This Gold Star Mom A "Black Sheep"
Peggy Buryj Wants Truth About Friendly Fire Death Of Her Son In Iraq; He Was Shot In Back
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Soldiers Deaths Clouded By Lie
Mary Tillman and Peggy Buryj believe the Army is withholding the truth about their sons' deaths by friendly fire. Maggie Rodriguez reports.
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Pat Tillman
A look at the former NFL player who died fighting as an Army Ranger in Afghanistan.
Much later, they learned he was actually shot in a case of friendly fire.
Pat Tillman's death resulted in a national outpouring of grief. Tributes were paid to his heroic life and his heroic death. But, none of the Army's versions of how he died was true.
And Mary Tillman isn't alone in frustration.
Just two weeks after Pat Tillman lost his life, Army Specialist Jesse Buryj was killed in Iraq.
His mother, Peggy Buryj, was told he died in a humvee accident, protecting his unit as it came under attack.
But months later, Peggy learned her son had been shot in the back.
And the story kept changing.
"He believed in honor, integrity, loyalty, duty," Peggy says. "Where was their loyalty to him, when they weren't telling his parents and his wife what happened to him?"
The final jolt came with the official autopsy report, as Peggy read the words "friendly fire."
"It was like losing him all over again, burying him all over again," she remembers.
Like Mary Tillman, Peggy Buryj is on a mission to find the truth.
From her Canton, Ohio home Monday -- four years to the day her son was killed, Peggy told Early Show co-anchor Maggie Rodriguez she has "No idea" why the Army "had to lie. There was no good reason in my mind. They should have told the truth from the very beginning. They just made it worse."
On "60 Minutes, Mary Tillman said, "When you're lied to, your brain goes all over the map, and things that aren't really true can appear to be true."
She said later, "This isn't about us, it's about what they've done to the public. This is a public deception."
Peggy says she agrees, and, "What's in your mind is worse than what the truth will ever be. In the wee hours of the morning, your mind goes places you do not want it to go."
Mary Tillman said, at one point, things got so crazy, she actually wondered if her son had been murdered.
Did that ever cross Peggy's mind?
"Oh, yes. (I thought) 'Did they hate him? Did they do it on purpose?' Your mind goes a million different directions when you don't have the truth."
Peggy says the truth may never be known about Jesse's death: "I don't think there is any evidence. They threw away the bullet. There's no proving who shot my son now. There's no proving it. The evidence is gone.
"I would love somebody to take responsibility for my son's death. But I don't think that's ever going to happen, never."
Peggy says she's "a Gold Star mom's worst nightmare," explaining that, "When you're a military family, the idea is that you have complete faith in your leaders and, God forbid, when you lose a son, everything will be handled properly. And I am the painful reminder to them that the military can lie. I think, then, it's hard for them (Gold Star moms) to realize that my story is not like their story. I'm not waving the flag higher and faster, and I'm not going to try to justify the war because my son died in it. This is not about politics and it's not about patriotism. This is -- for me -- just about getting the truth.
"When you hold onto the honor, the loyalty, the dignity, and all that for me has been shattered, so how can I be in with a bunch of gold star families when I'm the black sheep because everything was shattered?"
Peggy says President Bush promised her in 2004 that he'd seek answyersd about Jesse's death, but they've never come, even though he told her, "Sometimes it just takes a phone call from the president."
She showed Early Show cameras Jesee's purple heart, but said, "This is last thing my son gave to me, the last physical thing my son gave to me, but I really don't know (how I feel about it) because they lied so much. My son's blood was not spilt because of the enemy. And I really don't know if he deserved it. And I really don't take comfort with it, because of so many lies surrounding it."
What will to mark today's grim anniversary?
"Me and my daughter, we're going go to the cemetery and visit Jesse. Take him some flowers. Go remember Jess."
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See all 55 Comments"Friendly fire" is a fact of war and has been since the very first war was fought (probably started by a great ancestor of the Bush family!). What people fail to realize is how often it happens and how much the government tries to "cover it up"! If the real truth were ever known, NO ONE would join the military!
SIG HEIL, BUSH!!!!
sig heil, more of the same, McCain!!!
...then the recruitment rate would drop to near zero!
(In other words, the amount of friendly fire incidents are astounding to say the least. But in combat situations, it is bound to happen due to the chaos of battle).
Posted by walt1944 at 12:24 PM : May 05, 2008
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Exactly what my colleagues and friends have said to me walt.
That''s something the neocons are experts at.
Shooting in the back.
Conning the public.
Sending young men and women to die for their greed.
936 Lies.
4070 Dead Americans because of those lies.
$3,000,000,000,000 American taxpayers dollars squandered.
Hallburton profits through the roof.
