if he got accepted into Harvard. He's not sure yet what he wants to be - other than a foster parent.

[AustinReddy]

Logging from Ireland.

Good to hear that Alex is doing well, I hope the best for his future.

However, I find it difficult to understand why CBS feel the need to run this story when there are countless stories of achievment in our everyday lives. There are much more pressing issues around America and the world that would have been better told in the time that CBS have to air their story to the world.

Alex, who will have a long good life, will be forgotten in a few days. CBS should tell the stories that really need to be heard,

Austin

[o2bewealthy]

Good on you, Alex! It's nice to read a story with a positive spin. Best of luck and many happy wishes for your future.

[marydiehl]

Thanks for another great story Steve. :)
As always I so enjoy the stories you bring to us... KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!

and to you Alex thanks for sharing just what an awesome person you are and many blessings to you and the Bante family and your wonderful life that lies ahead.

[Jerryt123]

I want to thank Steve Hartman for helping to educate people on how they can help in thier own community. Alex was persisitent and had a fantastic outcome. I am someone who works in a State social services system and struggles with these issues every day.

This was a great story. I hope that it planted a seed for other empty nesters and how they can help.

[lstpierre]

Alex,

you are amazing!!! I am so happy for you. Are you Romanian? (I have 2 adopted sons, my oldest from Romania). Your last name sounds Romanian.
I pray all good things for you and your new family.
Lorrie

[williambynum]

Alex's story is truly heartwarming. I never knew Alex when he lived in Williamsburg VA with his mother, Viviana, but I was on the Computer Science PhD committee of his mother, I am sorry for what Viviana put Alex through, but I am glad that he turned out so well. Viviana's story is especially sad because she was so bright and full of promise. when she left Williamsburg. Alex, with his intelligence and strong character, will probably fulfill his mother's extraordinary potential. Thanks for telling a wonderful story.

[Kindred123]

Hey CBS News -

Why not make a few phone calls from the Newsroom so that the boy's dream of Harvard Admission could come true on Monday.

He would bring so much TO Harvard.

Please update your CBS viewers with news of where Alex will ultimately attend college.

By the way, his foster parents deserve Mega Kudos for welcoming Alex to their family !!!

Thanks for the positive story.

[mollyblakowski]

I love you very much, Alex.

[fundu2009]

AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[zwaggsy]

Hope it all works out for him after al the effort &determination he's put into life.

It'd also be nice if he's mother's condition improved & they could meet on happier terms.