New Jersey Begins Offering Civil Unions
Becomes 3rd State To Allow Gay Couples Legal Benefits Of Marriage
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Daniel Gross, left, holds up the Civil Union certificate with partner Steven Goldstein for the press during their midnight Civil Union ceremony in Teaneck, N.J. on Monday, Feb. 19, 2007. (AP Photo/Tim Larsen)
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The law that took effect Monday was a big giant step forward, said state Sen. Loretta Weinberg, a prime sponsor of the civil unions law, who hosted ceremonies for couples including Goldstein and Gross.
The civil unions, which offer the legal benefits but not the title of marriage, were granted automatically to the hundreds of gay New Jersey couples who had previously been joined in civil unions or married in other states or nations.
For Goldstein and Gross, that meant reaffirming their Vermont civil union. They would have had the rights in New Jersey even without holding the midnight ceremony.
Their civil union license No. 1 was completed at 12:09 a.m. Monday by Teaneck registrar Laura Turnbull.
Elsewhere across the state, a handful of town halls opened at 12:01 a.m. to accept license applications from couples who had not been joined previously. They must wait 72 hours before they can hold civil union ceremonies just like with weddings and several planned to exchange vows early Thursday.
Among those couples were Marty Finkle and Michael Plake of South Orange. A few dozen friends, Finkle's 17-year-old daughter and several local officials cheered as they filled out paperwork in their town hall.
Finkle and Plake also were among the first New Jersey couples to register in a domestic partnership in 2004. Domestic partnerships offered a handful of the benefits and obligations of civil unions.
Among the many new benefits under the civil unions law, gay couples gain the rights to adoption, child custody, visiting a hospitalized partner and making medical decisions. They also now have the right not to testify against a partner in state court.
However, the federal government and most states do not recognize the unions. That means, for instance, that a surviving member of a civil union would not be entitled to his deceased partner's Social Security benefits. And if a partner is hospitalized in another state, the other may not have an automatic visitation right.
New Jersey lawmakers hastily created civil unions in December, less than two months after a state Supreme Court decision held that gay couples had a right to the same benefits as married couples.
Gay rights activists in the state say they'll continue to press for full marriage rights through both political channels and lawsuits. Some social conservative groups, meanwhile, are pledging to block same-sex marriage by pressing for an amendment to the state constitution that prohibits such unions.
Forty-five states have legal or constitutional bans on same-sex marriages. Only Massachusetts allows gay couples to marry, while California offers domestic partnerships.
Goldstein, chairman of the gay rights group Garden State Equality, and Gross, a vice president at Goldman Sachs, held their ceremony behind a desk in a cramped office.
There were several kisses, a prayer reading, friends and journalists, but no music, no dancing and none of the breaking-of-the-glass that is traditional in Jewish weddings.
The couple did that in a Jewish wedding service in Canada in 2002 the first same-sex union featured in the wedding pages of The New York Times and promised even grander festivities if they eventually gain the right to marry in New Jersey.
As part of their ceremony, their rabbi, Elliott Tepperman, asked the people gathered: Do you vow to continue your support for true marriage equality?
This was really all about receiving a piece of paper that had some recognition of our status, Gross said.
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See all 515 CommentsWe wonder what their jehovah would have to say about that.
Like the christians in the Churches of Child Sodomy, it would appear that the deviant homosexual so-called leaders in New Jersey don't mind the FURTHER ENDANGERING OF AMERICA'S CHILDREN! They are continuing where the churches have left off in SODOMIZING AND TRAUMATIZING OF AMERICA'S CHILDREN!
Only one with the mentality of a lowly word would have not find revolting the deviant and perverted act of playing in another man's filth.
So we wonder what kind of worms are these f@ggots; hook worms? tape worms? round worms?
I have read your posts when this subject comes up and you seem to be obsessed with calling gay people names like filty f@ggots, devients and perverts. Whatever...unless you can treat me like another adult, I won't be talking to you.
And BTW, the American Psychiatric Association removed homosexuality from its list of mental disorders back in 1973.
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I have known I am gay since I was very young. I can't explain why or how. I can tell you that I didn't CHOOSE to be gay, but I came to realize that this is a part of who I am and I grew to accept it. I don't consider this to be "a lifestyle," because my sexual orientation is a tiny part of who I am as a person. It simply is. I don't obsess about your heterosexuality because it is a tiny part of who you are. I just don't spend much time on it.
Please don't misunderstand me. I know you think you are helping me. But when you read the Bible, you must always take into consideration who is speaking, to whom it is addressed and the purpose for which it was recorded. When you read Leviticus 18, the supposed prohibition against homosexuals in verse 22 should be kept in context with the rest of the chapter or the whole book of Leviticus: No pork, no lobster, no shrimp, no oysters, no eating rare meats. How about no *** during menstruation or calling for the killing of all divorced people who remarry? I do not know of even the most fundamentalist Christian who believes any of that other stuff!
In the New Testament, the references by Paul accompany his belief that woman should be veiled and that they should be silent in the church. It is also important to remember that the Bible was written in Hebrew (Old Testament) and Greek (New Testament) and that the words in your personal Bible depend on which translation you happen to have. It is also important to remember there is no record of Jesus mentioning homosexuality anywhere in the four gospels. He did say that we are not to judge each other and that we'll have to answer to God for how we treat each other (Matthew 7:1).
