If your baby often calms at your touch and at the sound of your voice it means you've got a good relationship with your child. Newborns do cry a lot. Your voice was the soundtrack to their time in the womb so it should be something that generally draws their attention. Hearing your voice, being wrapped and carried and feeling your body heat all mimic their peaceful time in the womb. Being calmed by your presence is the first step in bonding with you and a clear sign that she's developing emotionally.
If your changing 8-10 wet diapers a day, and your baby gains weight at every well-baby visit he's getting enough milk and growing at a healthy rate, even if how much he drinks changes day by day. It's important to keep your well baby visits so the pediatrician can assess whether your baby is growing. In between trips to the doctor, wet diapers are the best sign he's drinking well. Trust these indicators rather than obsessing over how much he consumes at each meal. Babies don't eat the same amount every day, or even every feeding. The important thing is that weigh increases over time.
If your baby turns toward a new sound and quiets down when music plays that means you're his hearing is developing and he's using his brain to discern sounds. Babies are able to hear from birth, but it takes a few weeks for them to be able to filter out the white noise of daily existence outside the womb. The idea that some sounds are more interesting than others develops over time. The sound of music, especially,will eventually get a baby's attention.
If for at least a few short stints a day, your baby is quiet and attentive it means she's observing the world and starting to learn. Feeding, sleeping and crying will make up the majority of your baby's first weeks. It's not until your baby begins gaining control of her eye muscles and focusing on a target that you'll get a sense of what a little sponge you have on your hands. swhen infants are quiet and alert, they're taking note of everything around them and processing new information. Babies begin having more awake time when they're about 1 month old. That's when they settle down and soak in more visual cues.
If your baby starts to cry a little less and sleep a little bit more regularly this means his nervous system is maturing. Look for the emergence of several naps a day and stretches of four or more hours between feddings at night. Some babies get there fast while others won't until they're four months or more hours between feddings at night. If your baby is older than that and still sleeping unpredictably, try making his days more tightly scheduled.
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Jessica Hartshorn & Erika Wortham