July 8, 2010 5:55 PM

A Ban On Family Values?

By
Brittney Andres
(The New Republic)  This column was written by Jonathan Cohn.
Dancer Peter Sparling isn't just another resident of this city; he's an institution. A graduate of Julliard and protégé of the legendary choreographer Martha Graham, Sparling left New York two decades ago to join the University of Michigan faculty. It was a homecoming of sorts for Sparling, who had grown up in nearby Detroit, and, once he returned, Sparling figured he was back for good.

In 1993, with the university's blessing, he established the Peter Sparling Dance Company — a troupe known nationally for its innovative performances and beloved locally for its popular children's dance classes. By late summer 2004, as he was celebrating his 20th year with the university and his 11th with the dance company, Sparling told the Detroit Free Press that "I've never felt more rooted to a place than I do right now to Michigan."

But today Sparling wonders whether he can stay, thanks to a decision handed down by a state appeals court two weeks ago. According to the decision, Michigan's 2004 law against gay marriage prohibits state-run institutions from extending spousal benefits to gay couples. And that's a big problem for Sparling, whose partner of 17 years is a self-employed visual artist who depends upon Sparling for health insurance. Given the couple's financial resources and his partner's health problems, Sparling says buying individual coverage for him will be virtually impossible. "We definitely want to stay — we've invested too much in this town," Sparling tells me in an interview. "But we would have to consider leaving if it were financially difficult."

Sparling isn't the only person entertaining such thoughts these days. Even before last week's decision, same-sex couples throughout the state were saying they might have to leave if the courts invalidated spousal benefits. To be sure, the prospect of so many gays and lesbians fleeing Michigan may not trouble the law's loudest proponents — a group of religious conservatives who see homosexuality as a sin anyway. But not everybody who voted to enact the 2004 amendment may welcome this development. If even a partial exodus of Michigan's gay and lesbian couples really does ensue, it's bound to impact the state the same way Sparling's departure would impact Ann Arbor — by expelling some of the citizenry's most valued and respected members.

Is this really what Michigan's voters wanted back in 2004, when they voted to pass the ban on same-sex marriage? It wouldn't seem so. According to an EPIC-MRA survey taken that July, while most state residents were against gay marriage per se, they thought committed partners in same-sex relationships deserved some of the same privileges as married couples — like the right to make medical decisions for one another, to inherit each other's property, and to share pensions and health benefits.

It's obvious that backers of the marriage ban understood this. During their 2004 campaign to enact the law, they said repeatedly they were merely out to stop marriage, not take away existing benefits. "Nothing that's on the books is going to change," one of the amendment's advocates told The Detroit News just a week before the vote. But — as critics warned at the time — the ban's wording was ambiguous: "The union of one man and one woman in marriage," it said, "shall be the only agreement recognized as a marriage or similar union for any purpose."

That left it open for broad interpretation. And it didn't take long before State Attorney General Mike Cox, a conservative Republican, took advantage of the situation. In early 2005, he issued an opinion barring state employers from offering spousal benefits to same-sex couples. The American Civil Liberties Union sued, along with 21 gay and lesbian couples in Michigan, and, initially, a local judge sided with the plaintiffs. But then the appellate court reversed the lower judge's ruling. With the state Supreme Court unlikely to overrule, the state's public employers began notifying employers that spousal benefits would likely end within the year.

Nobody knows exactly how many people will be affected, but, overall, Michigan has some 15,200 same-sex couples, according to the latest census figures. Statewide, 70 large public and private employers offer spousal benefits to same-sex couples. (The ban doesn't affect private employers, but some experts worry they'll stop offering benefits too — since they will no longer have to worry about competing against so many employers who do.)

The question, then, is what happens next — and not just in Michigan. More than half the states have laws prohibiting same-sex marriage, with litigation over spousal benefits pending in two. Most of these laws were passed, via the legislature or the ballot box, shortly after a Massachusetts court ruled in early 2004 that it was unconstitutional to deny gay couples the right to marry. That decision was a classic example of the kind of overreach that got liberals into so much political trouble over issues like race and sexuality in the 1960s, '70s, and '80s — instances in which the courts attempted to establish rights that the public had not yet come to recognize on its own, thereby provoking a political backlash. (Among other things, that 2004 Massachusetts decision teed up the gay marriage issue for the Bush re-election campaign.)

