July 14, 2008 5:34 PM

Doris Day: Why she left Hollywood

Actress/singer Doris Day, in a June 1989 file photo.

Actress/singer Doris Day, in a June 1989 file photo. (AP Photo)

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When life seemed so much simpler in America - a half century or so ago - Doris Day was America's sweetheart, the beloved "girl next door" and a huge recording and movie star.

"Doris Day is, to this day, the number one female box office star of all time, she's the only one who was number one for four years in a row," David A. Kaufman, author of a new biography about the star, told correspondent Jerry Bowen. "That was never true of Elizabeth Taylor, Greta Garbo, Katherine Hepburn, of anyone else!"

In the 1950s and 60s it was hard to find a movie magazine without her beaming face on the cover.

Photos: Doris Day

And her leading men came from the "A-list" of the day, says Kaufman, whose new unauthorized biography "Doris Day, The Untold Story Of The Girl Next Door," was released in June.

"Well, famously Rock Hudson, Cary Grant, James Cagney, Jimmy Stewart," said Kaufman.

Add Frank Sinatra, Kirk Douglas and Jack Lemmon to the list, too.

But Doris Day's reality, like that of that long ago America, was more complex and in some ways darker than the bubbling, everything's coming up roses public image.

At the end of her career she not only left Hollywood. She stopped being Doris Day.

For nearly 30 years now she's lived near Carmel, California. She's an avid animal rights advocate nursing strays back to health on her small ranch. And she's known as "Clara" to most friends - a nickname given to her early in her career.

She's rarely seen in public and rarely heard except for one day each year.

On her birthday a local radio station plays the songs she made famous...and Doris and her alter ego, Clara call in to say thanks.

"Well, her first big hit was 'Sentimental Journey' which she recorded at the very end of the Second World War," Kaufman said. "And it became very popular for that reason with the, with the soldiers abroad who wanted to come home and with their wives here who wanted them home."

It was 1939 when a 17-year-old Doris Kappelhoff of Cincinnati, Ohio began her singing career with the big bands of that era. Her stage name became Day and she was off on the ride of her life.

But for all the success that would follow in song and film, she never found what she wanted most.

"The only thing she ever really wanted was to have a happy marriage and a happy family life," Kaufman said. "And it's the one thing she never had. She was married four times, but she was ultimately not happy with any of her husbands."

Doris Day performs in a scene from "Love Me or Leave Me."

(Credit: AP)
By the time she'd won acclaim for her first film, "Romance On The High Seas" in 1948, Day had been married and divorced twice and left with a baby boy. Her first husband beat her. Her second abandoned her.

At age 25 her search for Mr. Right had gone very wrong. But her film career was taking off. And her films were giving a boost to her recordings.

"'It's Magic,' which is in her first film, 'Romance On The High Seas' and then after that the next biggest song is 'Secret Love' from 'Calamity Jane.' And after that comes 'Que Sera, Sera,' which ends up being the biggest of all, of her entire career," said Kaufman.

Cabaret singer Mary Cleere Haran created a one woman show dedicated to the songs of Doris Day.

"She had a lovely lullaby quality to her voice and I think everybody responds to that. And I think it's universal" said Haran.

Haran also wrote and produced a PBS documentary "Sentimental Journey." Now 17 years old, it features a rare interview in which Day reflected on her two decades of filmmaking - 39 films in all - and the one she liked most.

"'Calamity Jane' (was) probably my favorite movie," Day said in the interview. "Because that's the real me. But when I was a little girl I'd stumble. I loved climbing trees and you know skating and doing all the things that the boys did. Yet I loved dolls."

Her most popular film may have been "Pillow Talk," the first of three movies she did with Rock Hudson when both stars were number one at the box office.

Their on-screen chemistry was matched by a lifelong off screen friendship. Founded in part, said Kaufmann, on the secret lives they shared, which included her troubled marriages and his homosexuality.

"I think, without ever discussing it, that they could relate to being basically the opposite to what their images suggested," said Kaufman. "For example the girl next door was not above having affairs...at least according to her alleged lovers...baseball player Maury Wills - which she denied - and Mickey Mantle, about which she was silent.

