The Demise Of Dating

"Hooking-Up" Becoming More Common Than Traditional Dating, But What Does That Mean?

(CBS)  According to some studies, 75 percent of all college students have "hooked up," though that might not mean what you think it means.

Still, whatever happened to good old fashioned dating?

Kathleen Bogle, author of Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus, and assistant professor of sociology at La Salle University visited The Early Show to discuss the good and the bad of the rise of the "hookup culture."

"Define hooking up. What does that mean exactly?" co-anchor Julie Chen asked.

"Well, that's one of the tricky things about this whole thing. It can mean kissing or it can mean sleeping with someone or it can mean anything in between," Bogle said. "So it's one of the most vague terms that high school and college students use."

"I always thought it meant definitely having sex, you're telling me it doesn't mean that," Chen said.

"No, that's what a lot of adults think and sometimes college students themselves are confused," Bogle said "But when you actually look at the research, a lot of times it means far less than sex, sometimes just kissing."

"Why is this happening that they're not dating, just kind of maybe randomly kissing someone and not leading to any dates?" Chen asked.

"So many things happened and kind of converged at one time that you have, you have, people getting married much later, that's a big issue," Bogle said. "People used to use their high school and college years to figure out who they were going to end up with and almost do some sort of spouse shopping. Now people aren't getting married until later and later so it makes high school and college this time where relationships can be really, really casual."

"But then what happens after college?" Chen asked. "I mean, if they are used to not dating and just participating in this hook up culture, what does it lead to?"

"What's amazing is I interviewed people that were in the young alumni category age 23 to 30 and people that hooked up all through high school and college went back to more traditional dating after," Bogle said. "It was amazing because they said, 'Yeah, I hooked up in college, I partied, I drank,' and then they would switch to really traditional dating."

[smurfcrusher]

So in other words, they have no clue what they are talking about, other than the fact that there was at least a momentary touch.

Big freakin'' deal. Let me get the fainting couch!

[hypnotoad72]

All they want to do is hook up, not care about diseases or consideration of others'' emotions, and demand free medicines that won''t have harmful side-effects.

Real progressives would be pro-relationships.

[clathrate]

Why is anyone surprised by any of this? These kids are raised to believe that they can be overgorwn babies for life.

Our culture has thumbed its nose at everything it means to be a decent, productive, responsible adult.

We are rapidly circling hte drain at this point. Unless these dumb kids somehow learn life lessons in a real hurry, our nation will become a morass of total decadence and pathetic mediocrity.

[rustycarpet]

I hardly call this news. Can we leave the ENTERTAINMENT news up to MTV and get back to whats important.

[rustycarpet]

Who cares. Isn''t it part of nature? Thats where we come from at least I thought. If you don''t like it then stay away from it. People should be less focused on each other and what they are doing. Thats what being free is all about. Dumb kids? Hardly. Just ignorant to the infinite black holes of this society, talk is cheap and your willing to buy anything juicy because your life alone cannot subdue your boredom.

[rustycarpet]

Who cares. Isn''t it part of nature? Thats where we come from at least I thought. If you don''t like it then stay away from it. People should be less focused on each other and what they are doing. Thats what being free is all about. Dumb kids? Hardly. Just ignorant to the infinite black holes of this society, talk is cheap and your willing to buy anything juicy because your life alone cannot subdue your boredom.

[rustycarpet]

Who cares. Isn''t it part of nature? Thats where we come from at least I thought. If you don''t like it then stay away from it. People should be less focused on each other and what they are doing. Thats what being free is all about. Dumb kids? Hardly. Just ignorant to the infinite black holes of this society, talk is cheap and your willing to buy anything juicy because your life alone cannot subdue your boredom.

[rustycarpet]

Oops sorry

[godseyesore-2009]

rustycarpet, have you no patience?

[rustycarpet]

Too much caffeine. I apologize I got riled up please forgive my insolent behavior

[hypnotoad72]

Why is anyone surprised by any of this? These kids are raised to believe that they can be overgorwn babies for life.

Our culture has thumbed its nose at everything it means to be a decent, productive, responsible adult.

We are rapidly circling hte drain at this point. Unless these dumb kids somehow learn life lessons in a real hurry, our nation will become a morass of total decadence and pathetic mediocrity.

Posted by clathrate at 06:17 PM : Dec 15, 2008
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It''s cheaper to make our society like that. Not to mention offshoring any form of work that people could be proud doing.

Overgrown kids...

[wl7bzh]

We are rapidly circling hte drain at this point. Unless these dumb kids somehow learn life lessons in a real hurry, our nation will become a morass of total decadence and pathetic mediocrity.

Posted by clathrate at 06:17 PM : Dec 15, 2008

" will become a morass of total decadence and pathetic mediocrity."

Clath go get a cup of coffee as that decadence and mediocrity thingie is pretty much here.

Clathrate? Just curious-you an organic chemist or do you write with a lisp.

[frank-e1]

As long as she ain''t some kinda dog gawn libertarian!

[caldwellptr]

Those young kids today ....

I remember when .....

[rgoodiel]

The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.
~SOCRATES (469%u2013399 B.C.)attributed to Socrates by Plato--

%u201CBefore you go and criticize the younger generation, just remember who raised them.%u201D

[scienceman1-2009]

Since some have brought up rudeness. When I go out to the theater. The young kids just play with their cell phones during the movie and I get constant phone glare
from these BRATS!!!

[porkeater]

Spare the rod spoil the child. I''ve seen little childred slap their mom across the face and the mom''s just kinda laughed and said "aww those kids are just so darned full of energy".

[porkeater]

(children)

[eggy1620]

This is just horrible. We need to return to the traditional relationships in which parents sold their pre-pubescent daughters to a neighbor family in exchange for a cow and a butter churn.

[rustycarpet]

Being one of these young "dumb" kids that you all are talking about. I am 21 married and a kid. I hate my generation. Texting,cell phones period, and stupid television shows that show the same thing different people. Look at everything today, Corruption, war, lies, and poverty among young people who have the education to get a job but are stuck in low end work. As a society we are ALL STUPID SHEEP that do nothing but follow the herd. Except I think sheep are smarter than us

[rustycarpet]

But who cares how they are living their life. You all should focus on your own lives and trying to better this world actively rather than just complaining all the time