Couple Uses MySpace In Hunt For Baby

Sherry and Karl Dittmar Hope To Find Birthmother Through Popular Internet Site

(AP)  With three boys under their roof, a Michigan couple has turned to MySpace.com in search of the missing ingredient — a baby girl.

Sherry and Karl Dittmar of suburban Detroit say they spent five years in their latest effort to conceive, so they posted a request for a baby girl on the popular Web social site.

"Dear birthmother," the posting begins. "We cannot imagine how difficult making an adoption plan for your child must be. ... Thank you for including our profile in your search for the right family to raise your baby."

The MySpace page had not drawn any offers of a baby by Wednesday, although the couple got a lead on a pregnant teenage girl who was considering adoption, Sherry Dittmar told The Associated Press. She said she had received more than 1,700 messages since Monday alone.

"It's crazy," said the 31-year-old homemaker.

She said her ovarian condition complicated the couple's effort at conception.

"I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

She and her 33-year-old husband became legal guardians of two sons six years ago. Ronald now is 11, and Joseph is 9. The couple are biological parents of Wyatt, 5.

"We would be thrilled to welcome a baby girl ... to our home," the couple's posting says. "We hope you feel our family is the right family for your child."

It was not immediately clear whether others have tried to find children for adoption on MySpace.com.

[nothappyatall]

"I am a strong Christian and.."

Stop right there miss, I've read ENUF, I'd disqualify you from consideration immediately right there- christian history is one of subversion, violence, death, bloodshed and bigotry- I wouldn't want any kid of mine growing up in a so called "christian" home.

[rohink-2009]

newster1, I think you have your religions confused.

[aapple3]

RE: Stop right there miss: YOU ARE one of the main reasons our country is going to ***....It STATES IN GOD WE TRUST, where is your trust you bigot of a person......No wonder our children are doing what they are doing in school because crappy people like YOU as parents....GET A GRIP ON REALITY AND I HOPE AND PRAY GOD BRINGS YOU DOWN TO YOUR KNEES SOMEDAY.

[p1zaul]

These hardcore Christians make me sick!

[hazelknows]

Why don't they just go off to some third world country and steal, I mean adopt a baby girl like the washed up, a cry for attention, show biz has beens are doing. But the Dittmars seem to be a decent couple with good intensions and there are alot of teen pregnancies right here in America. So why not give a new born a chance of a better life, and maybe a young mothers remorse.

[newsreader3]

"Christian history is one of subversion, violence, death, bloodshed and bigotry"

Can you give me an example of one mainstream "RELIGION" that hasn't had a history of everything you listed off. I doubt it. The keyword here is history.
Right now extremist Muslims are causing alot of violence, does that make every man women or child who is a Muslim a violent , bigoted hate monger? Obviously not!
Why don't you give us some real reasons why you wouldn't want any kid of yours growing up in a so called "Christian" home.

[cantshutup]

Ohhh...I love it when ignorananus christians start making threats of doom from "god"...For your information aaple3...IN GOD WE TRUST was only added to the pledge and our currency during the 50's when everyone was freaking out about communism. Learn some history...and as for the violent history of christianity, read on that history too...You're clinging to a religion soaked in the blood of innocents...Did it ever occur to you that there are actually many people who've managed to raise good, respectful children who are athiest or agnostic? You should get out of your neighborhood once in awhile, the world is full of so much more than what christianity has to offer...which in my opinion isn't much.

[wiccantexan]

christian history is one of subversion, violence, death, bloodshed and bigotry- I wouldn't want any kid of mine growing up in a so called "christian" home.
Posted by newster1 at 09:54 AM : Apr 26, 2007
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I seriously doubt that you could find ANY religion that doesn't have its darker side, now or in its past. Even the Buddhists began from the Mongols. The point would be, how would they raise a child today? What is their perspective today?

[jennmarie620]

I'm wondering when a person's religions beliefs became criteria for raising a child? And I'm wondering how discussion about this story is focusing on this woman's religion?

I'm more worried about how they thought advertising for a child on Myspace was a good idea? There are agencies who handle adoptions - and if she's such a Christian, I'm sure her church also has experience in helping adoptive parents and newborns find each other.