Behind-the-scenes for 17 years of her life was Marty Melcher, agent and husband number three. He tightly managed her career as their marriage quickly became a business relationship.

Day made the money and by accident or design Marty squandered it all. When Melcher died, Day learned her $23 million dollar fortune was actually a $400,000 debt.

"The Doris Day show," a situation comedy, saved her. It ran for five years on CBS and paid her legal bills as she fought her late husband's business partners to recover her losses. Eventually she won some of it back:

"I just knew that justice would prevail," Day said at the time. "I've known it all along."

By the early 1970s her career was largely over and her fourth marriage was failing. Despite offers she never took on another TV show until 1985 when she agreed to a cable show devoted to pets. It was called "Doris Day's Best Friends."

The appearance of her human best friend was sad and shocking.

Rock Hudson, gaunt and ghostly pale and gravely ill with AIDS was Day's guest. The illness had opened the door on his secret homosexuality. Hudson died two and a half months after appearing with Day. And she began her retreat from the public eye.

"She looks like Doris Day - a little older, but Doris Day. She still looks great," said actress Kay Ballard, a long-time friend and occasional visitor to Day's Carmel Valley retreat. "She spends time making food for the animals. It's so funny, she has them on a vegetarian diet, and you know she really, she just adores her animals.'

Ballard was a regular on the old Doris Day show. She says her old friend doesn't always answer her phone calls - sometimes doesn't even answer the door. Most days she just wants to be left alone.

"I just think the disappointment she's had in marriages is what turned her off of people and turned her to animals," said Ballard. "And they never disappoint you."

Life may not have been perfect for the girl next door. There were quite a few bumps along the road.

But for Doris Kappelhoff from Cincinnati, Ohio, it's been a pretty amazing journey.

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by hush_puppy November 20, 2011 2:37 PM EST
She is to this day a remarkable woman who deserves to be left alone.
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by puzzler125 November 13, 2011 12:22 PM EST
Sloppy editing: it's Kaye Ballard not Kay Ballard.
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by Bojax39 October 31, 2011 2:12 PM EDT
Think one of my favorite Day films is "Teacher's Pet", a little black and white gem released in 1958 and co-starring Clark Gable.

Other favorites include "The Thrill Of It All", "Please Don't Eat The Daises" and, of course, "Calamity Jane"

These films were instant Americana and are still fun to watch today.
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by daavid123 September 18, 2011 1:24 PM EDT
I "met" Doris Day several years ago in Carmel. I had taken a day road trip to Carmel, with a friend of mine and my dog. We looked around then decided to get something to eat. It was the week-end and the place was packed, plus I didnt really have the money to buy lunch at one of the chic restaurants, so we decided to go over to Safeway and buy and sandwhich, chips, and drink.

I pulled the car into a space at Safeway. Got our of the car, and here came Doris Day with a man pushing their cart. Their car was right next to mine. Doris Day was 4 feet from me. I said "Oh Miss Day its a pleasure to meet you". She just smiled and nodded her head. I said I'd like you to meet your biggest fan. Miss Day said "Im really in hurry..." And I said, " but not because you are a movie star or singer", then I pulled out Peanut, my rescue mixed Chihuahua, and I said "Cause you love dogs".

