Couple Uses MySpace In Hunt For Baby

Sherry and Karl Dittmar Hope To Find Birthmother Through Popular Internet Site

(AP)  With three boys under their roof, a Michigan couple has turned to MySpace.com in search of the missing ingredient — a baby girl.

Sherry and Karl Dittmar of suburban Detroit say they spent five years in their latest effort to conceive, so they posted a request for a baby girl on the popular Web social site.

"Dear birthmother," the posting begins. "We cannot imagine how difficult making an adoption plan for your child must be. ... Thank you for including our profile in your search for the right family to raise your baby."

The MySpace page had not drawn any offers of a baby by Wednesday, although the couple got a lead on a pregnant teenage girl who was considering adoption, Sherry Dittmar told The Associated Press. She said she had received more than 1,700 messages since Monday alone.

"It's crazy," said the 31-year-old homemaker.

She said her ovarian condition complicated the couple's effort at conception.

"I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

She and her 33-year-old husband became legal guardians of two sons six years ago. Ronald now is 11, and Joseph is 9. The couple are biological parents of Wyatt, 5.

"We would be thrilled to welcome a baby girl ... to our home," the couple's posting says. "We hope you feel our family is the right family for your child."

It was not immediately clear whether others have tried to find children for adoption on MySpace.com.

[michellem99-2009]

Thank you. I do hope that each Mum truly have a lovely Mother's Day. I have put my feeling out there so therfore If a child is saved and a girl saved from abortion if she does not have to get one,then it is much better to never have to bear that scar.It hurts.I never had a care-free time.
I haved learnt so much here and each have taught me so much,healed my soul,given me lessons insights,truly thank you ever so much. Peace of Christ be with you always. I am an older lady that care about children even tho I could not bith a child years ago due to disablies I have. Fear does not drell with me.

[rob-kar05]

Okay. Well, I have put my feelings out there for the world to see. Good luck to the Dittmars in their search for a beautiful, healthy baby girl to complete their family. I have 2 and they are such a joy. To the rest of you that don't agree with the Dittmars decision to ask for a child on MySpace...we all have a right to our opinion. I just hope that your fear and doubt don't hinder your chances for a fun, exciting, loving, enjoyable, care-free life that the rest of us live. God Bless...

[michellem99-2009]

I am for the baby just born who so small just birthed from a child. I know people can't buy a child. It is so sad a girlchild is forced(scared) by a male to drop her jeans for thinking the act is love. Clearly this will have Mums instilling in their girls/boys the dangers of having unsafe sexual relations,a baby, but have the support if she is with child know where to turn if that does happen. It is different to day than my dayor my Mum's day. But the couple in the story could have chose a different site not one for kids. I saw their blog .Myspace is not the place for it. Young girls fall for babies and they see them as cute no idea how demanding a baby is. So yes we have to take care the ones here and teach no babies until grown up. Predator need to be taked off the streets as he is the problem.

[rob-kar05]

Michelle,

I understand what you're saying here. But, I truly don't think they're trying to hire someone to GET pregnant for them. They are trying to find someone who is ALREADY in trouble. You are absolutely right. Young girls should NOT be having babies. But, they do. And those babies need adults, well rounded ADULTS to take care of them. And some of those well rounded adults, like the couple in this article, cannot have children of their own. Should they be punished for that? No, they shouldn't. They should absolutely take care of a baby that otherwise wouldn't be taken care of. We're thinking about the baby here. Not the young girl that couldn't say no to a boy who was pressuring her or that simply could't keep her pants up.

[rob-kar05]

and just how do you know that they will not abuse or neglect a baby? Many adoptive parents are just as abusive or moreso than the natural ones. There are many cases of abuse (sexual, verbal, physical, emotional and mental) of adopted and foster kids. Stop thinking just because someone wants a baby--they should be allowed to have one--you are right--babies are not toys--they also are not commodities to be traded to others--you have no idea what you are advocating. Most agencies check out families and still, men adopt children for *** or exploitation, some starve or beat kids to death--it is not foolproof--but at least an agency screens more than myspace. This ad is irresponsible and more than a little questionable.
Posted by toldyouso21 at 10:33 PM : Apr 26, 2007

And how do you know that any natural parent won't neglect or abuse a child? You are accusing them of something that you have no proof of. You're finding them guilty before they are charged. You see on the news how people who go through legal agencies STILL abuse and neglect. They kill. They molest. I don't see the difference. But, you HAVE to give people the benefit of the doubt.

