YBOR CITY, Fla., Feb. 20, 2008
Pastor Issues "30-Day Sex Challenge"
Wants Married Congregants To Have Sex For Month Straight, And Singles To Abstain
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Play CBS Video Video Thou Shalt Have Sex Pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church has challenged married members to have sex every day for a month, and single members to abstain. Harry Smith speaks with him, his wife, and a married couple.
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Pastor Paul With and his wife, Susie, left, and Doug and Lorena Webber, on The Early Show Wednesday (CBS/EARLY SHOW)
Oh -- and he wants singles to steer clear of such frolicking for the same length of time.
Head pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church in Ybor City, outside Tampa, says his "30-Day Sex Challenge" is one way of taking on the nation's 50-percent divorce rate.
"About ten years ago," With explained on The Early Show Wednesday, "my wife (of 18 years) and I were struggling in our marriage, and we realized that we needed something that was going to help us in our marriage, and we found this information from Dr. Willard Harley about learning each others' emotional needs. And we began to study it and apply it to our marriage, and it revolutionized our marriage, and we know that, you know, God is the one who talks about love and authors love, and he knows that he wants us to be intimate and connected with each other on a daily basis."
Wirth told CBS News he believes most people go into marriage "without really knowing each other emotionally, without knowing their partner's emotional needs, and this (the challenge) is a way for people to discover their greatest needs -- both married and non-married couples."
He cited a recent study out that found that 20 million Americans who are married have sex fewer than 10 times a year. "People's jobs, houses, kids and other things get in the way," he says. "I think men really need to reevaluate their wife's needs. We so often come home and kick off our shoes and pick up the remote and don't offer to help with dinner, don't offer to help with the kids -- and then we just expect fireworks in the bedroom. But we need to meet (our wives' needs) on intimate levels."
The reaction has been "overwhelmingly positive," Wirth says. "Both married and single members are excited about it. My wife has fielded a bunch of e-mails saying that it's opened a line of communication in some marriages that they haven't had since they were married."
Among the couples taking part: congregants Doug and Lorena Webber.
"We're sitting in church one day, and we heard about this challenge," Doug told Early Show co-anchor Harry Smith, "and we said, 'That's perfect. We can do anything for 30 days!' And the more you dig into it, we're, like, 'We can certainly do this for 30 days! ' "
Lorena says, "We're just trying to figure out a way to meet each others' emotional needs, and that's the biggest thing about this. It's more than physical. It's about getting to know each other again."
"It's much more than the physical aspect," Doug agreed, "so, it's really helping us refocus on our marriage."
To see the church's blog on the challenge, click here.
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See all 138 CommentsShannoah7"
Well said, couldnt have said it better ;)
A personal relationship, I guess that includes s3x too!
Posted by Candide777"
True, except in stinkingprick''s case, he still believes in the tooth fairy, goblins in the closet, Santa Claus, Santa''s elves, flying reindeer and ph yeah- gezus and the band in the sky who fly in big chariots but wont step foot here because we are all too FILTHY DIRTY and terrible ''sinners'' for their hoLy azzes to even look at, let along actually TOUCH or communicate directly with!
Do your homework! the bibull was written by MEN over a long period of time AFTER this gezus character supposedly lived- like someone today writing about the detailed life of Christopher Columbus 500 years after the fact. Its cobbled together from a selection of MANY books, some were omitted, ever wonder WHY? I sure dod, especially knowing how subversive and sinister humans ARE.
"About the pastor: that s3x is for those bound in marriage only."
LOL, marriage has a 50% FAILURE rate, so I guess that wont help much, besides, *** is for ALL to enjoy, that is why males produce unlimited sperm their entire lives while a femals eggs are limited in number and most are dead/gone by menopause.
"If youre still not married after 30 days then you should STILL be abstainate.
shannoah7"
Yeah RIGHT, LOL like thats going to happen, Im single and will NEVER marry, my animals I consider to be my life partners, I dont need to call it a marriage, its a bond the same as one however.
Posted by shannonh7 at 08:49 AM : Feb 22, 2008
First of all, even I can make a few predictions about some events that will be remotely similar to things that will actually happen over the next two thousand years. Secondly, most of the Bible''s predictions have NOT happened, not even close. Third, the Bible is full of self-contradiction, which is enough for any rational person to understand that whatever it is, it is most certainly NOT the word of God.