I'm not trying to make excuses or to make you feel bad or uncomfortable, but God will be the one who judges me. I am comfortable with that and I know He loves me as I am.
Yes, I think that's fair and just.
Can someone explain the logic to my simple, bigoted, homophobic mind?
If the new definition of marriage is two people who love each other and want to make a life-long commitment, then why not legalize marriage between cousins? Or siblings? Or mother and son? Or father and daughter? Or a man and a sheep?
Please, tell me why these "unions" shouldn't be legalized as well. I would like to read a coherent response as to why it's ok for a gay couple to be legally recognized and not these others I've mentioned.
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Fifty years ago, bigots used to say that about blacks and whites getting married. Some still do now. The truely ignorant never learn.
Why deny mature adults the option to enter into a binding relationship wth the mature adult of their chosing? Gay people are not pedophles, are not sexual predators. Why does it bother you that I would want to share my home, have a joint checking account, file jont taxes with, leave my hard-earned benefits to another woman?
Your ignorance would be laughable were it not so damaging to society. Do you know how many gay youths commit suicide because of your hate?
I couldn't agree more, but it's still just one step forward. Someday soon I hope same-*** marriage will finally be a reality!
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Very good point, CatsnHorses. Unfortunately, many of these nutcases believe that gay youth can be cured by organizations like Exodus Ministries can cure homosexuality and redirect affections to the opposite ***. And if that evil homosexual desire persists, then there's always celibacy.
These people also want to tell us that we CHOOSE to be gay. But sexuality is an innate characteristic. And the logical question to them is, "When did you choose to be straight?"
I don't understand. If two people want to enter into a legal relationship, what is the big deal? Why should I care what they do?
I raised my kids in the church I wanted to, I taught the morals that I wanted taught to them (and by the way, I have no interest in having the school teach them either), as I have the RIGHT to.
If you start saying the government has the right to impose your views on other people, YOU LOSE THOSE RIGHTS!
How hard is this to understand?
Posted by scott4261 at 12:28 PM : Feb 19, 2007
Bravo! My oldest son is gay and so is my step-son and both of them have said the same thing. They always knew they were gay just as straight people always knew they were straight. It's not a choice, it just is what it is.
Hey, I wonder how much the country suffers under the sin of bigotry?
I also have to wonder, if you can justify in your own mind that one group of people are inferior, it makes me wonder how many other groups you find inferior and are bigoted against. For instance, perhaps you don't care much for black people. Hmmmm. Makes you wonder.
Psychiatrists are from the so-called 'profession' with the most mental cases.
It therefore makes sense that the APA will not want to recognize homosexuality as a MENTAL BIRTH DEFECT for those who are born with an affinity for someone of the same gender. The APA members are also mentally deficient.
Posted by RandalDS
Thanks, RandalDS. But as I said Call it civil union, call it domestic partnership - I don't care. But allow my partner and me to have the same rights as a married heterosexual couple.
Posted by bobfishinguy at 12:28 PM
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Quite possible. Some of the most virulent homophobes are really latent homosexuals fighting to stay in the closet.
I raised my kids in the church I wanted to, I taught the morals that I wanted taught to them (and by the way, I have no interest in having the school teach them either), as I have the RIGHT to.
If you start saying the government has the right to impose your views on other people, YOU LOSE THOSE RIGHTS!
How hard is this to understand?
Posted by bobfishinguy at 12:28 PM
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Thank you. I couldn't agree more. I've been out for 23 years, but I'm been trying to find out why this is so hard for others to understand for at least 30.
Oh, so you are a bigot AND ignorant. Quite a combination you have going for you there.
Hey, Tom Cruise hates phychiatrists too and for years it's rumored he is gay. Hey maybe bobfishinguy is right about you in his post earlier. Come on Agnim. Do you have one of those "special" same-*** friends? Fess up.
I am not trying to change the subject, but I want to show that - if you are truly a person of faith - God wants us to treat each other as we would want to be treated, to love one another...you know - the Golden Rule as many refer to it.
I know who I am and I am comfortable with it. And once more, I am comfortable knowing that only God will be the judge of my life.
Oh, recent histroy shows that, huh? Prove it.
And by the way, yes, thank the ACLU. One of the few last groups who actually fight to defend the Constitution and will not let right wing nut jobs rewrite it to suit their agenda.
Posted by singinrick at 12:33 PM : Feb 19, 2007
However until recently many Christian churches preached that is was because each was to stay with their own and many churches in the old south still do.
The christians and their Churches of Child Sodomy are most greatly responsible for the prevalence and promotion of the homosexual deviance in western/christian societies, above all other societies.
The christians hypocrites are on the one hand railing against homosexuals while on the other hand the same perverted christians were busy 'training' traumatizing more children in the deviant homosexual BEHAVIORS in their churches, and then releasing them in the wider society.
Over the generations, a lot of society's leaders were created by the Churches of Child Sodomy.
