Gifts For Your Helpers And Others

(CBS)  Holiday time also can be a perplexing time when you get solicitations or "friendly reminders" for those holiday tips. But who deserves that extra token of thanks, and what do you give them?

Kris Connell of Real Simple magazine rode to the rescue on The Early Show with guidelines and suggestions.

Assistant. You should give a gift to your assistant rather than a monetary tip, perhaps a gift or a gift card of $50 or more. The value should reflect your position in the company as well as how long the assistant has been with you. Avoid perfume or clothing.

Babysitter/nanny. Either a tip or a gift is OK here. For a regular babysitter, consider cash or a gift equal to one or two nights' pay. For a nanny, give one to two weeks' pay plus a gift. Give a gift that she wouldn't buy for herself (like a nice purse).

Boss. It's not necessary to give your boss a gift, but if you do, keep it small and simple (less than $50). Give a group gift if you can. Then it's a token of appreciation and not seen as a bribe.

Dog walker. Either a tip or a gift is appropriate here. It should be equal to one week's service. Tips are more common, but a nice vest for chilly days is also a good way to go. Another idea is a gift card for a pedicure/manicure because this job can be tough on the feet and the hands.

Hairstylist, salon staff, manicurist. Either a tip or a gift. If you're an infrequent guest getting a holiday trip, just double your regular tip. If you're a regular client, give a tip or a gift equal to one visit. If your stylist is a friend, give a more personal gift.

Letter carrier. You're not expected to give anything, but a small gift or a gift card around $20 is a good way to go. Remember that U.S. postal carriers cannot accept cash or checks in any amount or gifts worth over $20. FedEx doesn't allow cash or gifts more than $75. UPS does not have a policy on tips.

Teacher. A handwritten note along with a small gift costing less than $25. The national PTA interviewed teachers and found that thank-you notes ranked as their favorite gift; edible treats ranked last. Gift cards for coffee shops or bookstores also rated well.

WHAT NOT TO GIVE:

Foil-wrapped poinsettias

Fattening foods, unless someone asks you for your homemade brownies.

Scented candles, lotions or soaps. Opt for unscented unless you know that person loves a particular fragrance.

Alcohol. When in doubt, avoid it.

Cards with religious messages.

Gift certificates that carry restriction.

[joanjordan]

I have been a teacher for 33 years. Yes, I like written notes but do not limit gifts to any amount. I do not get a Christmas bonus ever. Who is more important in a child's life than their parents and then their teachers? Monetary gifts would be wonderful and in a much greater amount that what you have mentioned in your article.