If you took the time to read the Bible, you''d realize this.
MOTHERS, RAISE YOUR OWN CHILDREN!!
Unfortunately most people are religios INSTEAD of having a personal relationship with the one and only Living God, Jesus Christ.
Religion can save no one. Only Jesus can save.
About the pastor: one thing. He challenged singles to abstain for only a month? Huh? He should be teaching them from the Word that *** is for those bound in marriage only. If you''re still not married after 30 days then you should STILL be abstainate.
True enough, very few people find "Jesus" who weren''t indoctrinated with him as children. Rational adults understand that the Bible was written by false "prophets."
cdn1998; news flash- this article is about a CHURCH and religion and s3x, so comments on those issues are 100% fair game in this thread. Im going to show the same tolerance for religion and its believers and beliefs that the christians did for ''witches'' in the middle ages, g@ys, pagans and others.
Note the ePISScopal church is splitting up big over a g@y bishop, LOL its funny watching them destroy themselves from within over their own hate and bigotry!
What makes you think I HAVENT attended mass? many times. What makes you think I HAVENT read the book OR went to parochial schools- St Josephs Catholic school in New York City in the 70s in fact was just one of them. I did all 3 As an adult I still CHOOSE to be 100% athiest and 100% against the church and religion- ALL organized mainstream religions- every one of them STINK.
Posted by cdn1998 at 01:47 PM : Feb 21, 2008
Maybe you should be de-programmed -- sending a child to Bible school and scary them with tales of hell, fire and demons is nothing short of pyschological child abuse. Anyone who does it should be ashamed of themselves. Children should not be indoctrinated and brainwashed before they can make an intelligent and rational decision about which religion, if any, makes sense.
candide777"
Yeah rickprick and the religious reich want everything their way, theres no discussion or compromise, in a debate or discussion its always "well.. god SAID, gezus SAID, the bibull SAID'' thus ending any argument right there because according to them you cant argue
against a ''perfect'' book (even when shown glaringly obvious errors, subversion of women, condoning slavery ) or a ''perfect'' god (who created imperfect beings, which a perfect creator couldnt do)
Or else they claim the old testiment is not valid, thereby ignoring the DEATH, destruction and brutality caused BY it, and ignoring the fact its still included IN their book. Religios reich like rick are deluding themselves like the muslims with this notion theres some great reward like rick thinks there is, the muslims believe THEY will have paradise in heaven with 72 virgins if they are martyrs against the great satan- *US*, same rhettoric, different book, all results in delusions, death and more.
Cherryfries"
Religion has has a negative impact on the world, more wars, death, torture, bloodshed, destruction, hate, power struggles, land grabs and slavery has been propagated by/for/in the cause/name of religion than anything else.
Religious fanatics always find scores of followers happy to be led and controlled like dumb sheeple, and equally as happy to give all their money and property to their church who buys GOLD cups, silver candlestick holders, stained glass, marble altars. The LA cathedral cost over $350 million to build, the vatican sits on an enormous priceless art collection, another church in NYC sits on a 900-BILLION dollar trust fund while people go homeless and food banks go bare.
Religion and churches are about 3 things; MONEY, POWER and CONTROL.
You have old people signing over their SS checks to telecrooks like Robertson, Graham, Baker and others, yeah, praise GEZUS right!
Posted by cdn1998 at 01:01 PM : Feb 21, 2008
In the words of the infamous Steve Martin, "WELL, EX-CUUUUUUSE US!"
Nobody forced you to read the comments posted here, so go cry to your momma about it.
11"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.
Thank you Candide777! You too newster!
Posted by singinrick at 01:31 AM : Feb 21, 2008
rick, you come on here and "insult and persecute" gay people by calling them all murderers and pedophiles and then you have the nerve to cry like a victim? You don''t know the meaning of persecution -- try getting ridiculed and hit in the face by a couple of "Christian" jocks because you are gay, or worse, murdered for being gay.
rick, you are a fake christian, who spreads hatred and intolerance of gay people and thereby contributes to violence against gay. That is your legacy on this earth, nothing more. Sad.
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