[michellem99-2009]

I am so grateful for the women who have the room in their hearts to take in,love,children born here in the US of A. As older woman,I feel teens needs to get an education,GROW UP first. I want girls to not throw away their lives over bearing,birthing,raising,a baby if they don't have to but be children while they are. When they are of age, have their children.Babies don't make a teen an atult. No. Life is hard so therefore ,girls ought have meaningful,learning,talks about the facts of life that they will face as adults that they will be come. As part of a girl's high school class have parenting classes.Home Econonics teaches girls cooking.sewing,basics, Some on childcare. Boys ought to be taught the same that relate to him. At home and school. A young girl must not have a child. She must not like my mother abandon it as some still do. But the issue is myspace is not the place to hunt for a baby.

[ago5675]

Folks, most of you have no idea what you are talking about. I understand your fears for the child's safety but stop and think. No child is guaranteed a safe and carefree life, no matter the birth parent. Look at the news today and the tragedies to natural children. I have 2 adopted and one birth child and will forever be grateful to those young mothers who placed them in my arms, rather than abort them or abandon them. I was never "investigated" to determine if I was "fit" to be a parent. I have a Son who is an Officer in the US Army, a Daughter who is a Nursing Professional and a Daughter who is also in the medical field. So, please understand what families go thru in trying to have children or locate children to call their own. Go to a third world country to adopt? Why? There are 1,000's of babies here in the US. Keep them out of the foster system and place them in warm loving families, PLEASE.

[michellem99-2009]

I looked at their site on myspace and feel that ad for a baby girl ought not be there as teens visit it. Myspace is not the place for it. Young girls are kids. This is school girls.They should have an education first.Not thinking about babies.
This couple could have posted their ad/blog on sites for grown womea and not plant ideas in girls of having a child.
They has to realise they can't use children to full fill some dream of Mum.I told my own mother this in 80. She walked out on us, that was 59.
Their blog is sugarcandy. Cute kids. They mean well. All children need a home. toldyouso21 wrote everything my childhood was in foster care.
Here in the city kids are in gangs,girls run away, babies beaten. Some killed by their care takers. Raped by preditors. Young girls be ****** for money,things.homeless women on the streets with kids.Some have babies just for the money/stamps their state gives them. It cost money to raise kids. Girls must not robbod of their girlhood over a baby.

[toldyouso21]

Then what??? Maybe these people could give that baby girl a life that she deserves. Maybe they could be saving a life???
Posted by rob-kar05 at 09:03 PM : Apr 26, 2007


and just how do you know that they will not abuse or neglect a baby? Many adoptive parents are just as abusive or moreso than the natural ones. There are many cases of abuse (sexual, verbal, physical, emotional and mental) of adopted and foster kids. Stop thinking just because someone wants a baby--they should be allowed to have one--you are right--babies are not toys--they also are not commodities to be traded to others--you have no idea what you are advocating. Most agencies check out families and still, men adopt children for *** or exploitation, some starve or beat kids to death--it is not foolproof--but at least an agency screens more than myspace. This ad is irresponsible and more than a little questionable.

[michellem99-2009]

I have googled this story. They have 3 children to care for. A newborn is demanding. Diapers,baby clothes,special milk since that lady can't nurse at the breast.Up differenet hours to meet the newborn's need. The other children in the home must not be pushed aside due to a newborn. Her age.In this nation, there is child abuse issues.
There is a black market that traffic babies. I do feel children ought not have babies.I have seen grown married women have to beg their husbands for this/that. I feel a web site that teens use is not the place to place a baby want ad. The story leaves out means of support,they look happy. The other children in the home. They have needs. Girls have to be made aware a live baby is not a doll or play thing. Girls are girls not women yet.

[rob-kar05]

I am aware today news is 24/7. Ladies,Gentlemen.That couple has press coverage all this nation. So therefore they got their fame.I do feel the net is not the place to beg for a baby. There are proper channels that is used and should. The foster home care. Their children need a good home,a loving Mum and Dad.Not taken in for greed. It makes me wonders they have the brst interest of a future newborn that beg for. I think not.
Posted by MichelleM99 at 08:53 PM : Apr 26, 2007


MichelleM99,

I can't understand why you think they're begging for a baby????? They are a married couple, looking to take care of a child that perhaps someone else can't take care of. Kids SHOULD NOT have kids!! Let's say they stop asking for a baby. Then some young teenage girl has a baby; finds out that it's hard work; harder than they could ever imagine; they turn to abuse or neglect. Then what??? Maybe these people could give that baby girl a life that she deserves. Maybe they could be saving a life???