But now conservatives may be the ones over-reaching — not just by disrupting communities but also by denigrating the very ideal they claim to cherish most: family values. After all, many of the couples that stand to lose spousal benefits have been together for decades, which is more than can be said for many heterosexual marriages, including certain celebrity ones. "Britney Spears goes to Las Vegas, and she has more legal rights the second all the signatures go on the certificate than couples that have been married for 20, 30, or 40 years," notes Dawn Wolfe, spokeswoman for the Triangle Foundation, a Michigan gay rights organization. "What kind of Christian ideal is served by that?"

Not only are the members of these same-sex couples committed to each other. Many are also loving — and conspicuously devoted — parents. One well-publicized case involves Dennis and Tom Patrick, of neighboring Ypsilanti, who are raising four children. Because the oldest, a 9-year-old, requires special care and medical attention, Tom stopped working full-time in order to take care of him — taking health benefits through Dennis' employer, Eastern Michigan University (EMU). As a public university, EMU has to end spousal benefits under the prevailing ruling. And while Tom could always get benefits by returning to work full-time, he'd then have to leave care of the boy to somebody else. "I don't believe voters intended to hurt families and kids," Dennis told The Detroit News a year after the law first passed. "Our families exist, and no proposal or law is going to change [that]."

Of course, many conservatives in Michigan and around the country would reject that premise. The whole point of their crusade against same-sex marriage is to de-legitimize gay couples as families. But public opinion is moving in precisely the opposite direction: Americans have grown more tolerant — not less — of homosexuality over time. According to a recent Gallup-USA Today poll, 54 percent of Americans now consider homosexuality acceptable, the highest percentage that survey ever recorded. And each succeeding generation is proving more tolerant than the last: While only 36 percent of people older than 80 think it's acceptable, 62 percent of 18-to-29-year-olds do.

That does not mean a backlash against conservatives over gay rights is imminent, naturally, but it does suggest one could happen in the future. The harder conservatives try to roll back those gains, the more they will alienate even middle-of-the-road, heterosexual Americans who have come to know members of same-sex couples as friends and neighbors, teachers and care-givers, artists and leaders.

For the residents of Ann Arbor — who, unlike their counterparts statewide, voted against the marriage ban — it's just too bad a mass backlash against the right couldn't start right away. Then maybe they wouldn't face the prospect they do now: losing people like Peter Sparling and everything they add to the community.


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by taddles-2009 February 18, 2007 5:13 AM EST
"but yea i agree you are what you are, all i ask is that it stays in your household and out of the view of the public by means of television, news, and any other method in which openly gay people share their ideas and spread their gay ways...
Posted by anopinion1 at 05:00 PM : Feb 16, 2007"

Spread their gay ways? like a virus or maybe wityh a pamphlet entitled "you too can become queer in only 5 easy steps". You seem a bit worried that you might catch the GAY bug...have you been sitting on any toilet seats that other men have sat on....I sure that's where you picked it up.

Don't worry anopinion1, women certainly wouldn't have *** with you...why would men.
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by taddles-2009 February 18, 2007 5:07 AM EST
"What does it mean they left the natural uses of a woman? What does MEN with MEN mean?
Posted by robjk1 at 05:21 PM : Feb 16, 2007"

It means that they were performing pagan rituals with male and female temple prostitutes which was an unnatural act because it was a pagan act not a Christian act. The passage is about performing PAGAN acts which included a whole pantheon of acts that were banned. You want to use the literal passage to mean homosexual acts were unnatural rather than the historically correct understanding of the passage to mean that pagan acts were unnatural. But that doesn't support your bigotry so why bother to read it in it's correct historical context, just read it the way it suits your present world view best. For that matter, why bother reading and interpreting the constitution in it's historical context, we should all read it literally and not allow women to vote or blacks or anyone who doesn't own land. If your going to be literal with the bible then make sure you stone to death the next adulterer you see. Oh, and make sure you kill all the football players, they've touched a dead pigs skin.
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by taddles-2009 February 18, 2007 4:58 AM EST
"and the insults keep flying... point proven. You may need some anger management my friend. Now you go and have a lovely day.
Posted by katg21 at 09:18 PM : Feb 16, 2007"