But Myspace? Isn't that tacky?

"Yes, honey, when we knew we wanted a girl we went to Myspace and advertised for you."

Seriously, this is what our society is coming to?

[wiccantexan]

Good points, jennmarie620. I think that religion is being focused on because the couple decided to advertise it as a point for adoption. MySpace was likely a place they decided on BECAUSE it has a lot of teen/young adult subscribers, which means it's a more likely place to find a young mother who is looking for adoptive parents.

My concern on that is, how do we know this couple is legit? There is no background check on MySpace; are they looking to adopt or traffic a newborn?

[sugarmice-2009]

what does religion have to do with all of this?
There are alot of good law abiding christians out there as well as other well adjusted law abiding religious groups - I have an extremely wonderful Jewish neighbor that has 5 children (different ages and different races) and they are all well respected in the neighborhood.
This is about giving unwanted children a good home regardless of your religious beliefs.
This issue here is WHY do they have to go to myspace to find a child? Did they exhaust their adoption agencies recommendations OR is there something in the home that these agencies don't consider an adoptable family? Something seems awry here. AND who is going to screen these parents to make sure what they are saying is true - AND if God wanted them to have natural children then it would be... or nature in general for those who don't believe. BUT I still think there is something awry when you have to go ON LINE to find a child... doesn't sound normal to me.

[sandy19731]

If this helps some mother put her baby girl in a better home than it has now what are you all complaining about?

Maybe you all came from a home with two loving parents with the same things that the other kids in school had but not all of us did.

I can imagine a teen-age mother being able to place her newborn with these parents and being able to pull her life back together.
Give them a break.

[sugarmice-2009]

sandy: without proper screening of the parents how do you know they are legitimate? It's scary that you have to go on line to find a baby.. like another person posted IF they are as religious as she says they are, then the church would be able to help them. I'm sure there are a few teens in their community or area that are looking for a good family for their unborn child. But to go on line is tacky and scary - too many preditors out there and without proper screening this unborn child is a potential victim.

[passerby2]

I seriously doubt that you could find ANY religion that doesn't have its darker side, now or in its past. Even the Buddhists began from the Mongols.
Posted by WiccanTexan at 11:43 AM : Apr 26, 2007


Buddhism did not come from the Mongols.

[michellem99-2009]

I find n out of place for that holior than thou wonan/man writing that begging for a baby girl on the computer. Form the story they have children in their care.So they have their hands full to raise the ones that are in their homes. For one thing,she fail to reason,understand at all she begging for, A member of someone else's family and hand that member over.So sorry it don't work that way. The girl/woman carry that girl child,birth her,hand her over,never see the child,name her, the like. If the femele does hand her child over thinking it in the best interest of the child. That is a pack of lies. The woman knows she had that girl baby ,wonders about her,the same of her child they conned out of her.
And if the child is born disabled.That when they draw the line.That when they shep down from the plate.Christians do abuse children as well. It is rude or bad manners to brag,beg,covet,what's not theirs. Their bible tells them that. This is my say.

[rob-kar05]

I think that people may be jumping to the wrong conclusion. I don't think these people are actually trying to BUY a baby girl. But, most mothers that give their children up for adoption want to CHOOSE the parents. Let's face it...probably more than half the MY SPACE members are teenagers. And half of them female. Who knows, this might be a great thing for them and for some young girl that got herself into some trouble and is looking for a great Christian family to raise her child.

[retmilspouse]

I find n out of place for that holior than thou wonan/man writing that begging for a baby girl on the computer. Form the story they have children in their care.So they have their hands full to raise the ones that are in their homes. For one thing,she fail to reason,understand at all she begging for, A member of someone else's family and hand that member over.So sorry it don't work that way. The girl/woman carry that girl child,birth her,hand her over,never see the child,name her, the like. If the femele does hand her child over thinking it in the best interest of the child. That is a pack of lies. The woman knows she had that girl baby ,wonders about her,the same of her child they conned out of her.
And if the child is born disabled.That when they draw the line.That when they shep down from the plate.Christians do abuse children as well. It is rude or bad manners to brag,beg,covet,what's not theirs. Their bible tells them that. This is my say.
Posted by MichelleM99 at 12:10 PM : Apr 26, 2007


Wow
It was written in English I believe, but what you were trying to say or point you were trying to make is beyond me.

