Pastor Issues "30-Day Sex Challenge"

Wants Married Congregants To Have Sex For Month Straight, And Singles To Abstain

(CBS)  The pastor of a southwest Florida church opened many eyes and ears Sunday when he said he wants married couples in the congregation to -- have sex for 30 days in a row.

Oh -- and he wants singles to steer clear of such frolicking for the same length of time.

Head pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church in Ybor City, outside Tampa, says his "30-Day Sex Challenge" is one way of taking on the nation's 50-percent divorce rate.

"About ten years ago," With explained on The Early Show Wednesday, "my wife (of 18 years) and I were struggling in our marriage, and we realized that we needed something that was going to help us in our marriage, and we found this information from Dr. Willard Harley about learning each others' emotional needs. And we began to study it and apply it to our marriage, and it revolutionized our marriage, and we know that, you know, God is the one who talks about love and authors love, and he knows that he wants us to be intimate and connected with each other on a daily basis."

Wirth told CBS News he believes most people go into marriage "without really knowing each other emotionally, without knowing their partner's emotional needs, and this (the challenge) is a way for people to discover their greatest needs -- both married and non-married couples."

He cited a recent study out that found that 20 million Americans who are married have sex fewer than 10 times a year. "People's jobs, houses, kids and other things get in the way," he says. "I think men really need to reevaluate their wife's needs. We so often come home and kick off our shoes and pick up the remote and don't offer to help with dinner, don't offer to help with the kids -- and then we just expect fireworks in the bedroom. But we need to meet (our wives' needs) on intimate levels."

The reaction has been "overwhelmingly positive," Wirth says. "Both married and single members are excited about it. My wife has fielded a bunch of e-mails saying that it's opened a line of communication in some marriages that they haven't had since they were married."

Among the couples taking part: congregants Doug and Lorena Webber.

"We're sitting in church one day, and we heard about this challenge," Doug told Early Show co-anchor Harry Smith, "and we said, 'That's perfect. We can do anything for 30 days!' And the more you dig into it, we're, like, 'We can certainly do this for 30 days! ' "

Lorena says, "We're just trying to figure out a way to meet each others' emotional needs, and that's the biggest thing about this. It's more than physical. It's about getting to know each other again."

"It's much more than the physical aspect," Doug agreed, "so, it's really helping us refocus on our marriage."

To see the church's blog on the challenge, click here.

[ecgirl18]

I was wondering what the book was that the pastor and his wife read for there insperation.

[drinuk]

He holds stocks in all the condom companies, He''s got it covered.

[nolalou]

Reminds me of this joke:
A pastor preaches that *** should just be for procreation, and nothing else. He then asks for a show of hands, "who has s-e-x more than once a week?", and a bunch of hands from some of the younger couples goes up."For Shame, Thats way too often!" yells the preacher. He then asks "who has s-e-x more than once a month?" Another group of hands goes up, mostly the middle aged parishioners. "That''s better, but still too often!" yells the preacher. He finally asked "Who has s-e-x just once a year?" One very excited guy at the back of the church stands up and yells "Me, Me!". "That''s very good, but why are you so excited?" the preacher asks. "Because" said the man, "Tonight''s the night!!"

[easeup-2009]

30 days in a row....why that''s almost 60 minutes of ***!:)

[ccc071]

Why am I not surprised a man came up with this plan? Or, that he is following the plan of ANOTHER man. 30 days in row? Don''t make me laugh.

[excoachken]

So, that''s why I never get an answer when I call Ned Flander''s house.

[billpl-2009]

I probably could make it thru 30 days straight

...but only if we hired a hooker to make it interesting

[locke10]

Wow, billpl. Glad I''m not married to you.

[fibonacci_]

When Christians talk about *** I get an icky feeling.

[rushlimpdrug]

he said he wants married couples in the congregation to -- have *** for 30 days in a row.

With their partners?

In the congregation, while congregating?

I like God''s idea better -
40 days and forty nights - in a row !
Yeah! That''s better !

[dredre2k]

S ex doesn''t only strenghten your marriage bond, it''s GOOD FOR YOUR BODY! :-)
S ex is an excellent cardiovascular workout.

Unmarrieds abstaining for a month ... YEESH... won''t they get backed up? they need to have it too... Free love!

[jimfinster]

The pastor gives the command, and all the little sheep say baa baa. Pathetic.

