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CBS/ February 11, 2009, 3:25 PM

Pastor Issues "30-Day Sex Challenge"

The pastor of a southwest Florida church opened many eyes and ears Sunday when he said he wants married couples in the congregation to -- have sex for 30 days in a row.

Oh -- and he wants singles to steer clear of such frolicking for the same length of time.

Head pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church in Ybor City, outside Tampa, says his "30-Day Sex Challenge" is one way of taking on the nation's 50-percent divorce rate.

"About ten years ago," With explained on The Early Show Wednesday, "my wife (of 18 years) and I were struggling in our marriage, and we realized that we needed something that was going to help us in our marriage, and we found this information from Dr. Willard Harley about learning each others' emotional needs. And we began to study it and apply it to our marriage, and it revolutionized our marriage, and we know that, you know, God is the one who talks about love and authors love, and he knows that he wants us to be intimate and connected with each other on a daily basis."

Wirth told CBS News he believes most people go into marriage "without really knowing each other emotionally, without knowing their partner's emotional needs, and this (the challenge) is a way for people to discover their greatest needs -- both married and non-married couples."

He cited a recent study out that found that 20 million Americans who are married have sex fewer than 10 times a year. "People's jobs, houses, kids and other things get in the way," he says. "I think men really need to reevaluate their wife's needs. We so often come home and kick off our shoes and pick up the remote and don't offer to help with dinner, don't offer to help with the kids -- and then we just expect fireworks in the bedroom. But we need to meet (our wives' needs) on intimate levels."

The reaction has been "overwhelmingly positive," Wirth says. "Both married and single members are excited about it. My wife has fielded a bunch of e-mails saying that it's opened a line of communication in some marriages that they haven't had since they were married."

Among the couples taking part: congregants Doug and Lorena Webber.

"We're sitting in church one day, and we heard about this challenge," Doug told Early Show co-anchor Harry Smith, "and we said, 'That's perfect. We can do anything for 30 days!' And the more you dig into it, we're, like, 'We can certainly do this for 30 days! ' "

Lorena says, "We're just trying to figure out a way to meet each others' emotional needs, and that's the biggest thing about this. It's more than physical. It's about getting to know each other again."

"It's much more than the physical aspect," Doug agreed, "so, it's really helping us refocus on our marriage."

To see the church's blog on the challenge, click here.
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nothappyatall says:
"Unfortunately most people are religios INSTEAD of having a personal relationship with the one and only Living... god, satan and the goats.
Shannoah7"

Well said, couldnt have said it better ;)
A personal relationship, I guess that includes s3x too!
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nothappyatall says:
"Rational adults understand that the Bible was written by false "prophets."

Posted by Candide777"

True, except in stinkingprick''s case, he still believes in the tooth fairy, goblins in the closet, Santa Claus, Santa''s elves, flying reindeer and ph yeah- gezus and the band in the sky who fly in big chariots but wont step foot here because we are all too FILTHY DIRTY and terrible ''sinners'' for their hoLy azzes to even look at, let along actually TOUCH or communicate directly with!
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nothappyatall says:
"The Bible was written by... Youre simply wrong. Period. If you took the time to find out that EVERY ONE of the prophesies in the Bible have HAPPENED to the second you''''d change your mind."

Do your homework! the bibull was written by MEN over a long period of time AFTER this gezus character supposedly lived- like someone today writing about the detailed life of Christopher Columbus 500 years after the fact. Its cobbled together from a selection of MANY books, some were omitted, ever wonder WHY? I sure dod, especially knowing how subversive and sinister humans ARE.



"About the pastor: that s3x is for those bound in marriage only."

LOL, marriage has a 50% FAILURE rate, so I guess that wont help much, besides, *** is for ALL to enjoy, that is why males produce unlimited sperm their entire lives while a femals eggs are limited in number and most are dead/gone by menopause.


"If youre still not married after 30 days then you should STILL be abstainate.
shannoah7"

Yeah RIGHT, LOL like thats going to happen, Im single and will NEVER marry, my animals I consider to be my life partners, I dont need to call it a marriage, its a bond the same as one however.


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candide777 says:
If you took the time to find out that EVERY ONE of the prophesies in the Bible have HAPPENED to the second you''''d change your mind.
Posted by shannonh7 at 08:49 AM : Feb 22, 2008

First of all, even I can make a few predictions about some events that will be remotely similar to things that will actually happen over the next two thousand years. Secondly, most of the Bible''s predictions have NOT happened, not even close. Third, the Bible is full of self-contradiction, which is enough for any rational person to understand that whatever it is, it is most certainly NOT the word of God.

If you took the time to read the Bible, you''d realize this.
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shannonh7 says:
The nanny caught mistreating the twins was in the wrong. But the person who was MOST in the wrong was the mother who opted to farm her children out to a stranger to raise while she neglected them all day so she could "do her thang". Shame on Lindsey Addison AND her husband.

MOTHERS, RAISE YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!
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shannonh7 says:
You''re right, RELIGION HAS HAD a negative effect on the world.

Unfortunately most people are religios INSTEAD of having a personal relationship with the one and only Living God, Jesus Christ.

Religion can save no one. Only Jesus can save.
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shannonh7 says:
The Bible was written by God. You''re simply wrong. Period. If you took the time to find out that EVERY ONE of the prophesies in the Bible have HAPPENED to the second you''d change your mind. Or you might simply remain like Pharoah and die in your stubborness. But that''s the beauty of Christ. He''ll never drag anyone into heaven kicking and screaming. You''ll go exactly where you want to go.

About the pastor: one thing. He challenged singles to abstain for only a month? Huh? He should be teaching them from the Word that *** is for those bound in marriage only. If you''re still not married after 30 days then you should STILL be abstainate.
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candide777 says:
Thats just it candide777 these people force their children into church and religion at a young age and this is a form of brainwashing, this is how stinkingprick got HIS start with his obsession with the Santa Claus in the sky. Posted by newster1 at 09:35 PM : Feb 21, 2008

True enough, very few people find "Jesus" who weren''t indoctrinated with him as children. Rational adults understand that the Bible was written by false "prophets."
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nothappyatall says:
Thats just it candide777 these people force their children into church and religion at a young age and this is a form of brainwashing, this is how stinkingprick got HIS start with his obsession with the Santa Claus in the sky. He outgrew the tooth fairy ghosts and the hairy monsters under the bed but stuck with the sky Santa who proffers rewards like the Xmas Santa proffers gifts on Dec 25th for all those GOOD little boys!

cdn1998; news flash- this article is about a CHURCH and religion and s3x, so comments on those issues are 100% fair game in this thread. Im going to show the same tolerance for religion and its believers and beliefs that the christians did for ''witches'' in the middle ages, g@ys, pagans and others.

Note the ePISScopal church is splitting up big over a g@y bishop, LOL its funny watching them destroy themselves from within over their own hate and bigotry!

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nothappyatall says:
LOL cdn1998, I know well how to spell the stupid fictional characters name, I choose to spell it with all the respect it deserves as geezus, or alternates. And I call it the biBULL because its full of BULL-CHIT, and the second half of the word ''..ble'' is pronounced ''bull'' so it fits nicely!

What makes you think I HAVENT attended mass? many times. What makes you think I HAVENT read the book OR went to parochial schools- St Josephs Catholic school in New York City in the 70s in fact was just one of them. I did all 3 As an adult I still CHOOSE to be 100% athiest and 100% against the church and religion- ALL organized mainstream religions- every one of them STINK.




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