Many of those individuals who became society's leaders (like Congressman Mark Foley) out of the Churches of Child Sodomy were well 'TRAINED' IN HOMOSEXUALITY by deviant and perverted christian homosexual priests.
Those church-trained homosexuals were then able to severely corrupt the wider western/christian societies with their greater influence in the western/christian societies.
Note that the deviant homosexual behavior IS NOT as prevalent and as promoted in NON-western/christian societies across the planet?
Their more upstanding leaders WERE NOT 'trained' in catholic and anglican Churches of Child Sodomy.
Posted by singinrick at 12:42 PM : Feb 19, 2007
True, I am an atheist, however unlike you seem to believe being an atheist does not make a person stupid. I can read (wonder of wonders, must be a gift from...Darwin) and I have read the bible several times. That's how I know that Christ never said anything about homosexuality and that you are cherry-picking verses from the old testament to prop up your case. If you take the quote from Leviticus out of context, as you insist on doing, then you're purposely not addressing the other "rules" in Leviticus that no one, even the most fervent bible-thump-er, including yourself I suspect, follows today. You can't pick and choose which things in the bible you choose to believe in and you have.
Posted by singinrick at 12:48 PM : Feb 19, 2007
AIDS is a sexual disease, not a gay one. It just happened to show up first in the gay community in the US, worldwide it is overwhelimingly a heterosexual disease.
But you don't have the right to write or support mad-made laws that would deny gay people rights. You all complain about the "gay agenda". Well, I suppose there wouldn't be an "agenda" if the right didn't have it's own agenda to criminalize being gay. You have the right to believe whatever the h3ll you want, but when you try to push those beliefs into the law of man (which is for everyone and does not specify gay or staight), then it becomes a "gay agenda".
Bottom line, it's none of your business or mine what two consenting adults do. Scott is gay, I'm straight. Neither affects your life in any way. Would you comment on my life with my girlfriend? No (at least you shouldn't), because it's none of your business. So why bust on Scott about his life?
You know what? This argument is so silly. Most everyone knows at least one person who's gay these days. I'm sure that even you do to. Do you not associate with that person?
We just need to get real here and really put the tenets of faith into practice. And if we really did - and I mean all of us, no matter what we believe in - the world would be a totally different and better place.
I am not going to try to convince you tha I didn't choose to be gay, because you will believe your own limited, narrow, and literal interpretation of the Bible.
May the peace of God be with you....
Posted by CatsnHorses at 12:21 PM : Feb 19, 2007"
Better dead than gay!
Better suicide than gay!
Posted by singinrick at 12:57 PM : Feb 19, 2007
So then you believe it's a sin to eat pork or shellfish. That a women who commits audltry should be stoned to death. That a women who is menstrating is "unclean" and shouldn't be touched? You must have a real exciting life there Rick.
The following is part of a long letter to my mother back in 1987. Since, I have dedicated it to fundamentalist Christians I've known over the years. (BTW - my mom and I have a great relationship today!)
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I have known I am gay since I was very young. I can't explain why or how. I can tell you that I didn't CHOOSE to be gay, but I came to realize that this is a part of who I am and I grew to accept it. I don't consider this to be "a lifestyle," because my sexual orientation is a tiny part of who I am as a person. It simply is. I don't obsess about your heterosexuality because it is a tiny part of who you are. I just don't spend much time on it.
Please don't misunderstand me. I know you think you are helping me. But when you read the Bible, you must always take into consideration who is speaking, to whom it is addressed and the purpose for which it was recorded. When you read Leviticus 18, the supposed prohibition against homosexuals in verse 22 should be kept in context with the rest of the chapter or the whole book of Leviticus: No pork, no lobster, no shrimp, no oysters, no eating rare meats. How about no *** during menstruation or calling for the killing of all divorced people who remarry? I do not know of even the most fundamentalist Christian who believes any of that other stuff!
In the New Testament, the references by Paul accompany his belief that woman should be veiled and that they should be silent in the church. It is also important to remember that the Bible was written in Hebrew (Old Testament) and Greek (New Testament) and that the words in your personal Bible depend on which translation you happen to have. It is also important to remember there is no record of Jesus mentioning homosexuality anywhere in the four gospels. He did say that we are not to judge each other and that we'll have to answer to God for how we treat each other (Matthew 7:1).
I'm not trying to make excuses or to make you feel bad or uncomfortable, but God will be the one who judges me. I am comfortable with that and I know He loves me as I am.
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Posted by singinrick at 01:04 PM
Do you know how many gay youths commit suicide because of your (position)?
Posted by CatsnHorses at 12:21 PM : Feb 19, 2007"
Better dead than gay!
Better suicide than gay!
Posted by Agnim at 01:00 P
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Rick, aAgnim, other nuts: Exodus ministries and other forms of conversion therapy have a very low sucess rate. And the reason is that sexuality IS innate. Our attraction is hardwired from before birth.
I will repeat, "When did you choose to be straight?" And the truth, of course, is that you didn't make a choice. It is the natural attraction for you. Just as my natural attraction is to other men. And it REALLY IS as simple as that!
I know that's hard for you to grasp, but it is the truth.
ANY OTHER QUESTIONS?
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