And the ignorance keeps flying....point proven. You need to read a book, get a clue, get a life and grow a minuscule amount of compassion for your fellow man. Now go f**k yourself in the words of your pathetic idol.
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by hsmagst February 18, 2007 3:50 AM EST
To roger3815: You don't have a "RIGHT" to medical insurance......its a benefit given by a company to an employee and as such, is basically a purchased item. Work and in some cases money, is exchanged for the benefit. Thankfully here in the US we do not have forced medical care such as Canada or Great Britian. I worked for a company for 30 years and retired with medical but I know that the company can take it away at any time.....its no big deal to me and I accept the possibility. The notion that somehow you are "Entitled" to that insurance goes along with all the other mentality that says "I'm owed it" that pollutes this country.
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by roger3815 February 17, 2007 6:15 PM EST
To hsmagst:
First, no one homosexual drown anyone's children in the bathtub and that comparison is absurd at best. The Texas lady who did that, as I recall, did it to save them from Satan and was a devout Christian...if I used your logic that would explain much about the Christians. Second, how is taking away someone's health care not direct harm? Third, the idea that I have to accept your version of Christianity or your silly "lifestyle" is not biblical nor is NORMAL. Not too mention, how that convoluted hate the sin but love the sinner *** sounds...translation: I don't hate you just everything about you. Let me put it into perspective for you. I don't hate you just your religious beliefs. Oh, why bother, you'll never get it.
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by hsmagst February 17, 2007 3:02 AM EST
To roger3815: You said: Of course, I guess that's the Christian way. I hate you and your lifestyle so that gives me the right to ruin your life...how Christian.

Actually, Christians are told to hate the sin, love the sinner. That does not include total acceptance of those things most people find to be sinful, twisted, or abhorrent. We, as everyone, have the right to dislike someone%u2019s actions. We just don't have the right to do active harm to someone different. Its ok to respect a person for whom they are but that doesn't mean I have to like the neighbor lady%u2019s actions when she drowned her daughter in the bathtub. Even Jesus went on a rampage in the temple and overturned the merchants and moneychangers tables as he saw it as an affront to the sanctity of the church and its purpose. The idea that all Christians are supposed to accept the gay lifestyle is not Biblical nor is it the norm.
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by hsmagst February 17, 2007 1:32 AM EST
To knyghtwolf: You said "Should it not be up to the INDIVIDUAL themselves as to what is right for that particular individual?"

Where would you draw the line? What if I wanted to be married to 6 women and live in a family neighborhood. Wouldn't I be sending a message that most familys would find repulsive? Don't they have the right to raise their familys without that influence? How about if I had swinging/bondage parties and didn't police it very well and kids were exposed? Should I be allowed to invite my crack smoking friends over to party on the front lawn? Sometimes, the right of the norm outweigh the rights of those that live a different lifestyle. And as to right or wrong, nothing in this world can be so relative as to be CORRECT while being diametrically opposed.....both points of view can be wrong but not both right.

My personal view is that homosexual relationships are against nature, at least from a biological perspective. The prime imperrative for a specieas is reproduction, so the species survives. The human S3x organs are designed for that and as such, are "designed" to be used in a set way. To use them otherwise, such as male on male, goes against the designed function of the plumbing. It may feel good to some but isn't the natural function......sort of like a framing hammer is designed to drive nails but can be used to kill someone.......not the designers intention.
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by katg21 February 17, 2007 12:18 AM EST
"Oh please, your self righteous garbage is pathetic at best. The kings of insult are and have been your neo-con idols...Rush, Bill, Cheney, Rove. You right wing scum bags don't deserve inteligent discourse any more than a 4 year old does."

"And you're a sad pathetic moron. It is still a fact, whether a left wing or right wing media outlet posted it, that your nut job Attorney General has used the loose wording of the referendum, that you narrow minded bigots pushed through, to take away what few benefits gay couples had."
Posted by taddles at 10:44 AM : Feb 16, 2007


and the insults keep flying... point proven. You may need some anger management my friend. Now you go and have a lovely day.
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by scott4261 February 16, 2007 9:12 PM EST
Scott4261
when i got hard looking at your mom

Posted by anopinion1 at 04:47 PM

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*That's really grown up man. Your mother must be very proud!

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...you are what you are, all i ask is that it stays in your household and out of the view of the public by means of television, news, and any other method in which openly gay people share their ideas and spread their gay ways...

Posted by anopinion1 at 05:00 PM

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In other words, "Go back into the closet where you belong!"

Sorry, man. Closets are for clothes and I burst that door down over 20 years ago. You don't have to be comfortable with who I am. I really don't care what you think. And if you choose to hate me, that's your problem. Only God will judge me for my life and I'm comfortable with that. So it is really not your concern.
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by robjk1-2009 February 16, 2007 8:21 PM EST
One more time fro taddles:


27 And likewise also the men , leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; MEN with MEN working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
KJV

What does it mean they left the natural uses of a woman? What does MEN with MEN mean?
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