[rob-kar05]

What scares me about this is the lack of background check. Maybe this couple is legit; the reporter would have made sure. But what if they weren't? What if there are people posing as "Christian couples" (with the idea being that they are "safe") who are looking for infants to then traffic in black-market adoptions?

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.
Posted by WiccanTexan at 01:40 PM : Apr 26, 2007


Who says that they aren't going to go through this legally? Just because they're advertising on line doesn't mean it's illegal. They could very possibly, after finding a child, go through the legal steps to adopt.

[michellem99-2009]

I am aware today news is 24/7. Ladies,Gentlemen.That couple has press coverage all this nation. So therefore they got their fame.I do feel the net is not the place to beg for a baby. There are proper channels that is used and should. The foster home care. Their children need a good home,a loving Mum and Dad.Not taken in for greed. It makes me wonders they have the brst interest of a future newborn that beg for. I think not.

[mitch0927]

MichelleM99,

Thank you for bringing that up and I feel ashamed for my actions. I grew up poor, but was able to get my education through high school. College was all up to me to pay for it. It took me several years to finally be able to pay for it. You are right about how some people should think when they are reading posts and thanks to you I will never be critical towards someone who is turning their thoughts to written words. I do agree with the way certain things are becoming now, almost giving the kids these days the go-ahead to have unsafe s.e.x. But you have to accept the fact that news is 24 hours a day now and anything and everything will be reported.

[michellem99-2009]

I think a girl can take her newborn to a hospital,fire house,cop shop to give her baby up. But it be wise to check first as I can not sure what states do this. As a girl with a child must not fall for scams. The web does have a dark side. As well meaning a person may sound when placing an ad wanted a baby girl.I would be not so sure it is a good idea.I can *SEE* right thru it. If the girl is in school .she can find a person there that be in the know and can guide her find the help needed. sugarmice thank you. Got my computer month 'fore I turned 52.

[zootallures2]

Next, selling children on e-Bay!

For sale in 6 months. Produced by white couple with no history of r e t a r d a t i o n for 4 generations. For adoption or stem cell research. Must sell or abort. Can make more and/or negotiate contract. $25,000 each or $15,000 in quantity.

[sugarmice-2009]

MichelleM99 - I have the utmost admiration for you. For what you have been through AND being able to communicate now in this day and age with the help of electronics... I do sympathize with you - my cousin had polio when she was young and even through she was able to communicate - she was teased and tormented because she couldn't walk properly and children used to make fun of her braces. Many times she came to my home and we sat in the yard and talked for hours - I tried to comfort her but us being the same age it was difficult for me to understand why others were so mean - teachers would send my aunt notes saying she needed to go to an institution because she couldn't keep up physically with the rest of the kids - today she is a doctor and is married with children. Keep your chin up and smiling - god loves all his children - even those that don't believe because he has given us that choice. God Bless you

[michellem99-2009]

First of all Ladies.I was born in the US of A.I am legally blind.I use a hand magnifer to read the print on computer. I don't need pity. It pains me that there is others who can't see or understand each other as a people. I do not wish to tear anyone down as that is no good.
I know what I said in my posts here.I know full well the girl can't forget the child. It with the hope and love that young girls think about this if the they faced with this.My mum was forced in 54 to drop out of high school,2 monthes shy of grad in 54. Me. Due to my handicaps I was barred from shcool untul age 10,and being the only child with my needs the teachers failed their duties and said to my face I won't teach a blind child. Back then they did not the ADA law. I am not bitter. Learn english say a post. I had to beg just to learn .When some of the young ladies here were wearing their diapers,I worked and my hands bled.I know the pain a young girl must make so therefore she needs to know what she may face. I was in foster homes. I have been there. I was never able to talk about this for fear of my life due to pro lifers. I cry in my heart daily. The loss. In my day we did not have computers,We were in Nam.So I grad in 74. 83 moved out of a blind centre.Faced with this and poor health.I cry taers for that unborn that could not be born due to health issses. The girl needs to know today she can find atults to help. Be careful.

[mitch0927]

jennmarie620,

I agree with you 100%. It's sad that we have to think of the negative things before the good, but society has forced us into that situation. Thank you for bringing that up, you probably saved lives with that statement.

[mitch0927]

msevangeline, please re-write that, it was beautiful, but you should really proof read what you write before sending. It would help others.