[b-easy63]

Well fvcking is not about getting to know anyone--it is one activity that can be successful and fruitful and yet you do not need to ever spend time with or get to know anything except body parts. Now if the Pastor had suggested that husbands and wives spend quality with each other and for good measure spend at least 2 hours per day with their children, without tv or video games-- he might have been on to something. there is very little emotional need to sexxxx--it requires a an erect organ and a moist *** of some sort--no emotion required. People can have sexxxx everyday for years and still be way off when it comes to truly getting to know each other. a better exercise would be for each partner to find out a like and a dislike of their partner each day for 30 days, to do one chore/day together and to spend at least 1 hour in each other companies, where they can talk about anything except other people or events outside of their marriage (no discussing politics or other church members) getting to know each other requires communication--when is the last time you heard 2 people carrying on a profound, meaningful conversation while they humped? Grunts, moans, squeaks and screaming does not count as communication.

[mediabrat60]

OMG....now i''ve heard it all!!
This guy is a quack!!
What the he ll does *** have to do with emotional needs?? especially for a guy? no offense guys, but really, it''s a physical thing for guys, an emotional thing for women....men are from mars, women from venus....or jupiter, or some *** like that!!

So, my husband travels and is only home 3 days a week, does that mean I have to dig out the vibrator? have phone ***? Use the FedEx guy? What?

[easeup-2009]

"OMG....now i''''ve heard it all!!
This guy is a quack!!
What the he ll does *** have to do with emotional needs?? especially for a guy? no offense guys, but really, it''''s a physical thing for guys, an emotional thing for women....men are from mars, women from venus....or jupiter, or some *** like that!!

So, my husband travels and is only home 3 days a week, does that mean I have to dig out the vibrator? have phone ***? Use the FedEx guy? What?

Posted by mediabrat60 at 01:26 PM : Feb 20, 2008"

Where do you live? Maybe I can help!;)

[paris1969]

Go to this site to see what another minister thinks of this 30-Day *** Challenge:
www.revbates.tv/message.htm

[inventagod]

Lordy Lordy - We win!

pantpant

[cricketmk3]

ccc071, That''s EXACTLY what I thought...this idea had to come from a man. If anything, having "it" 30 days in a row would only make couples hate each other. If he had said to cuddle with your spouse for 1 hour every evening WITHOUT having "it", I could see how that would help. (Of course, that idea would only come from a woman but I like it better.)

[ccc071]

In the photo accompanying this story, the man is looking at the camera, the woman looks to be drugged to the eyeballs. Now I understand how this could happen.

[jimfinster]

Reminds me of David Koresh!!! Ugh.

[lauryl]

The first thing that came to my mind was...what are they going to do for that one week a month when ladies are a bit...out of commission? I don''t think this is very practical.

[barbaraf4]

