Is "Sex" Making Young Men Anxious?

Therapists: More Men 18-30 Turning To Viagra, Similar Meds To Please Modern Women

(CBS)  Are the more demanding, powerful modern women out of the "Sex and the City" playbook so intimidating and threatening that a growing number of younger men are using Viagra and similar medications to help them cope?

Many therapists say it's happening -- more and more men aged 18-30 using "the little blue pill" and other drugs of its ilk to deal with performance anxiety stemming from the nature of the women they're dating.

The men say today's empowered women are very vocal about what they want in terms of intimacy, creating pressure that's leading to problems in the boudoir.

And, the therapists report, the overexposure of perfectly-proportioned and functioning male models in advertising, Web porn and elsewhere, which can create unrealistic fantasies, isn't helping any, either -- making men feel even more insecure.

"Absolutely," one young women on a Manhattan street told CBS News, "I think women know what they want, and are able to really speak their minds. And it's a fabulous thing!"

"Definitely," said another. "Girls do talk about their sexual lives and what they want in relationships more and more."

And a young man observed that, "There's more pressure on it these days."



On The Early Show Wednesday, sex therapist, Dr. Judy Kuriansky, author of "Generation Sex," told co-anchor Harry Smith, "Guys are threatened. They're threatened. They can't take the powerful woman. ... They want the woman who is powerful, but they're threatened by her."

But relationship expert Steve Santagati, author of "The Manual," was having none of it. "Any guy who's gonna be intimidated by a strong woman -- she's not gonna be interested in, anyways," he said. ... "The characters in 'Sex and the City' -- the average guy does not look at these women as powerful. We look at powerful women as the doctors, the lawyers, the writers -- that kind of woman. These women are just high-maintenance, that's all. Men are not emasculated by strong women if they're a real man in the first place."

His advice? "Don't medicate if you're under 80!"

[juwboy]

Slightly off topic, but........

Has anyone else ever wondered why Moslem terrorists are so anxious to become suicide bombers/martyrs so they can be with 72 VIRGINS in Paradise.

What''s the attraction?

Why wouldn''t they want to be with 72 experienced, versatile women?

[smurfcrusher]

babykilller: Clearly you''ve never been with a virgin. Slow and very very gentle with her well-being in mind, and... wow.

It takes a developed sense of humor to laugh at a joke! (re, a few posts ago).

[xraytwonine]

wonder how much money/viagra pills this *** reporter got for spreading this *** rumor/opinion

[estabwary]

first, they better google the ''numbing effects of nonoxynol-9 ''.

[voxpopulus]

We should remember too that there''s an entire sexual anxiety industry out there. Unscrupulous operators who want to sell you stuff to make you longer, harder, slimmer, sexier. Just look at the ads this page links to. Look at the spam mails you get. SOMEBODY buys this stuff, and it ONLY exists because they can convince enough people to be insecure. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[voxpopulus]

More seriously though, the people commenting in the article are talking nonsense. The women''s comments in particular tell us more about THEIR psyche than that of men. Overwhelmingly young men are using Viagra for FUN. Not anxiety. When you''re young in particular, there''s no such thing as too much. In sexuality, BOTH men and women are often vulnerable. Sometimes things don''t function because you just *** want it TOO much, and it takes a bit of time to get over the anxiety. Put it this way, if women are finding men don''t do it for them, they can turn to women, who have no *** at all (one hopes). Or buy something battery powered. If you needed a rock hard erection to satisfy a woman, there''d be no lesbians.

[krisd999-2009]

THE TRUTH: Guys need Viagra not because women are powerful, but because the women are old, ugly and unexciting. They''ll need something to keep them from puking too. No Viagra is needed to do young pretty women. Give an 18 yold to Bob Dole and he''ll forget the Viagra.

[smurfcrusher]

Our culture is to blame for this. We men are programmed to do anything, anything for the woman.

And some of us do. Just the other night I saw a movie, "The Notebook". Near the end of the movie people are ''ooh, that poor woman...!''

What about the poor guy? He has to read a whole friggin'' notebook just to get a little booty!

[voxpopulus]

I see now that one o r g a s m is a bannable word. But multiple orgasms are not. CBC, get your act together

[voxpopulus]

"Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake entire relationships"

Faking an *** IS faking a relationship. And Sharon Stone should know it.

[dan9111]

More anti-male drivel from our friends in the media. Combine that with the guns aimed at every straight man''s head by the anti-family court system, this is why being a straight male is looking less and less desirable every day.

[kamsack50]

bhoogren
They can''t fake a sexual relationship.
Sharon Stone would be the first to up and walk if it weren''t just right - in a marriage or after a party.

[Latrocinor]

"Women can fake orgasms, but men can fake entire relationships"

--Sharon Stone

[erasmus81]

They can get intoxicated while the guy has to be careful he doesn''''t get so drunk that he can''''t get an erection. Posted by kamsack50 at 09:38 PM : Jun 18, 2008

Or then there is the guy that CAN get an erection but can''t come because he is too drunk. At least that is what my mother-in-law used to tell me about my father-in-law.
Do you think she was lying?

[feelfree4u]

Re: "Is "***" Making Young Men Anxious?"

Does the Pope *** in the woods?

Is a bear Catholic?

[drinuk]

It''s got me anxious, I''m 64, Where am I going to get it again, my sources are all dying off.

[kamsack50]

Women don''t have to perform. Where''s their performing?
They could be dead drunk and do it.
Actually, this is what always makes parties more fun for women. They can get intoxicated while the guy has to be careful he doesn''t get so drunk that he can''t get an erection.

[voxpopulus]

"Men have always expected women to perform whether they wanted to or not."

Date better men.

[closethippy1]

WORTH REPEATING (FROM ARTICLE ABOVE):

But relationship expert Steve Santagati, author of "The Manual," was having none of it. "Any guy who''s gonna be intimidated by a strong woman -- she''s not gonna be interested in, anyways," he said. ... "The characters in ''*** and the City'' -- the average guy does not look at these women as powerful. We look at powerful women as the doctors, the lawyers, the writers -- that kind of woman. These women are just high-maintenance, that''s all. Men are not emasculated by strong women if they''re a real man in the first place."
His advice? "Don''t medicate if you''re under 80!"

I love how he differentiates between high maintanence and really powerful women. It the HM girls who''ll try to intimidate men because they think they are all that.

[voxpopulus]

I simply cannot believe that s e x is a banned word on CBS. Are you people insane?