May 9, 2006

Online Flirtation Takes Dangerous Turn

Teenage Girl Met Assailant On Social Networking Site

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(CBS)  "Parents are clueless. They're more clueless now than they ever were. And I'm sympathetic about that because the technologies are hitting us right and left," says Parry Aftab, executive director of WiredSafety.org.

Ashley's online and offline reality became muddled and she found herself infatuated with 21-year-old guy, Devin Bacciagalupo, whom she had never actually met.

"We told her to stop it, to get off of the computer, to quit doing this," says Ashley's father, Wallace Martin. "It's a waste of time. This is a fantasy thing. It is not healthy. It's not good. She would stay up a couple of nights with her homework, two or three nights. She could hardly stay awake at school the next day, because of … with this guy."

Ashley's personal details gave Devin clues of how he could get to her. "I was like, 'Hey he seems pretty nice, he knows what I am going through,' " Ashley recalls.

She admits Devin said all the right things and he was soon pressing Ashley for a meeting. One night, she said yes.

Devin met her in the trailer by the side of her house that Ashley had made into her own little hangout. And then she says it happened.

"He took advantage of the situation," she says. "And when I said no, it didn't matter. I was like, 'No, get up, get off, I want to leave.' Then it was just, 'No.' He was like, 'No, you're not leaving.' So, I'm like, 'What do I do? Do I scream? Do I wake my parents up? Do they come out here and, you know, what the hell do I do? What do I do?' It hurts and I don't know what to do and I'm like all torn up but I guess that's what everybody does."

The next day, crushed and violated. Ashley found out that Devin had also seduced several of her friends online. Finally, Ashley went to her parents and the police.

Seven months later, Devin was convicted of statutory rape and will serve three years in state prison.

"He is a monster," says Ashley's father. "He's a predatory monster, especially to go after children in this age group, who don't have the mental capability to make a distinction between reality and fantasy."

"Lots of the kids have fallen for someone they met online," says Aftab. "And then not only are they sexually molested, their heart is broken. And, frankly, I don't know which is worse."

Ashley was very brave about going public with her story. She did it to get the message out there to other kids. MySpace declined The Early Show's request for an interview but says they are doing everything they can to keep kids safe.

What can parents do to help their kids stay out of trouble?

Experts say, first, get the computer out of the bedroom. Next, tell them you want to look at their site and give them a day to clean it up. And realize that puppy love can be even more intense online.


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