WASHINGTON, June 29, 2006
The Lonely States Of America
CBS' Meyer On A Sociology That Should Scare You
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(AP)
Don't let yourself be numbed by the numbers because they tell a dramatic story even though there are no victims, tears or sound bites.
The bottom line: "The number of people who have someone to talk to about matters that are important to them has declined dramatically… we have gone from a quarter of the American population being isolated … to almost half of the populations falling into that category."
Stop and think about that for a second. Almost half the people around you have at most one person they feel they can talk to about what is most important to them. Seems like a pretty lousy social system we've got going here, doesn't it?
Does this cold statistical portrait comport with your own experience of the world and the people you are acquainted with? My first gut answer was "no." But when I thought about it harder, the answer changed. There are people who I think are frighteningly isolated even in my company, my small neighborhood, my extended family and the community based around my kids' school — and these are all social networks by definition. The most isolated, of course, I wouldn't even come across much.
The authors were even more surprised at the findings and looked for every possible reason why the results could be wrong. They explored whether people have different notions of the word "discuss" or "important" than they did 20 years ago. They looked for technical problems in the survey. But the news stayed bad.
So what explains this seismic social thud?
The paper eliminates a couple suspects. It is not caused by great geographic mobility — the corporate nomad syndrome. It is not caused by employment rates. It does not correlate with increased television watching. Most importantly, it is not caused by the demographic facts that the population is aging and more ethnically diverse; if it were, those trends would have been countered by the increased educational levels since 1985, since education leads to larger networks.
That means the answers will be deep and complicated.
Though they are mostly into documenting not explaining, the authors do put out a couple of hypotheses. The main culprits are work time and commutes. Both have increased since 1985 and both take time away from families, friends and voluntary participation. As women entered the workforce in bulk, the total number of hours family members spent working outside the home went way up. As people fled the cities, suburbs and exurbs boomed and so did commute times.
This especially affects "middle-aged, better-educated, higher-income families." As the paper points out, these are exactly the people who build neighborhoods and volunteer groups and those are the social structures that have most atrophied in the past 20 years.
The more speculative hypothesis is that perhaps new communications technologies have led to people forming wider, but weaker social ties that are less dependent on geography. E-mail and cheap phone calling have made it easier to stay in frequent, sometimes constant touch with lots of people, no matter where they are.
These weak ties are different than the confidant ties that this study measures, but the authors are open to the idea that a network of weaker ties can provide equally meaningful, but different, social support (a view supported by a quantitative study done by two university of Toronto sociologists for the Pew Internet & American Life Project). But they do point out the obvious: "some services and emotional support" do depend on proximity.
Certainly, it's hard to escape complaints about the busy-ness and time-stress of life these days; it's an obvious, bad problem. For most people I know, it is exacerbated by the technology that is meant to make it easier for us to communicate and stay connected. Instead of feeling in touch, many feel on a leash. Portable, gadget driven communication doesn't count as soul-feeding bonding for many people I know, but is rather a cruel mockery.
I do suspect that this study overlooks one simple contributing factor, the decline of real geographic communities — places where people grow up where their parents grew up, where non-nuclear relatives live near by, where friendships and acquaintances go across generations.
Explaining social isolation will be controversial, but not as difficult as repairing it.
In primitive and survival-dependent societies, social isolation was basically impossible. But modern societies have never been without chronic existential worries about isolation and loneliness; it is one of the defining marks of modernity. Literary and philosophic examinations of American souls and social life began with the very first American books, like Ben Franklin's autobiography.
Looking at these issues empirically is a different matter. Social statistics aren't the stuff of teen angst, novels and high culture. But the story they tell is just as disturbing and just as hard for society to accept. Recent social science research, for example, about the decline of civic engagement and community participation has been exceedingly controversial and contested. There are even larger objections to the idea that "social science" can ever get a handle on these kinds of issues in a way that is at all scientific.
It is hard to believe and accept that we live in a society where one person in four feels they don't have someone to confide in. It's depressing and even somewhat terrifying. We can, of course, ignore it all and choose to keep on smoking.
Dick Meyer is the editorial director of CBSNews.com.
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