Gas at $4 a gallon.
The mighty dollar worthless!
Heckuva job Liar-in-Chief!
As Harry Powell said, "A liar is an abomination in the eyes of the Lord."
G W Bush is an abomination in the eyes of the Lord!
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Whew!! The skunks are back!!!
Posted by demslie at 01:33 PM : May 05, 2008
Interesting post.
Shows that the lobotomy operation you had was a great success!
To the neocons, truth doesn''t matter, public perception does.
In other words, it''s all about conning the public.
We can add 935 lies to start a war of greed.
Peggy''s lost is a tragedy and I wish her the best and that somehow the truth will be revealed to her. I can''t image what these last four year have been like, not knowing.
God Bless Peggy & Family
This war has been nothing but one lie after another. I just cannot see how so many people still back Bush.
I look on it much like k9 cop units (which I admire greatly). When a handler sics his dog on innocent people, who''s to blame? The dog? or the handler?
The American people is spending billions and billions of dollars in training and equipment to have a military defend the US. Young men and women sign up and agree to give their lives if needed to keep us safe and free. So why are we electing such poor, irresponsible handlers? and why are we continuing to let these handlers stay in control?
"obliterate iran hillary" and "100 years in Iraq McCain" supporters take note! Our military is a good asset, but it''s only as good as the handlers.
Posted by skulldigger7 at 02:32 PM : May 05, 2008
Yes, and it was a heckuva lot better than what has happened with draft-dodger Bush and draft dodger Cheney being in charge.
Mr. Pot, let me introduce you to Mr. Kettle...
We''d better take a look at who has voted against a decent GI Bill, against 15-month stateside deployments after 15-month tours, and against full funding for our soldiers'' health care. Take a look at who wants to dismantle the VA and turn vets'' care over to "the market".
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Posted by atrueGodis12 at 03:02 PM : May 05, 2008
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You are right, the job of President is a tough one EXPECIALLY if you do it the way say a Franklin Roosevelt handled it. What this piece of human trash, YOU call a President did was NOT acceptable though. He INTENTIONALLY and with the WILL of THOUGHT LIED to the people of this nation, took troops away from the fight against those who attacked us and Attacked another nation for OIL!! I don''t know anything lower than that. NO American should die in Combat UNLESS it''s NECESSARY and OIL or any of the other LIES we''ve been told about it does NOT meet that test. By the way, a YEAR and 26 DAYS in the jungle of Vietnam provides me the right to comment as well. Sieg Heil Bush
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Posted by atrueGodis12 at 03:06 PM : May 05, 2008
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Really? I beg to differ. I think I and a whole lot more American''s would find it quite satisfying to have a court of law convict George W. Bush for Treason... Cheney with him. I KNOW it would make the Tillman family feel better as well. Sieg Heil Bush
from the now adopted HOME STATE OF THE IODIOT.
Frank Bowers down here in Austin, TX
I do not trust this administration.
I did not vote for them.
They have lied to all of us.
Truth doesn''t matter to the neocons, public perception does.
In other words, it''s all about conning the public.
Very bad deal, but there again this is war we are talking about and they are scared for their life as well.
And there is no doubt that some of those killed are killed on purpose. In other words MURDERED.
It happened in Viet Nam and was know as Fraging. It happened in World War-II, and will continue to happen as long as we have War%u2019s around the earth.
This business of the military not coming clean up front is crazy. Because it just makes matters worse for them and for the families of the dead soldier. In these kind of cases the question as to WHO fired the fatal shot or threw the grenade is never known.
Was the military honest with America about Jessica Lynch? No, they invented a story that she herself said was a lie.
Were they honest with America or Pat Tillman''s family? No, again a huge lie!
The Pentagram is in the business of exploiting people''s patriotism and killing people. Why would anyone believe them in the first place?
Posted by blondchic at 07:41 PM : May 05, 2008
What you just said is that Our military is nothing but a bunch of ''lowlifes'' that can''t make it in the ''real world''. please don''t ever tell them who you are, you might not like the results.
Posted by Neo267 at 08:04 PM : May 05, 2008
AMEN TO THAT............
Posted by blondchic at 08:43 PM : May 05, 2008
I made my point clear, you didn''t. I phrased mine so there was no misunderstanding. I am neither brainwased nor brainless. please go back and read what was ''said''.
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Bush started this war. It had nothing to do with 9/11. Everything bad associated with Iraq is his fault. He is responsible for every death, for every no bid contract and for destroying our country to keep that horrible mistake afloat. It IS George Bush''s fault!
They started with 935 lies to bring us into war.
As Harry Powell said, "A liar is an abomination in the eyes of the Lord."
George W Bush and his entire administration are abominations in the eyes of the Lord."
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