[toldyouso21]

I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

Then heed God's message. Evidently, God feels this couple has enough on their plate--it is kind of sad and sick to shop for kids like one goes looking for used cars or old stereo equipment. God must have felt they had enough to handle--so just raise your healthy 3 and leave the pregnant moms alone.

[toldyouso21]

I am a strong Christian and.."

Stop right there miss, I've read ENUF, I'd disqualify you from consideration immediately right there- christian history is one of subversion, violence, death, bloodshed and bigotry- I wouldn't want any kid of mine growing up in a so called "christian" home.
Posted by newster1 at 09:54 AM : Apr 26, 2007


Well, I am a Christian who unfortunately must agree that you may have a point. Being a Christian is not something you announce, it is how one decides to approach and live their life. Most so called Christians may attend Churches but they are NOT Christians. They rarely know the bible and are at the mercy of Charlatans and fake leaders. Show me a person who strenuously and constantly proclaims their Christianity and 9 times out of 10 you pull back the curtain to reveal a pedophile, liar, miscreant, theif, bigot, and all around hateful person. Christians do not believe or condone torture, killing, wars, lies, vengeance, running after money, going after political power or any other kind of evil--because to be a Christian is to be "Christ like and Christ did not condone or run after any of that stuff.

[sallmaras]

First, any young mother could seek the advice of an attorney first, at the potential adoptive parents expense. Second, religion has absolutely nothing to do with this, other than the fact that they say that they are Christians. If they would have said that they were devil worshipers, religion still has nothing to do with this story. It is solely their desire to adopt a baby girl. Nothing more, nothing less. I was a very young mother that chose not to abort or adopt out my son. That does not mean though that all young mothers should do the same. I have also arranged for other young mothers to release their babies for adoption as it was what would have been, in the long run, best for the child. The mother should be thoroughly examined, as should the potential adoptive parents. It is a two way street. How many stories have we read, heard or known of "first hand" of a woman adopting out her child only to have made the same committment to multiple candidates. It is a shame but it happens all the time. So, retain counsel, dot the i's and t's and wish the baby girl, whomever she may be, the very best life.

[yoopermom]

"I am a strong Christian and haven't had a bad attitude" about fertility problems, she told The Detroit News. "God closed this door for a reason."

So, if they take in another child -- wouldn't that defy their perception of God's will? It's an interesting dilemma/perspective.
Posted by seandgreen

Just maybe the reason God closed this door was knowing that there was a child waiting for them elsewhere. God works in mysterious ways. We may not always understand them, but we look to accept them.

We adopted our son shortly after a relative decided to keep her newborn instead of having us adopt her. If we would have adopted the newborn, we would not have been able to adopt our son. We were devastated at first, but then realized that Gods plan was for us to have our son instead. He has brought so much to our lives and the little girl is thriving with her mother.

[wiccantexan]

Buddhism did not come from the Mongols.
Posted by passerby2 at 12:07 PM : Apr 26, 2007
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My error in translation, sorry. Tibetan Buddhism and the native Mongolian faith were remarkably similar, and with the spread of Tibetan Buddhism into Mongolia, there were mergings of common points and changes as well. Just take a look at a lot of the Tibetan Buddhism tools; they are weapons.

[jennmarie620]

Somehow, discussion on this story turned into "are these people fit to adopt" and "so what if they're Christian." Here's what discussion should be about:

Is it proper, right, and legal to go online on a site like Myspace and put up a profile announcing you're looking to adopt someone's child?

Story: I'm a 25 year old single mother of a 7 year old girl - yes, I was a senior in high school when I found out I was pregnant and she was born shortly after graduation. I could have given her up for adoption, but chose to be a mother - and I know many girls who did not make the choice I made. I applaud them and the people who adopted their children.