She took Peanut in her arms, coo'd over him, found out he was a rescue, talked a bit about her efforts to rescue dogs, I mentioned my mom got married to her song Que Sera, Sera. As she got into her car she said "Take good care of Peanut, Im HIS biggest fan!"
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by MalloryDavis August 8, 2011 5:35 AM EDT
Doris you are loved. My favorite DorisDay movie was BY THE LIGHT OF THE SILVERY MOON and ON MOONLIGHT BAY with GordonMcRae. Also BLACK LACE with Rex Harrison....and the movie LOVE ME OR LEAVE ME-with James Cagney...about RuthEtting...I tell ya...YOU ARE GREAT DORIS....Glad you take care of the critters...
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by loxey7 June 21, 2011 5:23 PM EDT
It's interesting how a movie character can touch your heart through their talent and gifts that come across the screen and into your home. I feel that there is more to this than just great acting and talent. When an actress can touch the lives of so many, then she is more than just a 'star' as Hollywood would call her. She has an inner strength and gift that many can sense, even as small children. Doris, if you are reading this, you are truly blessed, and the adversities you endured have made you, YOU!
I have loved every single one of your movies, but even more importantly, could see the sweet and special spirit behind that beautiful smile that was pretty much became like a sister or best friend. Obviously you have a large fan base, and will have for many years to come, even after you have left this earth. I wouldn't ever say I'm a star idol, or follower, and there are very few actors or actresses I have come to connect with that to this day, remain my favorite. You are definitely at the top! Thank you for sharing your talents and gifts with all us. My children love you as well, and I'm sure their children will adore you also.
And what a wonderful outlet you have to focus your attention and energy on animals that are easy victims. thank you for doing this! I hope you are well and happy, and enjoy these wonderful dedications to you on this article.
Best Wishes to you and your furry friends.
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by seime7 May 23, 2011 1:51 PM EDT
Hello World
I can not say how much Doris Day makes my day when I play Blue Skies. I just love her - and I feel so sad about the adversities in her life. I love Doris Day her voice, for some reason always fill me with hope for a better day tomorrow. Her voice - her voice - her voice- melodic wonderful and so very innocent. I have loved her persona ever since she use to say, "it's the USA....Cheverolet....." I forgot the words.
I probably am the only African American who still loves Doris Day...Live Long Honey
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by tumapacho July 17, 2011 9:29 AM EDT
Dinah Shore sang "See the USA in your Chevrolet" on her show. In the 50s, Dinah and Doris sang the same type of songs with similar gusto and polish.
by NilaMae July 17, 2009 10:17 AM EDT
I always thought Doris Day had the most beautiful figure. And a gorgeous voice.

And she was totally enjoyable in her movies; I never tire of watching them. Like THE PAJAMA GAME. ("There once was a man, who loved a wo-man!")

She could "steam" with anger like nobody else!

Thank you, Doris, for giving us so much entertainment.
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by TVJeff July 13, 2009 2:02 PM EDT
Doris Day starred in the film version of "Please Don't Eat the Daisies," which was based on a book by Jean Kerr, wife of Walter Kerr, who was a longtime legitimate theater critic at The New York Times. Patricia Crowley played the same role on TV.

That said, my parents really enjoyed her music and darn near wore out two of her record albums. I thought she was terrific, too, and I was only a child at the time.

I remember her appearing on "The Tonight Show" back in the '70s when McLean Stevenson, who co-starred with her on her sitcom, was guest host(apparently she didn't want to do the show unless only he hosted, not Carson). I'd never heard her be so candid before. It was wonderful. I understand her reticence to come out in public these days. Animals can be more accepting and loving and are sometimes better company than people can be. Thanks, Doris Mary Anne Kappelhoff, for giving us all those great songs and movies and your work on TV. What a great talent.
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by WGregory1 July 12, 2009 9:30 PM EDT
I loved her movies and her music. I watched her TV show as a kid, but I have to say, I just don't have any recollection of it much. They kept changing it from year to year, i.e., one year she was a widow living in the country with her father and kids, the next she'd be a single gal in the city. And I read her autobiography several years and remember wishing that I hadn't. But, yes, a sad life behind the Hollywood glamour. By the mid 60s, when movies were changing and becoming more realistic and gritty, she had become typecast. And Marty Melchor was still negotiating her contracts and signing her up for not-very-good movies like The Glass Bottom Boat.

So, yes, she fell out of favor but she was not as someone above so unkindly put it "washed up." However, I've read many times over the years that Mike Nichols wanted her for the part of Mrs. Robinson in the graduate (which Anne Bancroft would play) and that she turned it down b/c it ran counter to her image. One wonders if her movie career might've been extended if she had played that part. I always wanted her to make a comeback or show up on something.
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