Author: Women Lie More, Better Than Men

And About Everything From Money To Infidelity To Plastic Surgery, Says Susan Shapiro Barash

(CBS)  Women lie more frequently than men, and they're much more clever about it and talented at it, to boot, a new book concludes.

In "Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth About Women and Deception," Susan Shapiro Barash cites an online survey of 500 women in asserting that females fib about everything from love, to money, to plastic surgery.

Women are also much more prone to telling "little white lies" to try to keep from hurting someone's feelings, Barash contends.

On The Early Show Tuesday, CBS News correspondent Bianca Solorzano explored the topic, and co-anchor Maggie Rodriguez chatted about it with actress and comedian Nancy Giles, who's a contributor on CBS News Sunday Morning and Dr. Jennifer Hartstein, a clinical psychologist in New York City.

Solorzano says the book "takes an honest look at why women lie," seeking "some truth about dishonesty." Some 75 percent of the women who responded to the survey said they lie at work to keep their job. Half admitted lying about how much they like being a mother. And 75 percent fessed up to half-truths about shopping (telling their husbands they spent less than they really did).

Hartstein says, "It's really a social thing. We don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. We don't want to put anybody down. So, we really work very hard to keep the peace, keep it easy, be nice, be cordial. But you can just say, 'Oh, it's great,' and walk away, or you don't have to say anything at all, because silence is golden sometimes!"

Giles kidded that, "In many ways, we sort of have to (lie). It's part of our DNA -- just to manage, to keep our lives in balance. If you told the truth all the time, you'd be exhausted!"

[jo531-2009]

As a woman, I am very sensitive to liars, whether men or women. The men that I have met lie, good old Southerners. They lie about everything. When they don''t want to be obvious about lying, there is that telltale silence. My inlaws lied all of the time. When you lie about the little things, you lie about the big things. Lying becomes a habit ... or not. When it becomes a habit, the liar does not recognize that they are lying. The honest person does not always have the skills to recognize the liar, until time reveals the lie in a very damaging way.

In truth, people tell you what they want YOU to hear so that they can do what they want to do. That is a liar.

[messingers]

the word of God tells us All liars will have there place in the lake that burns with fire.(hell) It is sad we teach lying is okay to our children . Parents that lie to there children will one day be found out and the children loose there respect for them when that happens. It is time to stand for truth and live. You will be surprised how peaceful you sleep at night when you live a life of truth . Your choice.

[valentin73]

It is not surprising that a book tells on woman being better liars than men. Both lie, Period! In a world that is much ado, about women, why not put out a book on women that lie. Like all the other pancakes on women, it will sell. To a certain degree women lie and are very clever about it, judging from a Man''s World opinion. But men wrote the book on lies, forget little white lies, But fat manly lies. This author is NOT going to like me, I see nothing but propaganda here, and why not, this is America, isn''t it. I can tell when a woman is lying to me, her nose turns blue..............

[merriwaltz]

As a woman, I am very offended by the timing of the Early Shows''s book choice "Women Lie More, Better than Men". This was obviously timed to air the morning of a very important primary. It bothers me that CBS allowed this woman bashing to happen like it is "truth".These young women taking part in this can''t see what damage is being done to "women in general" by the media who want to hurt Hilary Clinton.It feels like the attack is turning on "women". The news media has always been hard on women.Young women are too often caught up in their own ego''s and ambitions to see what they are doing to their gender. TV news and programing historicly flatter the young beautiful women and as soon as they get the experience and knowledge to have worthy opinions and make decisions, most seem to lose ground. It''s time for young women to see what is happening and start showing respect for women in general.

[goldsummer]

"If you told the truth all the time, you''d be exhausted!"

No small wonder I am always tired !! Love the way the survey was done... online. Perceptions of online lives are aften twisted and warped just like the book. IF I was a editor I''d be telling Susan Shapiro Barash to redo her research with REAL PEOPLE.Only then may her results of 75% come clean.

[mgsmom2004]

Well said GoldSummer.

[questionnews]

I wonder where the "Does this dress make me look fat?" question fits in this story. Men who don''t lie about that are doomed.

[killtheliars]

this is why hillary is a bad choice for President. Not only do they lie they get all moody and use their feminine problems as an excuse for being ****** and needing extra time off from work that sort of thing. As a guy I don''t care if you feel bloated angry sad whatever, just shut up and work 50 hours a week like us guys do

[docadams3]

Actually, this is a good reason to vote Hillary. W is a terrible liar and see what happened?

[tomanyt]

merriwaltz...Sour grapes??? I''m sure it was some sort of conspiracy by CBS to bash women. Please. Grow up. Women have been bashing men for a long time now. What goes around, comes around.

[dogsoul]

"The news media has always been hard on women.Young women are too often caught up in their own ego''''s and ambitions to see what they are doing to their gender."

Oh puh-LEASE...

Just turn on your tv - guys are always... and I mean ALWAYS potrayed as hapless, urge driven, inconsiderate, louts... and they''re almost always shown as weak doafs compared to women... and why??? 3 reasons:

1 - any good storyline needs someone to beat up, and men are the last of the ''fair game''
2 - women like you would scream from the mountain tops if there were even a whif of the same toward women... kinda like you are now
3 - men have been attacked so consistently for the last 50 years that they''ve simply gotten used to it.

and yet women STILL think they''re getting a raw deal...

typical

[cmp271]

Women need to respect each other more and support each other more. Men are the enemy at times. No lie!!!

Women may lie to keep the peace, men lie to get a piece!!


If women tell the truth to others they are called a b-i-t-c-h. If men do they are honest. BS!!! I tell women the truth, we deserve to hear it.

Also, TV shows lately are awful to men, commercials too. It is time for those shows etc to stop also. A good example is the awful Toyota commercial. Why would I be enticed to want one of their cars after they show a man being attacked by a nursing animal-a badger. Badgers are known to be tough to run into in nature. They are not friendly. The commercial also makes a negative remark and inference about nursing females. It needs to be taken off the air. It is not funny. boycott Toyota until they take it off the air. We shouldn''t have to see men abused on tv either.

[goldsummer]

Dyed hair. False eyelashes. Concealing makeup. Padded bras. Girdles. Support pantyhose. High heels. Fake compliments to friends. Playing "hard to get".
daffy64

toupe''s,socks and banana''s stuffed down the front of pants,yes I''ll call you in the morning,yes I respect you,lets not forget the male mechanic that tells females it cost $700 for a car part when they would charge another male counterpart only $70.Not to mention (heaven or hell forbid !!)"What lip stick on my collar. I don''t know what you are talking about.Your crazy!!"

Don''t get me started !!!

[mamaditto]

"Susan Shapiro Barash cites an online survey of 500..."

First of all, 500 does not seem like much of sample to base these conclusions on.

Second, how do we know that Susan Shapiro Barash isn''t lying? :)

http://360.yahoo.com/mamaditto

[sues13]

man who abuse lies to own mom for girl. Mom a straight honest sweet lady teach not lie. Girl story change all tyme. They just mean prey on old woman, break her heart, get sick chest pains but no care. He do this after meet girl befor good. why people lie and so mean to old just to get laugh.