But they contact attorneys, adoption agencies, churches, and handled everything through the courts and legally. They didn't go trolling the internet for a young, unwed teenager who happened to get pregnant.

Their oldest children were adopted - so they know how it works. Honestly, I think they did this knowing it would get media attention and be on the news. It's attention - maybe they wanted it so they could find a little girl faster or for some other, darker reason - I don't know nor do I pretend to know.

[wiccantexan]

Let's face it...probably more than half the MY SPACE members are teenagers. And half of them female. Who knows, this might be a great thing for them and for some young girl that got herself into some trouble and is looking for a great Christian family to raise her child.
Posted by rob-kar05 at 12:45 PM : Apr 26, 2007
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What scares me about this is the lack of background check. Maybe this couple is legit; the reporter would have made sure. But what if they weren't? What if there are people posing as "Christian couples" (with the idea being that they are "safe") who are looking for infants to then traffic in black-market adoptions?

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.

[jennmarie620]

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.
Posted by WiccanTexan at 01:40 PM : Apr 26, 2007



... has anyone else thought of what kind of can of worms this opens up for people who AREN'T honest? If a legitimate couple can find a baby on Myspace, imagine was an illegitimate person could find.

[last121868]

toldyouso21: Great post!

[wiccantexan]

...IN GOD WE TRUST was only added to the pledge and our currency during the 50's when everyone was freaking out about communism. Learn some history...
Posted by cantshutup
___________________________

I believe the history you were thinking of is "under God," which was added to the Pledge of Allegiance on Flag Day, June 14, 1954.

[cantshutup]

no seandgreen, I purposely meant a n u s!!!!!


vbnvbn...my mistake, I actually meant UNDER GOD...looks like i jumped the gun on that one

[phoenix1218]

"We adopted our son shortly after a relative decided to keep her newborn instead of having us adopt her. If we would have adopted the newborn, we would not have been able to adopt our son. We were devastated at first, but then realized that Gods plan was for us to have our son instead."
Posted by yoopermom"

As much as it pained you and your husband i am glad your relative decided to not let you adopt her child. 1) you now have a son you love and 2) my grandmother was raped and got pregnant. HER mom guilted her into letting my Grandmothers brother (and his wife) adopt her baby as they were having difficulty (they did go on to have biological children). My Grandmothers son was raised as her nephew and I cannot tell you how this affected her, and not in an alltogether good way. Her son was raised in a VERY loving home but my Grandmother was very hurt. She would have given up her son as he was the result of a rape but now that fact faced her at every single family function and every time she went to a family members home where there were pictures. My mother was not aware of the fact her cousin was actually her half brother until she was in her 20's. Of course my Grampa knew but respected my Grandmothers decision to not say anything and it wasn't until after she passed that my Mom, Aunt and my 2 Uncles found out. Please believe that I am sorry for the pain you suffered but it really is better the way it happened. And now you have a son you otherwise would not have had.

[michellem99-2009]

I know what I said. I am a poor white blind lady.I try to say it as best as I can.I may not get every word spelt right.For the persons I know they are not buying a baby.I feel that the Mum-to-be should realise the truth.If the ladies posting here have never had to think about issues of .
1. She is so scared after she is told You are with child.She is young.Poor.Can't talk to her parents for fear God only knows WHAT.Has no skills for her and or ababy Boyfriend baby's dad walks.No means of support for her and baby.She is sick from not able to feep food in her,
2.She talks to a person who know her case.home life etc. It is not a 1 time talk.
3. The Mum-to-be has 3 choices have keep,give up,or abort. NOW each is talked about.They as a team talk . Mum-to-be does her share and ponders the issues she face.IF she is in poor health and her body can't support carrying a baby then abortion, that pain she carries in her heart long along time.
4. Some girls are in foster homes. Those homes have their share of abues be it verbal,sexual and or phyhical.I know that too well.
I don't attend church due Jesus don't live there but in the human heart,'toldyouso21 thanks.

