Admitted Gold-Digger Slammed Online

Ad Says She Seeks Rich Husband; Supposedly Wealthy Respondent Disses Her, Big-Time

(CBS)  A simple online exchange is rocking New York City's dating world.

It began, reports Early Show national correspondent Jess Glor, with a personal ad on Craigslist.

A young woman asked, "What am I doing wrong? I'm a beautiful (spectacularly beautiful) 25-year-old girl. I'm looking to get married to a guy who makes at least half-a-million a year. ... $250,000 won't get me to Central Park West," one of the city's swankiest addresses.

"I know a woman in my yoga class who was married to an investment banker," the ad continued, "and she's not as pretty as I am, nor is she a great genius. So what is she doing right? Where do you single rich men hang out? What are you looking for in a mate? I am looking for marriage only.
Please hold your insults. I'm putting myself out there in an honest way. Most beautiful women are superficial; at least I'm being up front about it."

The ad got a response, Glor says, but probably not what she wanted. Someone composed an e-mail and sent to friends -- a wicked e-mail that's become a sensation on the Internet, and around water coolers."

A man claiming to be a Wall Street trader wrote, "I qualify as a guy who fits your bill. Your offer, from the prospective of a guy like me is, plain and simple, a crappy business deal. What you suggest is a simple trade: You bring your looks to the party and I bring my money. But here's the rub: Your looks will fade, and my money will likely continue into perpetuity. You're 25 now and will likely stay pretty hot for the next five years, but less so each year. Then the fade begins in earnest. By 35, stick a fork in you! In Wall Street terms, we would call you a trading position, not a buy and hold."

If that's not enough, Glor adds, he closes with two zingers: "You could always find a way to make your own money, and then we wouldn't need to have this difficult conversation. If you want to enter into some sort of lease, let me know."

Neither the poster, nor the e-mailer, has stepped forward, Glor notes.

On The Early Show Wednesday, two dating experts debated the merits of each point of view. Nicole Beland, deputy editor of Women's Health magazine, and Matt Titus, founder of the matchmaking service Matt's Little Black Book, went back-and-forth about it.

Beland says she's "appalled, shocked, horrified, embarrassed. I would never want any man to think this is what most women are looking for."

"I think it's great," countered Titus. "Give her credit. She's overt about what she wants. The sad thing is, though, she's probably not going to have a relationship filled with love. It's probablyl not going to happen."

And on and on they went from there.

To see their entire exchange, click here.

[mamichael59]

This is the reason I am personally turned off to anyone who put looks and money above what''s truly important in life. If I am to interact with anyone on the internet, I will be less likely to interact with anyone whose first question is how do you look like, instead of engaging in conversation based on getting to know each other on a deeper level. Like the guy said on the article, outer beauty fades, but inner beauty lasts forever. It is too bad that too few people are truly interested in inner beauty, because of how someone looks on the outside, especially if that someone is packing a few more pounds than it is acceptable by society in general. That alone, I find utterly insulting, but to add money to the equation, is off the charts.

[johnstossel]

Get a job, girlie!!!!!!

[godofredo29]

It''s the old *** object vs. success object dichotomy.

[renwoman1]

I understand what all of you are saying but consider that this has been going on for centuries (and still is in many countries, including the US). The only difference is that it was the parents (usually the father) doing the "selling". The reasons varied but often included adding to the family coffers for either the male or female side.

The notion of marriage for love among the upper class didn''t really take root until the late 19th - early 20th century. The lower classes often married for love throughout the centuries in Europe and the US. In other countries, money didn''t quite matter - you don''t get married unless it''s arranged by a parent or guardian.

My guess is this woman doesn''t plan on remaining married to this person forever or, perhaps, she''s planning on taking lovers on the side. Either way, she''s just open about something that has been going on for centuries. She decided to be her own marriage broker. (I admit, I wouldn''t marry her.)

[krenz4]

Its funny that she doesnt know why the woman in her yoga class has a rich man, seeing that shes not pretty and not a genius. Maybe the woman in her yoga class has a good, honest, loving heart. Maybe she wasnt blatently after the guys money. Maybe this woman is giving too much weight to looks, or maybe she isnt as gorgeous as she thinks she is! LOL

[Cas2dy]

What''s sad is that anyone would market themselves thusly and also pretend ignorance as to "why" there have been no takers. Even men with money wish to have someone who is pleasing in most aspects to come home to, not just someone pleasing to look at. There''s really too much to go into about this subject; I''ll just close by saying that my husband actually finds me more valuable today than he did 30 years ago (ha!!-more than a lifetime for that young woman), and vice versa.

[sharncedar]

She is as stupid as a teen who sings thinking they will win American Idol and then be the next big star. For every rich guy, there are 1000''s, yes 1000''s of dumb greedy b!mbos. These guys get propostioned and chased all the time, just like pretty women get chased by loser scrubs.

[rational_1]

I''d never thought of the whole looks/money exchange between the sexes in quite this way. The banker is quite right - why buy into a stock that is sure to plummet? The woman was forthright in admitting she was a gold-digger, but she''s a gold-digger nonetheless and she deserved the appraisal she received. Both sexes can be superficial in their own ways and it doesn''t come off as attractive in either. Here''s a thought - why not look for someone you actually like, have fun with, and with who you can develop a real adult relationship based on trust and love. Or you can live on Central Park West, rich, lonely and miserable, just waiting for your inevitable replacement by a newer model.