"The first thing that came to my mind was...what are they going to do for that one week a month when ladies are a bit...out of commission? I don''''t think this is very practical." Posted by lauryl4062
~~~~~
You''re kidding. Right?

[denn034]

I''ve abstained for 44 years so, 30 more days would be a drop in the bucket.

[sleepyric]

and I suppose this all came to him in "a vision"...idiots!

[pensacola88]

He can barely get his own wife to bathe herself 30 days in a row, much less to do it with him. Yes, he wants to make everyone''s marriage like his.

I heard he used to give that same sermon when he was the pastor at the country jail! '' got a lot of mileage on that one!!

[easeup-2009]

"n the photo accompanying this story, the man is looking at the camera, the woman looks to be drugged to the eyeballs. Now I understand how this could happen.

Posted by ccc071 at 03:12 PM : Feb 20, 2008"

LOL!! I was thinking the guy has the "quiet loner who lives with his parents and calmly walks into his workplace and shoots his boss, a few co-workers and then himself" look.

[denn034]

The negative postings here can only lead to more church attacks and bombings and that''s not a good thing. In the end, they have a right to such. Period! God bless freedom of religion and down with Godphobia!

[excoachken]

Is he considering the Bill Clinton definition of *** or one that a missionary would use?

[tellall22]

why not??!! I be you and your spouse could come up with some FUN things in the bedroom or anywhere else you wanted. I think it is getting back to the spontanious way couples were when they were dating. Do it and HAVE FUN!!!!

[tellall22]

why not??!! I be you and your spouse could come up with some FUN things in the bedroom or anywhere else you wanted. I think it is getting back to the spontanious way couples were when they were dating. Do it and HAVE FUN!!!!

[carellis1963]

Oh My Gosh you all crack me up!!I think this pastor is onto something. What could be better than 30 days of increased intimacy with your sweetheart...not just f%^&*%g but learning your lover mentally and physically...heck bust out the costumes, oils, restraints :)Read him a naughty story...love him like he never even dreamed of... Sounds like heaven to me! As for ladies being out of commission...WHAT? are you kidding?! Seems like there are a bunch of people out there who really need to losen up! Broaden your horizons...

[candide777]

Why should "singles" abstain? Yet another arrogant directive from a so-called spokesperson for God. God spoke to me last night, and told me that singles should do it twice a day for 60 days because singles have way more fun!

[bobnjersey]

[Lorena says, "We''re just trying to figure out a way to meet each others'' emotional needs, and that''s the biggest thing about this. It''s more than physical. It''s about getting to know each other again." "It''s much more than the physical aspect," Doug agreed, "so, it''s really helping us refocus on our marriage." ]

so if it''s not physical ... why the focus on something that is ... or preceived to be?

look up john gray ... ''men are from mars ... woman are from venus'' ... and it will take less than 30 days.

[olebd]

Now if he starts preaching about the benefits of taking vacations from marriage once a month yearly and some good old fashioned partner swaping, I''ll join, be front row every Sunday and make a generous donation.

[joyous88]

this clwn must be a part f the bush administration

office of faith Based initiatives"

They are the group that bribes christians for their votes, and of course, the mindless christian votes for whom ever he is told to vote for.

[jjarden]

$ex with the same person all the time is NOT natural. I just turned 45 and have the WORST Mid-Life Crises you have ever seen. After 17 years of Marriage I''m thinking about asking my wife if we can have an "Open Relationship," so I can have $ex with otehr women. ANY ADVICE? Especially from WOMEN...Any Advice on this? I feel like I desperately need a FLING, but do NOT want to HURT or LEAVE my wife.

[fibonacci_]

That guy looks like he would be a plumber or something.

[olebd]

Posted by jjarden at 05:21 PM : Feb 20, 2008

I''m with ya brother. I would think the answer from most women would be to have a gigantic bank account. LOL

[billpl-2009]

"...but do NOT want to HURT or LEAVE my wife.
Posted by jjarden

Sorry dude, there is no answer.

If you did found the answer then you''d also have the answer to the "Chicken and the Egg" and "Have cake and eat it too"

[candide777]

I feel like I desperately need a FLING, but do NOT want to HURT or LEAVE my wife.
Posted by jjarden at 05:21 PM : Feb 20, 2008

Perhaps if you explained to her that human ancestors started out polygamous and only began the evolution toward monogamy about half a million years ago, this would soften the blow. The passage of laws to make monagomy the only legal form of marriage reflects the spread of Christianity, a relatively brand new human phenomenon, so there really is no reason to feel guilt about an instinct that is entirely natural. How you deal with that instinct and its impact on your marriage is something you and your wife should discuss and agree upon, but you should by no means feel bad about the fact that you have desires that have been a natural part of human existence for milliions of years.

[candide777]

The negative postings here can only lead to more church attacks and bombings and that''''s not a good thing. In the end, they have a right to such. Period! God bless freedom of religion and down with Godphobia!
Posted by denn034 at 03:45 PM : Feb 20, 2008

Sorry, dude. Church/mosque/temple bombings are carried out by the faithful, not by those who don''t by into that BS. Your going to have to own that violence for your people. Case closed.

[rowdytexan2]

$ex with the same person all the time is NOT natural. I just turned 45 and have the WORST Mid-Life Crises you have ever seen. After 17 years of Marriage I''''m thinking about asking my wife if we can have an "Open Relationship," so I can have $ex with otehr women. ANY ADVICE? Especially from WOMEN...Any Advice on this? I feel like I desperately need a FLING, but do NOT want to HURT or LEAVE my wife.


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Posted by jjarden at 05:21 PM : Feb 20, 2008

Then get your arse together and get over it! Good God, and grow up!

[lambofgoth]

That and they can build a little Christian army...

[hypnotoad72]

I''m not often egocentric, but I am better looking than he is and I can''t even get a date! :P Possibly more compassionate too...

[olebd]

Posted by Candide777 at 05:55 PM : Feb 20, 2008
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Beautiful answer!

[hypnotoad72]

jjarden - okay, go out, do it with lots of people, get herpes and free tickets to be on the Jerry Springer show.

That maybe natural, but it''s also a very stupid thing to do!!

[joyous88]

gw bush is god now

[cntrygrllst]

There is a common misconception in the world today,
Most people spend their lives looking for their other half. Once you find yourself as a whole person and someone else who is a whole person then and only then can you become a couple. it takes to whole people to make a couple. two halves only make one and that isn''t enough to make a marriage work

[kansas1946]

Head pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church in Ybor City, outside Tampa, says his "30-Day *** Challenge" is one way of taking on the nation''s 50-percent divorce rate.
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LOL. Yes, I can see how that would work. After seeing his picture, iff I had to have *** with that Pastor Wirth just once, let alone 30 times, the divorce rate would go to 51pct.

Leave it to a man to come up with such a stupid idea. Lord help us.

[pupeta-2009]

Only a retarded christian could come up with such an bushesque imbecile solution as this one.