[phoenix1218]

"I find n out.. holior.. wonan/man...Form...she fail to reason,understand at all she begging for, A member of someone else's family and hand that member over.So sorry it don't work that way. The girl/woman carry that girl child,birth her,hand her over,never see the child,name her, the like. If the femele does hand her child over thinking it in the best interest of the child. That is a pack of lies. The woman knows she had that girl baby ,wonders about her,the same of her child they conned out of her. Posted by MichelleM99"

First, learn english. They're not begging. They have kids but there's nothing wrong to want more. She isn't being forced to give up her baby but is doing it likely because she knows she can't handle or afford to care for a child the way a child needs to be. Who cares if these people are religious. She can do a background check if she wants to, hire a lawyer at the adoptive parents expense to feel out her legal options. She could also go for an open adoption. Yes, and though she may hand over her child she still knows that child, she did carry it and she will never forget it. No mom who has given up or lost a child through misscarriage ever forgets the child, EVER. My guess is that you had at one point been forced to give up a child. I know back in the 50's, 60's if a young girl was pregnant she went to a home and her parents forced her to give up the baby for adoption. I think you might be one of those girls. You sound so bitter and for that I feel sorry for you.

[phoenix1218]

"I know what I said. I am a poor white blind lady.I try to say it as best as I can.I may not get every word spelt right.For the persons I know they are not buying a baby.I feel that the Mum-to-be should realise the truth.If the ladies posting here have never had to think about issues of . Posted by MichelleM99"

If you are blind how can you read the postings? Do you honestly think that she doesn't realize her options? You say you are an old blind lady. I honestly think that you are one of those sad young girls that was forced to give up her own baby by her parents. You sound like a bitter woman and if this really did happen to you I feel sorry for you.

[phoenix1218]

"Really? I've never heard "In God We Trust" during any recitation of the pledge. And, of course, "In God We Trust" was first placed on US coinage in 1864. There's a history lesson for you. What I see as hypocritical is the people who will blast the pro-life stance by saying that there are too many babies up for adoption, but when a Christian wants to adopt you have nothing positive to say. Posted by vbnvbn"

It doesn't say In 'GOD We Trust' but it DOES say 'One Nation Under GOD'. Other than that...I have to agree with you, they are pro-life btu when a christian wants to adopt they say negative things. SO true, but sad.

[puzzler125]

There's a vast difference between writing English as a second language and being a bad speller or a poor grammarian. Why do people continue to trash those writers who choose to express opinions and obviously are not the greatest of typists or have not had as much writing experience in English?

[jennmarie620]

For the millionth time, this story has NOTHING to do with the parents being Christian. They could be members of a Satanic cult for all I care - as long as they are law abiding citizens who are good parents, it doesn't MATTER what their religious feelings are. What matters is what this one situation will do to future pregnant teenagers or young women.

What if a fourteen year old finds out she's pregnant and she feels she can't go to her parents? Alright, she just puts up a profile on Myspace saying she wants to give her baby up for adoption - she finds a couple who want to adopt, and she hides the pregnancy from her parents, and then something goes wrong.

Or what if a man and woman join in a scheme together to start "adopting" babies off of scared young single women and then harming the mother and/or baby? Or how bout one of those mentally ill women who want a child so they go to Myspace and make a profile saying they're looking to adopt and they meet with the birth mother - only to kill her and steal the baby?

What's at issue here is safety for the birth mother, the baby, and the legitimate parents who want to adopt.

What I am having a hard time with is, if these parents have adopted before why do this publicity stunt? They know how to go about adopting a baby.

[yoopermom]

Phoenix

First off, I am sorry for the pain your family has been through. I hope at some time, your Grandmother found peace. Being forced to be reminded of the pain that she endured was not fair to her.

Second, I too am so glad that things worked out as they did. My sister is a wonderful mother and I have a beautiful niece. Originally it was my sisters idea to give her baby up for adoption because she felt she was too young to properly care for her child. Luckily for her she had the family support in whatever decision she made.

My son was severely abused and neglected by his biological parents. He was originally diagnosed with severe mental retardation and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. He is not only an honor roll student, but he is taking some advanced classes and he exceeds in basketball and football. He has overcome many obstacles and has come through them like a champ. He is now thirteen, and I am so proud of the young man he is turning into. (OK, now I am bragging! I%u2019ll admit it.)

