Girls' Halloween Costumes Getting Sexy

Family Therapist Tells How To Handle It If Your Young Daughter Wants To Wear Such An Outfit

(CBS)  Halloween may be all about having fun, but some costumes for young girls are trending sexier and sexier. Some of the risqué ones are aimed at girls as young as five.

Examples, in the minds of some observers, include the Bratz Cheerleader costume (for girls five-to-seven), the MJR Flirt (it just says "small" and is an Army skirt with a studded belt), Wonder Woman (for four-to-six-year-olds), the Bratz Bumble Bee (for five-to-seven-year-olds), and the Punky Pirate (for five-to-seven-year-olds).

Why is this happening, and what can parents do to dissuade their daughters from wearing such outfits?

"We used to see this only in the little beauty pageants for little girls, and there, it was the one arena where it was OK," marriage and family therapist Dr. Jane Greer told co-anchor Maggie Rodriguez on The Early Show Wednesday. "I think, now, that desire to be pretty and attractive has spilled over into being sexy, and so it's hard to make that distinction; (the trend affects) little girls, starting at 5 years old, even under, and going older.

"They all want to grow up. Remember, when we were younger, we wanted to wear our mother's clothes, step into her shoes. Now, being grown-up, ala Lindsay Lohan, means being sexy, low-cut jeans, mid-drifts. And, that's what they want."

So, Rodriguez asked, does it boil down to changes in role models and movies and TV shows?

"I think, most definitely," Greer responded. "The icons now are very different. It used to be the Wicked Witch and the Good Witch little girls wanted to dress up as. Now, they want to be pop stars, they want to be rock stars. They want to be out, there and that's all the, you know, leads to the peer pressure. That's all the motivating that goes on, to put on those pretty little costumes."

Then, what can a parent say if their daughter expresses a desire to wear a costume that happens to be sexy -- say, that of a superhero?

"Before you talk a child out of anything," Greer replied, "first, see if you can find out why -- what is it about that particular costume, that particular role model that they're pushing for. Because there may be qualities and traits to that superwoman or wonder woman that are really valuable and redeeming, and that you can help them in terms of their self-esteem and body image. So ask why.

"The next thing is see if you can distract them or help them to focus on other possibilities, other options that they might have that capture the elements of that particular quality -- the strength, the power, being somebody who's going to go in and rescue and save people. But, in another form. Who else could they be? What else could they do?"

And Greer urged parents not to give in, because there's "a consequenc" to giving in. "It's really important, as a parent, if you feel in your gut this is not the right time or the right costume, you don't want them to go along with it because of the peer pressure, you want to encourage their individuality. But at the same time, there comes a point where you have to say 'No.' And be aware that you're saying 'No' is protecting their innocence, it's really protecting them. You can say, 'Look, you'll be able to do this, you're gonna get there. There'll be a time ahead when you can be that bumblebee or that sexy cheerleader, but not this year. ... That's the job of the parents, to keep the limits in check," and be the boss.

[dragyn30]

There has been such a decline in decent costumes, most of what I see for teens and tweens is trashy to say the least!

Like another poster on the site who is looking to see those *** costumes and what will they try to do to the girls they see in them.

My daughters and I compromise on some - we find ways to add to them without taking to much away from the fun of dressing up!

Allowing your child especially a girl in this day and age dress in *** or provocative attire is only asking for trouble, most of the young girls have no idea whatsoever what that image conjures up.

[NYJester]

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[NYJester]

I insist on compromise with the kids and their costumes, esp. my daughter. There''s just too many trashy options out there.

For the record, I found great (and safe) costumes here this year and would highly recommend it:

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[berniejanet9]

Seriously you have to be a parent first and a friend second, there is a difference between trendy and *** and as mothers we know the difference. Before you pick out that *** costume remember that there are pedifiles out there that LOVE holloween!!

[niki90210]

My 9 year old daughter is going as Dita Von Teese the burlesque and fetish Star. I don''t see anything wrong with that, in fact I think she is ahead of her time.