My point is, when Good, or whoever you believe in, closes one door, there is usually a reason for that.

[msevangeline]

I do not see anything wrong with posting an add on MySpace for adoption. My husband and I have. Alot of times girls talk to thier friends (web friends) before they tell anyone else. I have talked with 2 girls that thought thier were pregnate one ended up not being pregnate however she was able to talk about what was going on in her life. Things that she was not wanting to tell her parents but yet need advice on.
I pray for the michigane couple to be blessed with a child however it comes to them.

[mitch0927]

msevangeline, please re-write that, it was beautiful, but you should really proof read what you write before sending. It would help others.

[mitch0927]

jennmarie620,

I agree with you 100%. It's sad that we have to think of the negative things before the good, but society has forced us into that situation. Thank you for bringing that up, you probably saved lives with that statement.

[michellem99-2009]

First of all Ladies.I was born in the US of A.I am legally blind.I use a hand magnifer to read the print on computer. I don't need pity. It pains me that there is others who can't see or understand each other as a people. I do not wish to tear anyone down as that is no good.
I know what I said in my posts here.I know full well the girl can't forget the child. It with the hope and love that young girls think about this if the they faced with this.My mum was forced in 54 to drop out of high school,2 monthes shy of grad in 54. Me. Due to my handicaps I was barred from shcool untul age 10,and being the only child with my needs the teachers failed their duties and said to my face I won't teach a blind child. Back then they did not the ADA law. I am not bitter. Learn english say a post. I had to beg just to learn .When some of the young ladies here were wearing their diapers,I worked and my hands bled.I know the pain a young girl must make so therefore she needs to know what she may face. I was in foster homes. I have been there. I was never able to talk about this for fear of my life due to pro lifers. I cry in my heart daily. The loss. In my day we did not have computers,We were in Nam.So I grad in 74. 83 moved out of a blind centre.Faced with this and poor health.I cry taers for that unborn that could not be born due to health issses. The girl needs to know today she can find atults to help. Be careful.

[sugarmice-2009]

MichelleM99 - I have the utmost admiration for you. For what you have been through AND being able to communicate now in this day and age with the help of electronics... I do sympathize with you - my cousin had polio when she was young and even through she was able to communicate - she was teased and tormented because she couldn't walk properly and children used to make fun of her braces. Many times she came to my home and we sat in the yard and talked for hours - I tried to comfort her but us being the same age it was difficult for me to understand why others were so mean - teachers would send my aunt notes saying she needed to go to an institution because she couldn't keep up physically with the rest of the kids - today she is a doctor and is married with children. Keep your chin up and smiling - god loves all his children - even those that don't believe because he has given us that choice. God Bless you

[zootallures2]

Next, selling children on e-Bay!

For sale in 6 months. Produced by white couple with no history of r e t a r d a t i o n for 4 generations. For adoption or stem cell research. Must sell or abort. Can make more and/or negotiate contract. $25,000 each or $15,000 in quantity.

[michellem99-2009]

I think a girl can take her newborn to a hospital,fire house,cop shop to give her baby up. But it be wise to check first as I can not sure what states do this. As a girl with a child must not fall for scams. The web does have a dark side. As well meaning a person may sound when placing an ad wanted a baby girl.I would be not so sure it is a good idea.I can *SEE* right thru it. If the girl is in school .she can find a person there that be in the know and can guide her find the help needed. sugarmice thank you. Got my computer month 'fore I turned 52.

[mitch0927]

MichelleM99,

Thank you for bringing that up and I feel ashamed for my actions. I grew up poor, but was able to get my education through high school. College was all up to me to pay for it. It took me several years to finally be able to pay for it. You are right about how some people should think when they are reading posts and thanks to you I will never be critical towards someone who is turning their thoughts to written words. I do agree with the way certain things are becoming now, almost giving the kids these days the go-ahead to have unsafe s.e.x. But you have to accept the fact that news is 24 hours a day now and anything and everything will be reported.

[michellem99-2009]

I am aware today news is 24/7. Ladies,Gentlemen.That couple has press coverage all this nation. So therefore they got their fame.I do feel the net is not the place to beg for a baby. There are proper channels that is used and should. The foster home care. Their children need a good home,a loving Mum and Dad.Not taken in for greed. It makes me wonders they have the brst interest of a future newborn that beg for. I think not.

[rob-kar05]

What scares me about this is the lack of background check. Maybe this couple is legit; the reporter would have made sure. But what if they weren't? What if there are people posing as "Christian couples" (with the idea being that they are "safe") who are looking for infants to then traffic in black-market adoptions?

This couple's motivation might be well-intentioned, but their choice of venue is not sound.
Posted by WiccanTexan at 01:40 PM : Apr 26, 2007


Who says that they aren't going to go through this legally? Just because they're advertising on line doesn't mean it's illegal. They could very possibly, after finding a child, go through the legal steps to adopt.

[rob-kar05]

I am aware today news is 24/7. Ladies,Gentlemen.That couple has press coverage all this nation. So therefore they got their fame.I do feel the net is not the place to beg for a baby. There are proper channels that is used and should. The foster home care. Their children need a good home,a loving Mum and Dad.Not taken in for greed. It makes me wonders they have the brst interest of a future newborn that beg for. I think not.
Posted by MichelleM99 at 08:53 PM : Apr 26, 2007


MichelleM99,

I can't understand why you think they're begging for a baby????? They are a married couple, looking to take care of a child that perhaps someone else can't take care of. Kids SHOULD NOT have kids!! Let's say they stop asking for a baby. Then some young teenage girl has a baby; finds out that it's hard work; harder than they could ever imagine; they turn to abuse or neglect. Then what??? Maybe these people could give that baby girl a life that she deserves. Maybe they could be saving a life???

[michellem99-2009]

I have googled this story. They have 3 children to care for. A newborn is demanding. Diapers,baby clothes,special milk since that lady can't nurse at the breast.Up differenet hours to meet the newborn's need. The other children in the home must not be pushed aside due to a newborn. Her age.In this nation, there is child abuse issues.
There is a black market that traffic babies. I do feel children ought not have babies.I have seen grown married women have to beg their husbands for this/that. I feel a web site that teens use is not the place to place a baby want ad. The story leaves out means of support,they look happy. The other children in the home. They have needs. Girls have to be made aware a live baby is not a doll or play thing. Girls are girls not women yet.

[toldyouso21]

Then what??? Maybe these people could give that baby girl a life that she deserves. Maybe they could be saving a life???
Posted by rob-kar05 at 09:03 PM : Apr 26, 2007


and just how do you know that they will not abuse or neglect a baby? Many adoptive parents are just as abusive or moreso than the natural ones. There are many cases of abuse (sexual, verbal, physical, emotional and mental) of adopted and foster kids. Stop thinking just because someone wants a baby--they should be allowed to have one--you are right--babies are not toys--they also are not commodities to be traded to others--you have no idea what you are advocating. Most agencies check out families and still, men adopt children for *** or exploitation, some starve or beat kids to death--it is not foolproof--but at least an agency screens more than myspace. This ad is irresponsible and more than a little questionable.

[michellem99-2009]

I looked at their site on myspace and feel that ad for a baby girl ought not be there as teens visit it. Myspace is not the place for it. Young girls are kids. This is school girls.They should have an education first.Not thinking about babies.
This couple could have posted their ad/blog on sites for grown womea and not plant ideas in girls of having a child.
They has to realise they can't use children to full fill some dream of Mum.I told my own mother this in 80. She walked out on us, that was 59.
Their blog is sugarcandy. Cute kids. They mean well. All children need a home. toldyouso21 wrote everything my childhood was in foster care.
Here in the city kids are in gangs,girls run away, babies beaten. Some killed by their care takers. Raped by preditors. Young girls be ****** for money,things.homeless women on the streets with kids.Some have babies just for the money/stamps their state gives them. It cost money to raise kids. Girls must not robbod of their girlhood over a baby.